I been on this site for some time now,I have met a lot of wonderful
people that keep things real. Some of them are here just to make friends
and some are here to find someone to share there life with, but then
again you get the people that just like to flirt, and some
for sex. The list can go on, but what has got me curious is the people
that come on these sites. The ones that have not solved there past
relationship issues or at least come to an understanding with it and
move on.

My opinion on the unsloved issues is if your not ready for a
relationship why are you going to bring another person into your life
knowning the fact that you still feel for someone else. would it be fair
to say your being selfish and using the other person to get over the one
you have not let go? and why would you come to a site knowing that you
are not ready and can end up hurting that othere person?

Because they are bored, or they want to spread the drama

I think that there are some that believe they are ready but in reality are not. As for the rest Mike, that is a GREAT QUESTION.

They might be trying to fill the void and...wait...this is a dating site????

You nailed it... They're selfish.

I was told differently

that explains everything...that mutual match thing

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Boy that sounds familiar...gee I wonder why I know that TOO well.... I don't know why they do it. Maybe they think that they will fall in love with the other person very quickly. I had it happen to me once and it didn't feel good. They want that void in their life filled or they just THINK that they HAVE to have someone...and they don't care what kind of hurt it causes....some people are just down right selfish...and it hurts that people can be this way....

Great post Shadow!! Kudos to you!!!

I have to agree..they are selfish and more likely then not using the person...I think the majority of us have done that at some point..I have ...Not intentionally using the person but then waking up and realizing thats EXACTLY what I was doing..No excuse but ...


People need to let go and be ready for what they may find here or any other dating site for that matter...things we say and do in these forums DO have an effect on peoples lives...

its called denial and no not the one in egypt

Resolve your issues!!! Or else!!!

Shes got it right there

when does the sex start? :D

This is what i delt with with my ex. Thinking i was starting a new life. What i didn't know, is she wasn't being hounest with herself and by doing that she ended back with her ex.Now it is a few months latter and and he is in a recovery home playing the poor me and plaing her again. 3 weeks ago they got into it and he beat on here. What i make of all of this. Is that she has low self esteem and thinks that this man is the only man she will ever be able to be with. This has been going on for 10 years now. Where i fit in all of this. I was the pond, the one that she thought could use to get over him. Well she was wrong. The question is, will she ever start caring about herself and build her own foundation as a woman and live her own life. I guess time will tell...

Well, you have your hand. So you can start anytime you like...

My question is...and I'm maybe a bit cold hearted...why would you even care about her...shes just using you...forget her

to get some confidence back on getting on the "meat market" again

Agreed, it kinda sounds like you haven't moved on from her. ::shrug::

I want everyone to be happy and no one to get hurt.

One time I saw a bicyclist cut across four lanes of traffic and flip over a car after getting hit. I could see it was going to happen but there was nothing I could do to stop it. My body pulled back from the situation uncontrollable as if that would help. Why? The same thing, I don't like to see people get hurt. Still, I couldn't look away either.