Another great post I agree with and it's your first so it comes with a welcome!

I am just flat freakin' amazed.

Thankful, but amazed.

I've never seen so much good thoughtful posting from ladies on such a critically important and relevant subject to this site...and condensed into such a short span of pages. It's like trying to sip a bullion cube of beef, for Pete's sake!

Justaguy, it's that monkey, all tied and gagged.
I know you've asked and asked, as yourself, but the gals want to talk to monkeys!

Thanks, for the thread, and also thanks for using the words in the context and atmosphere that is getting the women to speak up so well.

Just thanks.

Maybe the guy just wants to do you. And do you in many ways. And do the next hottie, and the next, and...keep at it until all his little brain cells fry out and finally he gets an ORIGINAL idea.
Original...like, 'Finally! Finally! Finally! Now, I've got a chance to have a meaningful life. Now, I need a partner, somebody important to me, every day and night, and we will always be there for each other. Somebody who just cannot get enough of me, who wants and grabs for sex all of the time, and distracts me from remembering whether anything else in life needs to matter. Because we've got each other, and the rest of life is just crap that has to be dealt with.'

oops.

well???

I want a friend, whom I respect and admire and who listens. One who has their own life and interests, but shares some with me while maintaining independence.

A sexual partner who has the same needs I do and one who works hard and plays hard.

I think in this, we all want the same things. A person who enriches our lives and doesn't try to change or fix us.

Look. Women and Men cannot be generalized into one big catagory of "we all want this". Sure, we all want to be loved, and to love someone. But that doesn't mean that every guy wants to settle down. If he is all about loving one woman this week, and then one woman next week, then so be it. He is who he is.

The problem is that most guys want to be the very thing that the girl the are with wants them to be. If you see a girl you like, and she is outgoing, very confident in her sexuality, likes rough sex, likes reading, likes the opera...and the guy really doesn't like all those things...he will still try to become the very thing that she wants. This is the major problem with alot of guys. We think that if we give that to a woman, then she will love us forever. And that is so not true.

Oh Goof, this is so true. I want a guy with other interests and passions and would be thrilled if he shared those with me. But football? I'll grab my book and you watch away.....

I think to respect and admire differences without trying to convert is KEY.

That is beautiful. Soothes the soul to read it.

If a person better individually than in union, is that a dilemma?

It's not a monkey. It's a teddy bear...but close enough...lmao

See. Nothing wrong with that. I get my football time, you read your book, halftime is fun time, then back to game and book. It's a beautiful thing.

Hmmmm. I'm not sure what you mean by that. The best thing I can answer is that if your partner does not make you both simultaneously feel like a wonderful human being and yet wanting to strive to be even better than you already are... then yes that it is a dilemma.

But not a tough one to solve. Because if they are not enriching your life that is a dealbreaker.

what everybody wants. kindness, sincerity, and strength in an equal partner. well matched.

I want a woman who writes down her erotic needs and mails them to me.

And they better come in an envelope requiring additional postage!

That is another thread, CB.... it cost a dollar, btw.

Go look in Sex & Dating....

woman want to receive compliments and be courted.

BUT .........

Don't say oh your so beautiful or can I do this n that to you, been done so many times it gets old.

Be genuine, respectful, tease them like in school, and you will be successful

Now THIS statement is one of the big things for me.

I want someone who doesn't make me feel like I shouldn't do the things I want to do just because she doesn't like to do them.

Example : I like to play golf. If she doesn't like to play, or doesn't particularly care to learn, that's fine. Just don't get mad at me for going anyway.

Exactly. Go take the walk and spoil it!

I'll watch HGTV and Food Network while you're gone.... then go have lunch with my BFF. Perfect....

Why does this not surprise me?

LOL. Golf is actually a lot of fun if you don't really take it seriously. There is nothing better than going out on the course with either my Dad and Brothers or a couple of friends and talking smack when they make a bad shot, Hell...the way WE play...there aren't very many good shots being made, so you can probably guess that it's a day long insult fest...lol

I like to be close to my loved one, but I have never been the type to tell them that they couldn't go somewhere or do something. As long as I know she'll be coming home to me, and be happy about it....go enjoy yourself...lol