Well. I dated a guy for 7 months and then we broke up. It was a great 7 months. He treated my daughter very well and was there for me during a very hard time( My brother fell from a ladder and shattered the heal bones of both feet). He opens doors is very polite and is responsible. At the time of our break up(9/11/07) he said he was not looking for the same thingI was because his divorce was just final weeks before we started dating. He told me that he knew I was an awesome girl and that when he was ready for a relationship he would call me. (Feeling like a puppet, but I love him) Through out this year he has emailed me making sure my daughter was doing well. He has started texting for a bout 2-3 weeks off and on. Then Saturday night he calls and begs me to come over. Against my better judgement I go. My daughters movie was still on the dvd player where she left it and random other things I bought for him were still inthe same places. We talked for a while and then when it was time to go he asked me to stay. I left anyway. I asked him if he was ready and he said he was not sure. I am ok with going at a slow pace I dont want things to get complicated but I want him back in my life. Am I crazy? Am I setting myself up for failure? Please leave your advice. Thanks!!

use your best conscious and you will do good...he sounds like somethin you like!

He has awesome qualities... and most of all he TREATS MY DAUGHTER RIGHT!!
I am just worried he might not really be ready and I am scared to get hurt by the same man again!

No, you're not crazy. He was, I suppose, being honest with you the first time, since you say he said he was newly divorced. I believe everyone should take some time before getting into another relationship, so maybe at the time he was doing you a favor. It looks as if he's being honest with you again when you asked if he was ready and he said he didn't know. Just do like you said you didn't mind doing..."take it slow".

don't do anything until u are really sure.
do u want to get hurt again?
dont just settle because u want someone... make sure it's him u want.
be careful

well its not sounding like he wants to lead you on...just tryin to protect you from any foul emotions he might be having...i do the same thing and its prolly for the best some times...sounds like he has a fair head on his shoulers

He sounds like a wonderful guy,
and it sounds like he is being honest with you.
It's obvious he's still interested in you and perhaps WANTS to begin again...but maybe is afraid to.
My advice...be there for him as he was with you. When it's time....you'll know. and you'll be happy you didn't push.

Thanks for all the advice.
I will take things as slowly as he needs. I have never been 1 to smother but I am afraid if I give him too much space he will think I am not interested..
I dont want him to feel pressured or him to think I am not wanting to try.
I just need a happy medium.

He is going to NY for 1 of the last games at Yankee stadium this week. We have plans for dinner the Friday after he comes back and after wards going to play pool or something.
I think this will give me the time I need to process all this and be able to take it 1 day at a time.

karma can be wonderful as well as miserable...

oh i completely agree...but it does add an element of heightened senses

i pretty well try and steer clear anymore...nothing begets nothing

He's good to you and good to your daughter. Obviously, you have strong feelings for him.

Yes, he was going through a divorce the first time around, and because of that... wasn't too sure of what he wanted. I believe now that he has had time to clear his head, he is figuring out what he wants. Give him a chance. Be with him when he wants you there and allow him a little bit of space to think... maybe about |<-->| that much space... LOL!!! Seriously, give it time, and it may just work out.

I wish you all the best, and remember if it's meant to be, it's because God made it so.

Ok, I will play the devil's advocate.

I know only one side but this sounds like... The grass is greener syndrome. Yet... he is struggling to find the greener grass... and is now lonely. What do you do when you are lonely? Go back to a comfortable place at which to restart your search.

Be true to you... the rest will work itself out.

JP

No..I am not thinking so, granted it is another side. However that card in this instance can only be played on my side.
He has it all.
Girls chase him all the time. He could have whom ever he wanted. he drives a chick magnet and owns a loft in downtown.

I think if that was the case he would not have waited a year.
but I am willing to risk it if it is true.

I am a strong believer in God and am leaving it all in his hands!