I would never do that

*Kicks him in the balls*

He'll have a headache and will not walk either

This question has got to be a total joke. Tell me it is, right?

OOOOOOOOOO !!!

^5 to my brotha!!!

Hi5 Sis

I don't know maybe I see this in a different perspective because all my children are grown. I love my children beyond anything and will always be there for them if they need me. But I raised my children to be independant, self sufficient individuals. They are smart, and I respect thier decisions. So I would have no issue putting what would make me happy first. It doesn't mean I would cut my children out of my life, not at all. But children are meant to grow up and fly on thier own and parents should step back and just be a "safety" net.
Does this make me selfish? I don't think so. I love my children enough that I want them to follow thier dreams and they feel the same way about me. To put someone first doesn't mean I have to be in thier back pocket 24/7 location wise. Distance does not always equal neglect or being uncaring.

That was my first thought too Lilith!!

I couldnt believe that ANYONE would even consider the thought, let alone ask advice trying to get someone to say it would be ok

Exactly.

Sadly, we do know it happens. But I don't think most of those type folks are members of this site. At least, I'd rather not think that could possibly be true.

My daughter is grown as well and she is married with two kids, but that doesn't mean I have to choose between her and Tom. She has spread her wings and is settled so I am at the age where I am going to do what it takes for me to be happy. But that doesn't mean I am choosing Tom over my daughter.

Hi {{romeo}}

Several months ago, I had a discussion like this with a very dear friend. My friend is a man that has been married to his wife for nearly as long as I have been alive. Charlie said to me, "Patrick, a man will always suck hind tit when it comes to a woman and her children and that includes me"..

I know more than one woman that is single and unhappy. They are attached to their children at the hip and the "kids", are grown adults with kids of their own. One woman I know is so attached to her 25+ yo kids, she can only have an occasional fling.

The best thing my parents did for me was to "let go"..

The best thing I ever did for my daughter was to "let go". What a good life she has and 3 wonderful grandkids for me..

And she finally got rid of that "A"hole attorney she married..

The issue of adult children and dependent children.... that is not even in the same ballpark. JMO

nope i would never do that to my child, period.

Co-dependent children & "parents"????

No, children who are adults versus children who are dependents, i.e. you claim them on your taxes. College aged and under.

What kind of man would expect a woman to choose?

if you are questioning this maybe you should.... children need unconditional love too to question this is not unconditional

spoken like a true gentleman

Thank you! The thought is just totally absurd to me.