So I was trying to cheer up, play some video games before I went for a jog, then I check my email. The ex wrote me, telling me how much of a ***** I was. Maybe she is right, maybe I am wimp, but it doesn't help having her make me feel like **** even when we aren't together, is she just gonna keep doing this, have a bad day, write me tell me how much of a wimp I am for crying when she left. For taking time before I get serious, for being angry about being lied to about everything this past year from, wanting to work things out to she isn't seeing anyone? I'll be glad when the divorce is over Oct. 1st. But how am I to attempt to get better having her hateful voice always popping up saying something hurtful enough to ring in my ears for days?

Dont allow her that power. Your divorce is over on my birthday from the date you posted. You are giving her power and she is using it against you because in all reality she is powerless and hurting too but too proud to admit it plus she is enjoying making you miserable. Take back that power and she soon will tire of doing it and give up.

you block her from emailing and contacting you. You simply don't have to be treated like that.

Immediately delete any txts, vm's or emails - don't read them - just delete them.

Don't answer the phone hon. Guaranteed to make you feel better...you might even miss a telemarketer or two.

Shhh! Did you hear that? Yep, peace and quiet.

you have to start focusing on your self worth...you are better than that...better than deserving that. Light a little fire inside of you...get a little p'd off. Don't stay there...you don't want to stay mad...just long enough to move past it. But you need to get your confidence back...give yourself a smack in the face. Again, can't force yourself to move through the emotions...almost like greif, they come with time. And remember, forgiving someone else is many times a gift you give to yourself. If you are able to forgive someone for the hurt they have caused you, it's really your freedom from the pain they have caused you...it's another gift that helps you to get over and move past.

A well placed car bomb would solve your problems

Bounce back, man.
You are the master of your own destiny!
Look at yourself in the mirror and with conviction tell yourself:
"You are INDESTRUCTIBLE"
We have all been there at one time or another, release the anger on a punching bag, or exercise machine.
Screw what she thinks of you, she wants you to be an a-hole then be an a-hole with dignity!
Find your center and get yourself up on your feet!
The best revenge is SUCCESS!

They are all telling you the truth...avoid all contact...as much as possible ....do NOT give her the satisfaction of knowing this is hurting you...it only gives her more ammunition .....I do hope you feel better soon about this...I know it takes a bit, but it does get better.

If you don't have children together....or stuff of hers to give back, you simply never have to speak to or see her again.

That's what restraining orders are for.



Or.....


I'll kick her a$$ for you for $5.

it's just so much easier to blame you for all that went wrong than place any of it on herself. She's a coward. Have more pride and love for yourself than to let her talk to you that way. You do not deserve it, in any way, shape, or form.

I'm going to set my profile to " Intimate Encounter"

My "ex" emails me almost daily as does his new gf sometimes...I dont even bother to reply to him anymore and its killing him, since he doesnt have that power.

I don't get why she thinks she can blame me, she cheated on me, she left me, she lied to me, all I did was get drunk and move away to get my head straight. I would stop talking to her, but I need tax info yet so I can get financial Aid for school, I need my stuff back yet, then after all that and the divorce, I am leaving no trace to be found, but she's like a dog, she knows my scent and tracks me down and tries to eat my soul. She is a demon dog that I wish I could put down.

Your giving her what she wants by getting mad. Besides you have all of us glorious friends to talk to

go on a date and go somewhere she'll see you...that would be GREAT. It's not in my nature to be vindictive but that might get her to leave u alone.

Eh...maybe that's a bad idea