Wow it always helps to get a guy's perspective eh ladies? IAm .. you da bomb diggity

just speakin' the truth Fade

truth hurts and leaves you speechless.....I'm so great.Did I kill it? LOL. Think so.....take care all.Peace

no. You're assuming that all women are waiting around for you to do something? Or at least that's what I got from what you wrote... though it was a bit hard to read. If you have enough, why worry about what others are doing? I'm not sure who you are talking about when you say "thinking your gods gift" cause I certainly don't. And I doubt many people on here think that.

I think the problem is partly shyness, but also that you can see a profile pic in the forums but don't learn anything about the person without going to his/her profile.

So, when someone visits your profile, they see that you're 40 (which for someone 23 might seem ancient), they see that you're from PA (which is quite a distance from CA, for example), they see that you're looking for a man for friendship (and maybe they want to date or are looking for a relationship), they see that you're divorced with kids living at home (might be a deal-breaker for some), they see that you're an occasional smoker (I'm somewhat allergic to cigarette smoke, and others probably are too or just don't like to be with a smoker), etc.

Also, you say in your profile that the person viewing should understand the list of phrases related to "the business." But I imagine there are lots of people who have no idea what those things mean -- me being one of them, unfortunately (though I have a guess, but can't make sense of all the phrases). You tell people that if they aren't in the business, they're likely wasting their time and yours; that may be a reason for not contacting you as well.

So, while some people are just looking for online friends, a lot of people are probably looking for a date or a serious relationship and are looking for someone in their general area, someone close to their age, someone with similar habits, etc. I think that's probably all there is to it for most who view your profile but never make contact.

I don't care wether she has people IMing her or not.....Look you in particular are still pissed at me from along time ago still from the matchmaking thread...let's not get this twisted and secondly....this was her post not mine genius.

lol. not all people get along. no big deal. i'm certainly not pissed off about it.

I look. Mostly it's someone who I noticed posting to a thread I was following. Most times I won't contact. Sometimes I will. I have a friend on here that repeatedly tells me that all the women get tons of email, and that they ignore most of it. With that in mind, I will sometimes wait to see if I piqued enough interest for her to bother checking out my profile. Take it from there.

On the other hand, if someone looks at my profile I will often take a look at theirs. If I'm interested I'll contact them, nothing more to it than that.

I look at lots of profiles. Most of the people I see don't pique my interest. Am I still obligated to contact them? What should I say? "Hi, I looked at your profile and don't find you interesting"?

It doesn't mean you are old or ugly; it just means you are not what the person is looking for. I would not take that personally. Everyone has different things that they seek.

we men aren't as dumb and nieve as some think

Sometimes just to refresh in my mind who they are. I always wonder about the people I seldom or never see in the forums that perv me. The 23 yr old in Calif.???? WTF???
But thats just part of the game.
I don't mind.

well, sometimes when I look at a persons profile its before I reply to something they wrote in a thread, you know, just to get the gender, where they live, etc..right...

Could be anything, really. They might have even saw something they thought was a "deal-breaker", too. But you never know.

I check profiles because I'm interested in learning more about the people I'm 'talking' with on the forums. But if they're not local (who am I kidding, they're NEVER local) then I have to have a real reason to email them. And frankly I didn't pass your 'Do you know what these things mean' test. It says clearly that I'd probably be wasting your time. But I did read to the bottom, so I'm hoping I get the IQ points.

Apparently, not too many realized this was a humorous thread. My bad, for posting in the wrong place.

bunch of perverts

I always holla at you,

you never even acknowlege me,


not even on flirt with sweetandstrong day,

gave everyone a shout out but your boy,

Dubz, oh yes, I have but since you're feeling neglected.



I forgot a couple

Wow, I had no idea that looking at someones profile and not contacting them was a bad thing.

If I see a headline and photo that catches my eye, I look at the profile. True, I havn't contacted more than a few BECAUSE I see something like NASCAR fan, FOOTBALL FREAK, LOVES TO PARTY...and know that that person does not enjoy the same things that I do. Unlike most guys (that I know anyway), I'm not a hound and am really looking for someone that I think is compatible with me, and not everyone is, regardless of how beautiful you may be.

I could look at the ladies photo who started this thread and agree with everyone that she is exceptionally beautiful and well spoken, but don't take it wrong when thats not the only thing someone is seeking.

Try MY life sweetness, My ex loves me and every girl I've been with still calls me and visits when they can..because I AM a good, honest, loyal, caring man who is also strong and smart. I just happen to be bald..and nobody looks. lol

Im done. Guess I should put "talks too much" on my profile.