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This is what i delt with with my ex. Thinking i was starting a new life. What i didn't know, is she wasn't being hounest with herself and by doing that she ended back with her ex.Now it is a few months latter and and he is in a recovery home playing the poor me and plaing her again. 3 weeks ago they got into it and he beat on here. What i make of all of this. Is that she has low self esteem and thinks that this man is the only man she will ever be able to be with. This has been going on for 10 years now. Where i fit in all of this. I was the pond, the one that she thought could use to get over him. Well she was wrong. The question is, will she ever strt caring about herself and build her own foundation as a woman and life her own life. I guess time will tell... My question is...and I'm maybe a bit cold hearted...why would you even care about her...shes just using you...forget her  She was using me. I stop seeing her a few months ago. The one thing in are life right now, is are son. So i have to be in her life to an extent. Why would i care? When you see that there is so much more to a person and they deserve better, but wont do anything about it. people tend to throw them away. I don't. I will never get back with her, but at the same time in dealing with her. I have not and will not lie to her. So in all that. When she brings her issues in my life. I will be straight forward to her and tell her how it is. I will not allow anyone to tell me it's ok to be in a messed up relationship knowing they have my son. That it's ok to keep doing what your doing. This will! effect my son life and her 6 your old that will soon find out that her dad beats on her mom. Thats when chit will hit the fan. |
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This is what i delt with with my ex. Thinking i was starting a new life. What i didn't know, is she wasn't being hounest with herself and by doing that she ended back with her ex.Now it is a few months latter and and he is in a recovery home playing the poor me and plaing her again. 3 weeks ago they got into it and he beat on here. What i make of all of this. Is that she has low self esteem and thinks that this man is the only man she will ever be able to be with. This has been going on for 10 years now. Where i fit in all of this. I was the pond, the one that she thought could use to get over him. Well she was wrong. The question is, will she ever strt caring about herself and build her own foundation as a woman and life her own life. I guess time will tell... My question is...and I'm maybe a bit cold hearted...why would you even care about her...shes just using you...forget her I want everyone to be happy and no one to get hurt. One time I saw a bicyclist cut across four lanes of traffic and flip over a car after getting hit. I could see it was going to happen but there was nothing I could do to stop it. My body pulled back from the situation uncontrollable as if that would help. Why? The same thing, I don't like to see people get hurt. Still, I couldn't look away either. sure...you help people that deserve help bike or car accidents...but would you help someone thats only using you???? |
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This is what i delt with with my ex. Thinking i was starting a new life. What i didn't know, is she wasn't being hounest with herself and by doing that she ended back with her ex.Now it is a few months latter and and he is in a recovery home playing the poor me and plaing her again. 3 weeks ago they got into it and he beat on here. What i make of all of this. Is that she has low self esteem and thinks that this man is the only man she will ever be able to be with. This has been going on for 10 years now. Where i fit in all of this. I was the pond, the one that she thought could use to get over him. Well she was wrong. The question is, will she ever strt caring about herself and build her own foundation as a woman and life her own life. I guess time will tell... My question is...and I'm maybe a bit cold hearted...why would you even care about her...shes just using you...forget her She was using me. I stop seeing her a few months ago. The one thing in are life right now, is are son. So i have to be in her life to an extent. Why would i care? When you see that there is so much more to a person and they deserve better, but wont do anything about it. people tend to throw them away. I don't. I will never get back with her, but at the same time in dealing with her. I have not and will not lie to her. So in all that. When she brings her issues in my life. I will be straight forward to her and tell her how it is. I will not allow anyone to tell me it's ok to be in a messed up relationship knowing they have my son. That it's ok to keep doing what your doing. This will! effect my son life and her 6 your old that will soon find out that her dad beats on her mom. Thats when chit will hit the fan. oh ok...you have a son with her...that complicates things 
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You started this post, and you have issues. I can tell by your typing your upset. And I guess you have a right to be.
You critisize other people for not being over it. Nobody is going to get over people acting like your ex, |
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This is what i delt with with my ex. Thinking i was starting a new life. What i didn't know, is she wasn't being hounest with herself and by doing that she ended back with her ex.Now it is a few months latter and and he is in a recovery home playing the poor me and plaing her again. 3 weeks ago they got into it and he beat on here. What i make of all of this. Is that she has low self esteem and thinks that this man is the only man she will ever be able to be with. This has been going on for 10 years now. Where i fit in all of this. I was the pond, the one that she thought could use to get over him. Well she was wrong. The question is, will she ever strt caring about herself and build her own foundation as a woman and life her own life. I guess time will tell... My question is...and I'm maybe a bit cold hearted...why would you even care about her...shes just using you...forget her I want everyone to be happy and no one to get hurt. One time I saw a bicyclist cut across four lanes of traffic and flip over a car after getting hit. I could see it was going to happen but there was nothing I could do to stop it. My body pulled back from the situation uncontrollable as if that would help. Why? The same thing, I don't like to see people get hurt. Still, I couldn't look away either. sure...you help people that deserve help bike or car accidents...but would you help someone thats only using you???? I know what your saying, but the thing is. She knows i don't put up with her anymore and i stop doing things for her a while back. What i'm dealing with now. Is her putting this man in her life is waht will effect my son. I will not stand for that and here in this next two weeks. I will be filing for full custody. She doesn't know this yet, but will soon. I do not baby people and if latter down the line if she starts being honest with herself and get help. Then maybe i might have a more open mind in learning how to be a friend. Till then. Let her deal with her own chit and me. All i need to do is take care of me and my son. |
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 Amen to your email. However, I believe that friendship is the foundation of a solid relationship. You may have run across some people with unresolved issues but there are plenty of people left who just want to hook up with someone who has the same interests in life. Being in bed is not a 24 hour per day event and so what is left is perhaps 22 hours to communicate -- laugh, find joy and love in a thousand different ways. I have not posted my picture for two reasons. First, I want to know if anyone wants to communicate with a mystery and second I don't have a computer that works on the net. I look forward to a return email as I have no friends in my selection box yet. I read my emails every week or so at the public library so if you write it may take a week or two before I respond. Hawe a nice day! |
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Caring about someone doesn't necessarily mean you are not over that person.
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This is what i delt with with my ex. Thinking i was starting a new life. What i didn't know, is she wasn't being hounest with herself and by doing that she ended back with her ex.Now it is a few months latter and and he is in a recovery home playing the poor me and plaing her again. 3 weeks ago they got into it and he beat on here. What i make of all of this. Is that she has low self esteem and thinks that this man is the only man she will ever be able to be with. This has been going on for 10 years now. Where i fit in all of this. I was the pond, the one that she thought could use to get over him. Well she was wrong. The question is, will she ever strt caring about herself and build her own foundation as a woman and life her own life. I guess time will tell... My question is...and I'm maybe a bit cold hearted...why would you even care about her...shes just using you...forget her I want everyone to be happy and no one to get hurt. One time I saw a bicyclist cut across four lanes of traffic and flip over a car after getting hit. I could see it was going to happen but there was nothing I could do to stop it. My body pulled back from the situation uncontrollable as if that would help. Why? The same thing, I don't like to see people get hurt. Still, I couldn't look away either. sure...you help people that deserve help bike or car accidents...but would you help someone thats only using you???? I know what your saying, but the thing is. She knows i don't put up with her anymore and i stop doing things for her a while back. What i'm dealing with now. Is her putting this man in her life is waht will effect my son. I will not stand for that and here in this next two weeks. I will be filing for full custody. She doesn't know this yet, but will soon. I do not baby people and if latter down the line if she starts being honest with herself and get help. Then maybe i might have a more open mind in learning how to be a friend. Till then. Let her deal with her own chit and me. All i need to do is take care of me and my son. I know...I'm raising 2 boys and my ex wife got married...there was drama there but now the kids don't even see her...of course mine are older...you got a rough road ahead but I've been there and done it...just be the best dad you can be
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Uh E? Isn't that that Reverend Jim? Scary!
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Uh E? Isn't that that Reverend Jim? Scary! LOL...give that man a cigar
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You started this post, and you have issues. I can tell by your typing your upset. And I guess you have a right to be. You critisize other people for not being over it. Nobody is going to get over people acting like your ex, I'm kinda am, more disappointed though because her family has done nothing or his side to help out what so ever. If i had a daughter putting herself through this. I would file custody for her daughter. So she wouldn't have to grow up with the issues she will have to deal with because of her mothers mistakes. To many people sit by and do nothing and by doing that it hurts everyone around them. I'm not, i'm doing somthing about this. LMAO the topic was about people not dealing with there issues. I am and this is why right now. I will not let any women get close to me.... |
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Some people are afraid of being alone and jump from relationship to relationship.
I believe the time between relationships is the time to reflect and see if there may be some things you need to adjust about yourself and review what may have caused your previous relationship/s to end. Basically a time to grow. Just my two cents...... |
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This is what i delt with with my ex. Thinking i was starting a new life. What i didn't know, is she wasn't being hounest with herself and by doing that she ended back with her ex.Now it is a few months latter and and he is in a recovery home playing the poor me and plaing her again. 3 weeks ago they got into it and he beat on here. What i make of all of this. Is that she has low self esteem and thinks that this man is the only man she will ever be able to be with. This has been going on for 10 years now. Where i fit in all of this. I was the pond, the one that she thought could use to get over him. Well she was wrong. The question is, will she ever strt caring about herself and build her own foundation as a woman and life her own life. I guess time will tell... My question is...and I'm maybe a bit cold hearted...why would you even care about her...shes just using you...forget her I want everyone to be happy and no one to get hurt. One time I saw a bicyclist cut across four lanes of traffic and flip over a car after getting hit. I could see it was going to happen but there was nothing I could do to stop it. My body pulled back from the situation uncontrollable as if that would help. Why? The same thing, I don't like to see people get hurt. Still, I couldn't look away either. sure...you help people that deserve help bike or car accidents...but would you help someone thats only using you???? I know what your saying, but the thing is. She knows i don't put up with her anymore and i stop doing things for her a while back. What i'm dealing with now. Is her putting this man in her life is waht will effect my son. I will not stand for that and here in this next two weeks. I will be filing for full custody. She doesn't know this yet, but will soon. I do not baby people and if latter down the line if she starts being honest with herself and get help. Then maybe i might have a more open mind in learning how to be a friend. Till then. Let her deal with her own chit and me. All i need to do is take care of me and my son. I know...I'm raising 2 boys and my ex wife got married...there was drama there but now the kids don't even see her...of course mine are older...you got a rough road ahead but I've been there and done it...just be the best dad you can be Oh, i will. my son comes first before anything right now and in the long run. Even though i know her family is going to be very upset. I'm sure in time they will see that i'm doing what is expected of me as a man and a father to portect my son. If i don't do this, what does that make me? |
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Some people are afraid of being alone and jump from relationship to relationship. I believe the time between relationships is the time to reflect and see if there may be some things you need to adjust about yourself and review what may have caused your previous relationship/s to end. Basically a time to grow. Just my two cents...... I agree.There is a point and time you have to look at who you are and where your going in life, like you said. I chose not to fall behind... |
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