There are a lot of pluses and minuses to dating a woman with a child or children. It's true that she will make her decisions based on what's best for the kids, but that is what a mother is supposed to do isn't it. I think the big problem is when a man comes into the picture that is not the childrens father, especially if the children are old enough to understand that daddy is not there anymore. To many men want to try and replace the "father" figure in the household. The biggest part isn't trying to replace dad, but to get the children to understand that you are not there to replace dad, but that you will have a special love for them as well as their mother. I think women have a little thing in the back of their heads also when they get into a relationship with a new man that he might try to do just that. I don't have a problem dating a woman with children as I myself have a wonderful daughter, but the women need to realize that I'm not trying to replace anyone either, I'm just trying to get them to accept me for me, not compare me to what went wrong in their previous life. At heart, I don't think that most people want to accept that their previous relationship (if relatively long term) can truly be over. I think that has a lot more to do with it than the actual children per say.

There are a lot of pluses and minuses to dating a woman with a child or children. It's true that she will make her decisions based on what's best for the kids, but that is what a mother is supposed to do isn't it. I think the big problem is when a man comes into the picture that is not the childrens father, especially if the children are old enough to understand that daddy is not there anymore. To many men want to try and replace the "father" figure in the household. The biggest part isn't trying to replace dad, but to get the children to understand that you are not there to replace dad, but that you will have a special love for them as well as their mother. I think women have a little thing in the back of their heads also when they get into a relationship with a new man that he might try to do just that. I don't have a problem dating a woman with children as I myself have a wonderful daughter, but the women need to realize that I'm not trying to replace anyone either, I'm just trying to get them to accept me for me, not compare me to what went wrong in their previous life. At heart, I don't think that most people want to accept that their previous relationship (if relatively long term) can truly be over. I think that has a lot more to do with it than the actual children per say.

Absolutely a mom should feel the kids are the most important thing. So you are going into the relationship not really as an equal. It doesn't spell absolute doom but can make things difficult. The problem is the amount of weight given to the children in her decision making process. Logic can be thrown out the window in favor of "mother's instinct".

I think you as a single dad would do much better with a single mom. In fact, a single woman without kids would have the same problems as her male counterpart. I would encourage all parents to date other single parents. I have seen it as a requirement on a lot of profiles. "Must have kids."

I have spoken to women and told them I do not want to be their father. I can be their friend. I have said discipline would be up to them. Both I could tell were not well received. I found that odd but it is how things would have been. I also said I would not question any decision she make with the kids and would "back her up". Better reaction but still I think many mothers are looking for that dad to their kids.

I would love to hear the pluses in dating a mom if you were a single male without children. I can think of the pluses a single dad with child(ren) would get.

would any of u men date a single mother or do u have problems with dateing women that have children ??????

I am not on the "market" but I would advise men to be very careful when dating women who have young children.

The girl-friend will make decisions she perceives to the correct ones based upon what she "feels" is best for her child(ren) not you or your relationship. You are not the parent therefore any advice you offer will carry very little weight. Should you question the decision she will bring that point up to you, leaving you speechless.

Does any of this sound healthy to a relationship? Does it sound unrealistic that a mom would act that way? I don't think so based off of personal experience and what I have read here.

I really want to know the pluses in dating a single mom. Can someone tell me?

would any of u men date a single mother or do u have problems with dateing women that have children ??????