WHY DO GUYS YOU MEET ONLINE OR ANYWHERE FOR THAT MATTER,GET ALL EXCITED
AND INTRESTED IN YOU THEN DROP OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH???

it's someone new and it's like when you date someone new, you don't know
anything about them so it is exciting and fresh.
just because they drop off the face of the earth doesn't necessarily
have anything to do with you but it doesn't always stay new and the more
you get to know about them the more you find out that although they are
a good person, there isn't that much in common or any chemistry. they
might just be busy and eventually get back

Well I can say the same thing for a few women. One I met in a chat room
we started calling and were talking about meeting in person. This was
right after the ex left and I was looking for a friend not a gf and she
was dealing with some heavy stuff as well. Next think I know she is no
longer in the chat room her email is bouncing emails and both her phones
were disconnected(home cell). I just hope she did not kill herself. If
so they kept it quite as it was not in the area wide papers. Then there
are a couple women from here that emailed me and I emailed them back. By
the second or 3rd email I never heard from them again. It is weird.

WELL I STIL DONT UNDERSTAND WHY I HAVE SO MUCH BAD LUCK IN THE LOVE
DEPARTMENT,IVE TAKEN ALL I CAN TAKE IM DONE.

i can understand taking a break but don't give up. i've had alot myself,
sorting through the stuff you don't want is part of the deal.

Panterafan, If I remember right you have health issues(heart). People
are affraid to get involved with people with disabilities and even more
so with someone who has serious health issues. My neice is single at
34(only 3 months older than me). She has had several heart attacks and a
long list of surgeries and health problems. Her last bf left because of
her health issues. He flat out told her he loved her but wanted someone
he could have a future with. It takes a special person willing to get
involved with someone in our cases. I can live a long life with my
disabilities but my neice could be dead right now. The doctors told her
she will be lucky to make it another couple years. She fights for life
to see her sons grown. She has not had a BF in about 2 years. The worse
your condition the harder it is to find someone that is willing to put
the emotional effort into a real relationship.

THEN I SHALL DIE ALONE

i know where u r comin from, i am feelin the same way rite now myself.
but then i get a message from some of the sweetest people and they cheer
me up for no reason. i still dont understand how some of them know when
i am in these moods but they always seem 2. when a guy fucks me over i
just have 2 look at the good i already have in my life and keep tellin
myself that someone is out there for everyone and one day we will all
find them or they find us.

IVE CAST MY HEART OUT O SEA...

I know the feeling....WILL

im right there with you on that paterafan.im fixing to do the same.if
you ever find out why guys do stupid shit like that let me know.

Pantera,
Some men are just assholes. Them dropping off the face of
the earth is life's way of opening a space in your life
for someone who is worth being with.

I REALY WISH I HAD THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION...IM THE TYPE OF PERSON
WHO WILL RESPOND TO EVERY EMAIL I GET.IM JUST REAL CONFUSED WHY GUYS DO
THIS,AND THANXFOR ALL THE ADVICE SO FAR

i don't think you should take it so personally panterafan. these are the
same kind of people that you have to deal with in life. i hope that you
can realize that not everyone is that way but some are and you move on
with your life without them.

alot of people like to date more than 1 person at a time. so thats
probably why they dont get back to you.

Excellent attitude Amacree...the sort that should be applied to life in
general. If we all looked at what we already have a little more as
opposed to what we don't have we would be much happier people...Myself
included.

I liked what you said...thanks for the reminder to be grateful for what
isn't missing in my life...

J

It sounds to me that it's not both of you that are in love. Maybe you're
assuming that he feels the same way you do. Exactly when do they fall of
the face of the earth? I'd see if there's a pattern and try to change
the behavior that causes the change. If you're trying to come across as
a cool, swingin chick, then don't be surprised if the guys treat you
that way.
Maybe you're coming across as clingy or needy and the guys in some
lifestyles don't deal well with that. As for the disability, I don't
think it would be a big problem as long as you're upfront about it.
That's not the kind of surprises that guys like.
I have a bad ticker and an implanted cardiac defibrillator and it hasn't
been a big detriment to dating, although I'm not really looking for a
long term relationship because of it. I feel I'm not really able to
bring what I should to a relationship so I choose to just date and enjoy
some companionship without involving someone in my issues.
I wish you the best of luck, but you must realize that SOMETHING has to
change for the results to change.

Doug

IM ALWAYS UP FRONT ABOUT MY HEART PROBLEM,THE PEOPLE THAT LOOK PAST THAT
ARE WEHAT I STICK WITH,IVE GAINED SOME GREAT FRIENDS FROM THIS ONLINE
DATING WORLD.BUT STILL NO MAN.ITS OK I DONT FEEL THE NEED TO DATE,WAY TO
CONFUSING,AND FRUSTRATING.
IVE DECIDED TO GET BACK TO ME
AND TRY TO SORT OUT MY LIFE FIRST

i think a lot of it is if we have sorted outself out.
if we're balanced and calm, everything will work itself out.

it's worked for me so far.

Andrew Wee
www.WhoIsAndrewWee.com

humm I feel your pain , because I been their more than once, I can
honestly say that we will never be able to understand how men think and
why they do the things they do....But life is to short honey so lived to
the fullest and don't worry sooner or later love will find
you.........if not is their lost not yours.