Community > General Discussion

Topic: Distance!! Whats the big deal??
Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Sun 08/03/08 04:09 PM
If one person can relocate then it can work. But, even the time it takes until they can relocate can be taxing on a relationship. LDR's are only for the most brave and strong and trusting and adaptable! Thats for sure!But when ya find the one,Is is so worth it!! Yes it is indeed!

LadyOfMagic Joined Fri 09/29/06 Posts: 4957	Sun 08/03/08 04:09 PM
I'd relocate in a heart beat..The thing is..I can't travel on my own and no guy is willing to come here. No guy you've met is willing to. There are billions of guys in the world, you just need to find the right one! I don't think there is a "Right One"..my life is too complicated and guys like to keep things simple

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 08/03/08 04:36 PM
A lot of people will not relocate due to jobs and family...I can get that...I would not want to leave my kids and grandbabies...just me. I understand the issue with kids!! But there is a lot of people on the site who has no kids but allow jobs to stand in their way. If there was a chance of real happiness why let a job get in the way of it!! JMO because some of us like to live in houses and eat food. Well, the idea would be to find a new job in the place you'd be moving to.

HeSearches Joined Sat 02/23/08 Posts: 312	Sun 08/03/08 04:39 PM
I do see on the forums that a lot of people are experiencing difficulties in the dating game because of distance!! Why????? I would give anything to relocate and start a new life somewhere!! The BIG DEAL is that most long distance relationships ultimately fail. If you're bored with your life where you are, move to the place you think best fits your needs and find someone there. The reason long distance doesn't work is because people always look better from a distance than they do when you have them up close every day. I've been there. I've done it. NEVER AGAIN!!

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sun 08/03/08 04:40 PM
I think everyone has opinions based on their own frame of reference. Not everyones experience is or will be a bad one. I'm sorry yours was.

sparkleplenty424 Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 463	Sun 08/03/08 04:41 PM
A lot of people will not relocate due to jobs and family...I can get that...I would not want to leave my kids and grandbabies...just me. I understand the issue with kids!! But there is a lot of people on the site who has no kids but allow jobs to stand in their way. If there was a chance of real happiness why let a job get in the way of it!! JMO because some of us like to live in houses and eat food. Well, the idea would be to find a new job in the place you'd be moving to. It can take 6 months to a year to find a job. I wouldn't quit a good job to go chasing after romance.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sun 08/03/08 04:43 PM
For some it wouldn't be "Chasing". For some it would be established already and the move would be part of the making a permanent decision to be together.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 08/03/08 04:43 PM
A lot of people will not relocate due to jobs and family...I can get that...I would not want to leave my kids and grandbabies...just me. I understand the issue with kids!! But there is a lot of people on the site who has no kids but allow jobs to stand in their way. If there was a chance of real happiness why let a job get in the way of it!! JMO because some of us like to live in houses and eat food. Well, the idea would be to find a new job in the place you'd be moving to. It can take 6 months to a year to find a job. I wouldn't quit a good job to go chasing after romance. Oh, I would never move before finding a job. But, finding a new job would not stop me from moving somewhere.

sparkleplenty424 Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 463	Sun 08/03/08 04:47 PM
For some it wouldn't be "Chasing". For some it would be established already and the move would be part of the making a permanent decision to be together. but how does it get established in the first place? You can't possibly spend enough time together ahead of time to know.

sparkleplenty424 Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 463	Sun 08/03/08 04:47 PM
A lot of people will not relocate due to jobs and family...I can get that...I would not want to leave my kids and grandbabies...just me. I understand the issue with kids!! But there is a lot of people on the site who has no kids but allow jobs to stand in their way. If there was a chance of real happiness why let a job get in the way of it!! JMO because some of us like to live in houses and eat food. Well, the idea would be to find a new job in the place you'd be moving to. It can take 6 months to a year to find a job. I wouldn't quit a good job to go chasing after romance. Oh, I would never move before finding a job. But, finding a new job would not stop me from moving somewhere. I agree with that. I have moved for my job, in fact. But I wouldn't move for a man.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 08/03/08 04:49 PM
A lot of people will not relocate due to jobs and family...I can get that...I would not want to leave my kids and grandbabies...just me. I understand the issue with kids!! But there is a lot of people on the site who has no kids but allow jobs to stand in their way. If there was a chance of real happiness why let a job get in the way of it!! JMO because some of us like to live in houses and eat food. Well, the idea would be to find a new job in the place you'd be moving to. It can take 6 months to a year to find a job. I wouldn't quit a good job to go chasing after romance. Oh, I would never move before finding a job. But, finding a new job would not stop me from moving somewhere. I agree with that. I have moved for my job, in fact. But I wouldn't move for a man. I moved for my job as well. I'm not unhappy where I am, but where I live is nothing special.

sparkleplenty424 Joined Mon 07/21/08 Posts: 463	Sun 08/03/08 04:53 PM
A lot of people will not relocate due to jobs and family...I can get that...I would not want to leave my kids and grandbabies...just me. I understand the issue with kids!! But there is a lot of people on the site who has no kids but allow jobs to stand in their way. If there was a chance of real happiness why let a job get in the way of it!! JMO because some of us like to live in houses and eat food. Well, the idea would be to find a new job in the place you'd be moving to. It can take 6 months to a year to find a job. I wouldn't quit a good job to go chasing after romance. Oh, I would never move before finding a job. But, finding a new job would not stop me from moving somewhere. I agree with that. I have moved for my job, in fact. But I wouldn't move for a man. I moved for my job as well. I'm not unhappy where I am, but where I live is nothing special. The place I live isn't so special either, but neither are most guys I have known.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Sun 08/03/08 04:56 PM Edited by TheShadow on Sun 08/03/08 04:56 PM
it's because most are chickens and don't want to live a little. It's the old, well if they want to meet, they have to come to me blah blah bla. I say enjoy because people like that will be alone for a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONG time

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 08/03/08 04:56 PM
A lot of people will not relocate due to jobs and family...I can get that...I would not want to leave my kids and grandbabies...just me. I understand the issue with kids!! But there is a lot of people on the site who has no kids but allow jobs to stand in their way. If there was a chance of real happiness why let a job get in the way of it!! JMO because some of us like to live in houses and eat food. Well, the idea would be to find a new job in the place you'd be moving to. It can take 6 months to a year to find a job. I wouldn't quit a good job to go chasing after romance. Oh, I would never move before finding a job. But, finding a new job would not stop me from moving somewhere. I agree with that. I have moved for my job, in fact. But I wouldn't move for a man. I moved for my job as well. I'm not unhappy where I am, but where I live is nothing special. The place I live isn't so special either, but neither are most guys I have known. I've never met a guy I'd move for. But, who knows. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, no worries.

JaymeStephens84a0lc Joined Mon 04/23/07 Posts: 2704	Sun 08/03/08 05:55 PM
Well in my case...lol, if they want to meet they DO have to come to me. I have no car at the moment,and just getting started at a new job that I LOVE and want to KEEP. Also, since I've always been the one to give everything only to get nothing in return, I REFUSE to do that ever again. I will never give more than the other is willing to, hurts way too much.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Sun 08/03/08 06:24 PM
For some it wouldn't be "Chasing". For some it would be established already and the move would be part of the making a permanent decision to be together. but how does it get established in the first place? You can't possibly spend enough time together ahead of time to know. Of course you can. You go and stay several weeks at at time...even a month or so, if possible. I realize that isn't possible for everyone of course.

challengingmind Joined Mon 01/21/08 Posts: 563	Sun 08/03/08 07:57 PM
I would do it if I had the finances to.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76393	Sun 08/03/08 08:09 PM
I do see on the forums that a lot of people are experiencing difficulties in the dating game because of distance!! Why????? I would give anything to relocate and start a new life somewhere!! Well it is only a problem if one makes it a problem.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Sun 08/03/08 08:13 PM
I do see on the forums that a lot of people are experiencing difficulties in the dating game because of distance!! Why????? I would give anything to relocate and start a new life somewhere!! Well it is only a problem if one makes it a problem.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sun 08/03/08 08:17 PM
I am going to move for love, but my old life does not just disappear because I wish it so. There are bills to be paid and a path to be cleared before I can just walk away from my job. There is a plan in effect, but it isn't going to happen overnight.