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Topic: 40s and never married.
CaliFreak Joined Mon 06/23/08 Posts: 224	Wed 09/03/08 09:53 PM
I took a detour and got lost. Wasn't smart enough to ask for directions

CaliFreak Joined Mon 06/23/08 Posts: 224	Wed 09/03/08 09:54 PM
dont think i ever talked to you, and you wouldnt even be part of this equation , you were married. lol True enough, but I would hardly call THAT a commitment. A mistake, maybe; a delusion, sure, but a commitment? Nah, that's a bit of a stretch....! bitter much? sorry to hear that, all women are not bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BobbyJ Joined Fri 02/22/08 Posts: 1368	Wed 09/03/08 09:59 PM Edited by BobbyJ on Wed 09/03/08 09:59 PM
The same of what I said about men is true about women who are over 40 never having been married, no live-in relationship and no kids. I've met a few of them while dating. Sorry to say, they have no idea what a committed relationship is all about, especially when it comes to kids. I'll take a divorced woman with kids everytime!

Voluptuous Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 1203	Wed 09/03/08 10:02 PM
...For most men and women that got to 40 without having child or being married I would think they got so caught up living their single life they developed a single mind set so they couldn't function with another and their relationships were short lived. ...They might have been so career driven, they thought they didn't have time for a love or family... Now more than likely they want what they passed up more than ever. ...And then there are those that WASTED their time in a relationship that they thought would be temporary yet ended up consuming MOST of their time. Immediate example: A 25 year old dating someone 15-30 years his senior. JMO

Hajimemashite Joined Thu 08/28/08 Posts: 4031	Fri 09/12/08 09:18 AM
Well lets see i was with her for 15 years . I did ask her to Mary me and even got the ring . But told her Collage and her work came first Now hear comes the good part she cheated I left because i lost trust and believe If they do it one time they will do it again Because people don't change they can only do That for them self's Not for you This would just kill them No i am just one very picky person And looking for what i want is Not going to be easy but i am not Wasting any one else's time And right now i choose to be signal It's my choice and i am happy with the one i made

IMAGR81 Joined Mon 08/18/08 Posts: 1443	Fri 09/12/08 09:23 AM
why is there so many men out there, in there 40's never married and no kids, its kind of weird to me to speak to these men. what the hell is wrong with them? lol Wrong with them? They're freaking geniuses, if you ask me.... Agreed. sigh, i just cant see jumping into a relationship with anyone how never commited to anything in there life, genius? I love my kids!!!! Just because someone never got married or didn't have kids, that doesn't mean they never committed to anything in their lives -- !! There are other things in life -- !! I see it as "preventative medicine." I have never smoked a cigarette in my life -- lung cancer runs in my family, so why risk a problem when I can almost certainly reduce the chances considerably, simply by NOT doing something that really would make no sense for me to do in the first place, anyway? I've been married, and I wish I hadn't been. I would certainly never do it again. And I never had kids, but I knew from an early age that I would never want any. Does that mean I've never committed to anything? Hardly....people who know me would say quite the opposite.... Thank you, as always this is well spoken. Just because someone hasnt done something doesnt mean that everyone should judge it. I know my best friend has been with her man for almost 20 years no marriage... they are happy as can be. What is good for one goose may not be anothers gander.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 09/12/08 09:27 AM
Why is something wrong with them? I'm just turning 30 and I've had people ask me what's wrong with me since I've never been married and have no kids. Seeing as most of my friends are not married, or are just starting to get married and have kids, I found that kind of weird for people to say.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Fri 09/12/08 09:35 AM
Bacheloritis......a disease.....not sure what causes it but I doubt it can be cured. They dont know how to share, they dont like to share the covers....its all about them!!

Riding_Dubz Joined Wed 05/21/08 Posts: 22110	Fri 09/12/08 09:36 AM
Bacheloritis......a disease.....not sure what causes it but I doubt it can be cured. They dont know how to share, they dont like to share the covers....its all about them!! you got that to

IMAGR81 Joined Mon 08/18/08 Posts: 1443	Fri 09/12/08 09:37 AM
maybe the dont want covers and they dont want anyone else to have them....lol

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Fri 09/12/08 09:41 AM
Stay single kids. Marriage= Overrated!

IMAGR81 Joined Mon 08/18/08 Posts: 1443	Fri 09/12/08 09:54 AM Edited by IMAGR81 on Fri 09/12/08 09:54 AM
Not overrated, just not the end all be all.

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Fri 09/12/08 09:57 AM
Never Say "I do" after 3 glasses of wine!!!

kcubed Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 65	Fri 09/12/08 12:22 PM Edited by kcubed on Fri 09/12/08 12:22 PM
I find it interesting that those who haven't married for any # of reasons are considered failures while those who actually have failed consider themselves to be such superior relationship material.

120557 Joined Fri 11/16/07 Posts: 763	Fri 09/12/08 01:03 PM
why is there so many men out there, in there 40's never married and no kids, its kind of weird to me to speak to these men. what the hell is wrong with them? lol What is wrong with you. I am 50, married once, and wondering why I was stupid then. It was the wrong person. Don't know if I could put my trust into another one again. Maybe they like their life the way it is.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 09/12/08 01:05 PM Edited by RKISIT on Fri 09/12/08 01:16 PM
they never get married or have kids cause they r shooting blanks i think i killed this thread oooops

kojack Joined Mon 12/25/06 Posts: 16382	Fri 09/12/08 01:17 PM
You don t have to be married to be in a committed relationship. I for one was committed to someone for 5 years, we talked marriage but then she had to move to NC where she was originally from because was only school that could actually help her daughter succeed with her disabilities.

RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 16721	Fri 09/12/08 01:21 PM
You don t have to be married to be in a committed relationship. I for one was committed to someone for 5 years, we talked marriage but then she had to move to NC where she was originally from because was only school that could actually help her daughter succeed with her disabilities. hey my son liked the name you picked for the gopher turtle"gomer" thats its name now

kojack Joined Mon 12/25/06 Posts: 16382	Fri 09/12/08 01:27 PM
LOL glad i could help

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Fri 09/12/08 01:29 PM
I find it interesting that those who haven't married for any # of reasons are considered failures while those who actually have failed consider themselves to be such superior relationship material. True wisdom comes from learning from one's mistakes in life....