ok my ex and I have joint custody 2weeks/2weeks....
she hasnt seen them now in over a month......she needed time away......
she called me last night and told me she doesnt want the kids now til september.......it would be inconvenient to her right now!!!


yes my lawyer knows.......


I just cant believe anyone would think of their kids as an inconvenience.......
ok Im done sorry

thats horrible. how could anyone think that.

are you sure this is the right place for this kind of venting?

I am so sorry...inconvenient? That is heartbreaking...glad they have you....and vent all you want...that is why we are all here...to hold one another up

I know all about this, my ex only sees our 15 yr old maybe two or three times a year because the two of them argue all the time. Since he moved out of state, I only get to see our oldest if she is on-line or if her cousins go pick her up for vacations.

prolly not......
but do ya think I care????

Then what place would you suggest..

thats crazy. im sorry to hear that. i hope she knows that she is only hurting the kids.

I have told her this....but ...I am the bad guy.......
she just proves more and more that all she is after is the money!!!

Sorry Man, just try to keep those babies happy...I did for mine.

Then she should have to pay child support for the extra time she needs away from her children....

nope.....I can get a reduced rate but thats it......I told her since I have the kids 50% of the time.
when the kids are with me.....she matches the rate and put it into a 501k for a college fund for the kids.........yeah right!!!! what was I thinking

prolly not. (((((awolf)))))

If you have them more than 6 consecutive nights in a row (in michigan) you only have to pay half!

You need to crank up some killa reggae...

Aw'right! I'm in!

okay since we are getting some of the ex back we need to get mine back as well cause he was out of the kids lifes for 7 yeares came back for 2 and now out again
child support are you kidding?

this is where his friends are

Your right what was I thinking I raised 4 on my own no support noting but 2 jobs and I am perfectly happy with that.

Well I do understand were your coming from my ex very seldom picked up the kids and if he did it was only for the weekend. And at times only part of the weekend.

I know it is hard but.....in the end when the kids get older they will finally see who was always there when they needed someone.

It was many years later after my divorce that my son came out and said something to me. That made me glad that no matter what I stuck by them. Guess he was around 21 or so and we were talking. And he told me that he always knew that I loved him and said thank you mommy for always being there for me no matter what I did.

And in the next breath he said Daddy was never had the time.

Sad but true my kids love their Dad and I use to tell them all the time that their Dad loved them in his own way. Regardless what I thought of him I never told my kids that he did not love them. He just did not seem to find time or the need.

Some seem to think no matter what they are the parent and the kids will automatically love them no matter what.

But it don't happen that way. With Love you have to give it to receive it in return.

You have a reason to vent but.......it is her loss and your gain in the end. No matter how hard it may be through the years in raising them. I did mine for 16 years by myself no one lived with me but my kids I pretty much put my life on the back burner. I dated some but no one meet my kids till we had dated 2-3 months. It is not and easy road to take but,,,,,,in the end the rewards are far greater then one even realizes.

My kids are 23 & 25 now and very stable within their lives.

So kuddos for you for what your doing. Just remember the rewards in the end you will cherish ever minute you gave them as they will you for doing so.