have told me the reason I am single is because I'm not needy enough....

I don't need rescued, and I scare them with my independance...

No wonder I am single... Guess I'll stay that way.

I've never been outright told that (yet) but I'm thinking that's the same reason I'm still single as well. Time will tell I suppose if I can find the man who is comfortable with me being me.

I disagree. The thing that really attracted me to my wife many years ago was that she was very indepent and had her act together.

What I've found is that a man who says "I want an independant woman" really means "I want an independant woman IF she agrees with me"

No offense, I don't know you well enough to make an assumption about you specifically....

So there is hope thanks!

I disagree also. I have found that most men appreciate the fact that i am independent, that im not needy

Maybe there is a certain vulnerability that they like also but they all know that i don't necessarily need a man around- i just enjoy them around.

You just have not met a man who can handle a strong, independent woman. Being single is great fun so as long as you are enjoying yourself and you are happy- so what!!!!!

You disagree with what my friends have told me about myself...hhhmmm interesting.

I have been told similar Lily, also that I am have too strong of a character vs an appealing weak character

Guess I'll stay single and happy too

I'll be single with you Fran...

Not sure what you mean by "IF she agrees with me". I would not want to have a partner that thinks exactly as I do. How boring would that conversation be?

That's why I said i wouldn't make that same assumption about you...

I agree and appreciate independent women that are "not needy" and as far as the certain vulnerablity that I like.....I can satisfy that by being the one who squishes the bug and saves you.

marry me??....well, how about we just start a mutual admiration society for "uppity women ???

I got told that I am to shy when I should step up. I am to flirty and cant be taken seriously and my favorite one... I like sex to much. WTF.... guess I will stay single too.

whats wrong with bringing home the bacon and frying it up in a pan

we men love bacon

I like turtles

i read an interesting article in the toronto star a couple of weeks ago. i suppose i could google it if anyone were interested.

it talked about the difference between being inter-dependent and co-depenedent, within a relationship.

i don't mind making myself vulnerable to another and admitting my need for him. not only can't i do everything on my own, but neither do i want to.

i think there's a big difference between being clingy and need.

i have an extremely strong character too, haha, but that doesn't mean there isn't a man who is just as strong, if not stronger than me, who can deal with that without being intimidated.

I already admire you....

I must practice dropping my hankie........

but then I'd pick it up for you, and that's not exactly what you are looking for either....