I was wondering How people felt about the age differences that seems to
be the trend now between man and woman who are dating.
What do you feel is to old and to young a age difference for a
relationship? Has anyone been in such a relationship before and did it
work?

Yes, i have but for a man i do not know at all but yes it is working for
me and her

I really dont think it is the age it is the maturity of that person.I am
34 and I just married a 26 year old man about a month ago.O.k, I am not
going to lie because now he is living with a female down the street from
us but it was his maturity that kept me with him for these last 2.5
years.He went through things with and for me that no one else would ever
have.I think the actually getting married part is what threw him off.He
said he is confused and he thinks maybe we should have waited but he
does love me deeply but he is scared.(he's been gone 4 days)He wants to
come home but I won't let him.There are some young men out here that are
more mature than these older men and vice-versa,so I think it depends on
that individual.Evaryone is different.

I have dated older than myself before. Personally, the dynamic works for
someone like myself, someone who has an old soul. However, and
realistically, it can have drawbacks. Time is generally... for lack of
better words, a bitch. Someone dating someone else who is older has to
expect that the dating gets calmed down a little; more time in the
house, clubs taste can differ, even movie choices and activities differ.
Friends can play a big part: mature vs. immature (and no one has control
over the stuff their friends do). For someone older, they have to be
ready to accept that their mate is younger, and they are going to want
to experience life on their own terms, and they can't play the big
brother/sister or parent role. My advice? Evaluate the type person that
your mate is and make a decision. I usually say that people should be
looking at someone between five years younger and five years older so
that they can be kinda be on the same page in life. Of course, there are
exceptions, but not many.

i think mental age is more important than physical age.

i've met older people who've the mindset of teenagers and met others in
their early 20s who've displayed maturity in their presentation and
their thoughts.

being able to communicate effectively is the key to any successful
relationship i think.

I am a female 46 years old and have dated men as young as 24. I think
age is only a number............If it is meant to be then it is meant to
be. Some of the younger men that I have dated share the same interests
as me and they are just as mature as men my age.

@ucangal77 You go girl!! LOL Great viewpoint!

I dont think age matters in there is not more than 15 yrs apart.

It is all about maturity and being responsible.

personally..i not going to date or marry someone that is younger than my
son and he is 26...as far as older..im not into someone older than 5
years older than myself

Emotional maturity is more important than age

I was a physician for 28 years, mostly in Emergency Medicine and Trauma.
I filled in the Psychiatry dept when they were short handed (lots). I
found over the years that the greter the difference in ages the better
the relationship. I suppose that has to do with one lacking a loving
parent of the same gender as their partner. I saw one guy about 29 sit
ouside 17 hours while his 49 years old wife was in surgery, terrible
auto accident. She went into a coma and this guy would only go home for
a change of clothes and a shower, for a year that she was there. I
understand that she woke 2 years after surgery and was transferred back
to our hospital for physical theraphy and a much less serious
neuro-surgery. This young man was never a bother, always clean and
reading to his wife, that probably saved her life. I understand that
she is in her sixties now and he waits on her hand and foot as she did
suffer brain damage but is well enough to walk and go outside, even
travel, just cannot talk to well. I would like to give the young man a
medal, he taught me something.

i belive age does not matter unless if it matters to the other partners
self esteam.
for one an older woman may feel like she will be looked down apon by her
friends even though the guy she is going out with is young but has his
life more together then her friends husband thats forty and a drunk.
people talk and gossip mostly to make themselves feel beeter

The 3 times I dated women younger than me they were 12, 16 & 20 yrs
younger. Everyone of the relationships had very good energy between us.
Much better than when I was married! Every one of these women were so
honest it was overwhelming at times. It gave me a new faith in women !
The only truble was, I wasn't interested in getting married again at
that time in my life and they grew impatient with me.

Now that there isn't anything in my way now, I would date a younger
woman again... say 29 yours younger this time. (I just need to find her
or her find me) And see were it goes! Could be fun !

The oldest I'd go is 15 years older. As for younger, I'd say a year.

I agree, it just wouldn't seem right dating someone younger than ones
child. Cripes, they would be concerned about bringing their friends
over, lol. I have been too many times to count by men as young as 19.
When I mention that they are tooo young for me, they get their hackles
up and ask if I am afraid I can't handle them. Now THAT is funny,
hysterically funny. My answer? Actually, I would find it difficult to
have a relationship with someone who hasn't shared a lot of the past as
I have. Besides what would I say after being intimate? Are you going
to be late for school? Do you need a ride? Geesh, lol.

drshadowj,
that's a touching story.
tks for sharing it.

That was a beautiful story DrShadow. I got a little misty. That goes
to show love overcomes trivial things like age.

I think it works for those who have a mature mentality,age then falls in
no place

I know this woman who was friending with this young fellow about half
her age or almost. That is so many years younger that she but so many
years less closer to her daughter. So while they fooling her husband to
think that when young fella is around, he is really after her daughter
when it is really she. She nearly 'dead' when she found out that her
13yrs old daughter is pregnant for the young fella. I know someone now
who is heading up or down that same path.