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The straw broke this camels back a long time ago.....
Im immune know..... |
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you will never speak to them again? there are a number of idiots... er... "people" (and i use the term lightly) who fit in this category. |
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I will go against the grain here and state..."YES, I would talk with someone who hurt me deeply" again, because I currently do and most assuredly have in my past/present.
While I could delve deeper into the topic of "forgiveness"...I'll hold steady, as that is not the topic at hand in this thread. However, I'll simply state to those who post "I'll forgive, but never forget" have truly not absorbed the true meaning of forgiveness. Now, back on topic... If I allowed someone...a friend/family member/lover/spouse...into my personal bubble space based upon a foundation of trust and respect at some point in my life, I would always afford that person a "listening ear". Clearly, they have earned this respect from me. Conversely, if the damage done is so hurtful that I need some time to contemplate/ponder/assess before we engage again on an intimate level, I will make that known to them and trust they will respect my request based on what they have learned about me over time spent with one another. However, if and only when, I have full and complete knowledge that this person whom I trust and love has now become what I term "toxic" in my life or to the lives of others I care about, then...YES...I will cut the cord on engaging with them on a personal level. It is quite the fine line in the sand to draw...no doubt. However, I always bear in mind and heart that where there is pain...there is love (depending upon the situation). However, experience has taught me nothing is worth sacrificing my own soul, as that is truly what I curl-up with at night...every night...always and forever. 
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The straw broke this camels back a long time ago..... Im immune know..... i dont think anyone is immune.... I dont want to be immune... |
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Edited by
quiet_2008
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Sat 08/30/08 09:20 PM
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I had an ex wife who I threw rocks at every time I saw her for the last 20 years. in the church parking lot even. Every time I saw her I threw rocks at her.
but her husband got killed in a train crash this summer so I had to give her a hug and tell her I would quit |
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The straw broke this camels back a long time ago..... Im immune know..... i dont think anyone is immune.... I dont want to be immune... IMMUNITY TO BEING HURT..... IS TO BE IMMORTAL.......... |
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Sometings can not be forgive
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Edited by
Mrtap
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Sat 08/30/08 09:23 PM
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Somethings can not be forgive
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you will never speak to them again? No, I don't think I could hold on to that kind of hate. |
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I had an ex wife who I threw rocks at every time I saw her for the last 20 years. in the church parking lot even. Every time I saw her I threw rocks at her. but her husband got killed in a train crash this summer so I had to give her a hug and tell her I would quit ^^^ SHUDDUP...You STONE-HER! 
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I am getting that way with a person I work with. It is working well as it promotes peace between us.
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The straw broke this camels back a long time ago..... Im immune know..... i dont think anyone is immune.... I dont want to be immune... IMMUNITY TO BEING HURT..... IS TO BE IMMORTAL.......... but we aren't immortal Johnboy...I don't even try to be...right now my heart has been torn in two...I have no shame...why should I ...I gave it my all...that is all I can do...why should I want to be immortal...I am human...humans hurt when a relationship dies. The only way to not prevent that is to not let one die...or not to have one. Sometimes we can't help but to let one die...but, not having one...is not living. 
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I shall remain immune......
until I feel safe not to..... |
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Sometings can not be forgive Sure they can...EVERYTHING can be forgiven...it's a matter of CHOICE. If you CHOOSE "not" to forgive...who do you think is the one tossing and turning at night with this decision? You or the "accused/condemned"? Hmmmm.....I wonder!  I suggest everyone choose carefully and wisely. 
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I shall remain immune...... until I feel safe not to..... you are never safe {{{{Johnboy}}}} |
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I will go against the grain here and state..."YES, I would talk with someone who hurt me deeply" again, because I currently do and most assuredly have in my past/present. While I could delve deeper into the topic of "forgiveness"...I'll hold steady, as that is not the topic at hand in this thread. However, I'll simply state to those who post "I'll forgive, but never forget" have truly not absorbed the true meaning of forgiveness. Now, back on topic... If I allowed someone...a friend/family member/lover/spouse...into my personal bubble space based upon a foundation of trust and respect at some point in my life, I would always afford that person a "listening ear". Clearly, they have earned this respect from me. Conversely, if the damage done is so hurtful that I need some time to contemplate/ponder/assess before we engage again on an intimate level, I will make that known to them and trust they will respect my request based on what they have learned about me over time spent with one another. However, if and only when, I have full and complete knowledge that this person whom I trust and love has now become what I term "toxic" in my life or to the lives of others I care about, then...YES...I will cut the cord on engaging with them on a personal level. It is quite the fine line in the sand to draw...no doubt. However, I always bear in mind and heart that where there is pain...there is love (depending upon the situation). However, experience has taught me nothing is worth sacrificing my own soul, as that is truly what I curl-up with at night...every night...always and forever. TOXIC= it's the point of being poisoned or refusing to be poisoned. I will NOT be treated with disrespect from anyone to the point that they make me feel that I am drowning in their toxicity. God loves me. It isn't going to happen.... and I am freeeeeeeee..... Face the truth and the truth will set you free. There is no hate, only freedom from toxicity. *tyvm silverjoy for helping me with the words.* |
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I will go against the grain here and state..."YES, I would talk with someone who hurt me deeply" again, because I currently do and most assuredly have in my past/present. While I could delve deeper into the topic of "forgiveness"...I'll hold steady, as that is not the topic at hand in this thread. However, I'll simply state to those who post "I'll forgive, but never forget" have truly not absorbed the true meaning of forgiveness. Now, back on topic... If I allowed someone...a friend/family member/lover/spouse...into my personal bubble space based upon a foundation of trust and respect at some point in my life, I would always afford that person a "listening ear". Clearly, they have earned this respect from me. Conversely, if the damage done is so hurtful that I need some time to contemplate/ponder/assess before we engage again on an intimate level, I will make that known to them and trust they will respect my request based on what they have learned about me over time spent with one another. However, if and only when, I have full and complete knowledge that this person whom I trust and love has now become what I term "toxic" in my life or to the lives of others I care about, then...YES...I will cut the cord on engaging with them on a personal level. It is quite the fine line in the sand to draw...no doubt. However, I always bear in mind and heart that where there is pain...there is love (depending upon the situation). However, experience has taught me nothing is worth sacrificing my own soul, as that is truly what I curl-up with at night...every night...always and forever. TOXIC= it's the point of being poisoned or refusing to be poisoned. I will NOT be treated with disrespect from anyone to the point that they make me feel that I am drowning in their toxicity. God loves me. It isn't going to happen.... and I am freeeeeeeee..... Face the truth and the truth will set you free. There is no hate, only freedom from toxicity. *tyvm silverjoy for helping me with the words.* Good advice
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Listen to your heart, Angel........
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Listen to your heart, Angel........ That's what got me into this... |
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Listen to your heart, Angel........ That's what got me into this...  Never let anyone bring you down........ Never let anyone change you or your values........ Life is like fish....... If it smells bad..... DONT EAT IT!!!!!! |
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