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.......and said Uncle----D----- my dad does not know how to have any fun. Please come and pick me up. I want to live with you always. What would you-all say to your niece??
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.......and said Uncle----D----- my dad does not know how to have any fun. Please come and pick me up. I want to live with you always. What would you-all say to your niece?? Her dad is not there for her entertainment, he's there to put a roof on her head, food in her stomache and clothes on her back, and teach and guide her to be a good person... Fun comes from aunts and uncles and her friends... Tell her to suck it up, and learn to be a mature young adult. |
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Edited by
auburngirl
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Fri 08/01/08 02:22 PM
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I'd say let me talk to your dad! Very normal for kids to miss time with a parent. If he needs some ideas on some fun things to do with her, perhaps you could give him some thoughts.
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I have had to tell my own nieces and nephews that if they were living with me I would probably have even more rules than their parents do and I would just as soon keep the job of spoiling them than have them think I'm boring too.
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Edited by
MirrorMirror
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Fri 08/01/08 02:33 PM
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.......and said Uncle----D----- my dad does not know how to have any fun. Please come and pick me up. I want to live with you always. What would you-all say to your niece??  Whoot Whoot
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"That's Life kiddo...and thanks for the love
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When I was younger my nephews would come and spend the weekends with me sometimes. They never wanted to go home cause we'd play video games all night and eat only junk food.
They never wanted to go back home. My sis was always po'd at me. |
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my brother and I get along good. My niece is 8 years old. (My brother has never enjoyed children at all.) This is why I have agreed to help him raise his child.--(remember i raised my son from age 3 by myself after my wife died in 1982)my brothers wife died also.--he will admit he is just not good with children at all.--but, i want his girl to know about her dad. even if its only two weeks out of the year.
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my brother and I get along good. My niece is 8 years old. (My brother has never enjoyed children at all.) This is why I have agreed to help him raise his child.--(remember i raised my son from age 3 by myself after my wife died in 1982)my brothers wife died also.--he will admit he is just not good with children at all.--but, i want his girl to know about her dad. even if its only two weeks out of the year. If he knew he was bad with children, why did he have one? |
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do you-all have any thoughts for me?? (Thanks for your help.)
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It is really important for her to have a relationship with her dad. You might give him some tips on things they can do together to help get things going.
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It is really important for her to have a relationship with her dad. You might give him some tips on things they can do together to help get things going.
Yes exactly my point too. Give him some pointers on fun things that that age group likes to do. Unfortunately they don't come with instruction manuals but he can learn it! Everybody else did! You're a great brother for stepping in like you are.
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my brother and I get along good. My niece is 8 years old. (My brother has never enjoyed children at all.) This is why I have agreed to help him raise his child.--(remember i raised my son from age 3 by myself after my wife died in 1982)my brothers wife died also.--he will admit he is just not good with children at all.--but, i want his girl to know about her dad. even if its only two weeks out of the year. So she lives with you all but two weeks of the year? |
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do you-all have any thoughts for me?? (Thanks for your help.) Yes, he needs to raise her, she's already gonna have issues with the loss of her mother, and if he gives her to you, even though right now she wants to come (SHE'S 8 BY THE WAY) She's gonna have even bigger issues in the future with her father giving her up, because he didn't "want" her. The family needs counseling.... |
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.......and said Uncle----D----- my dad does not know how to have any fun. Please come and pick me up. I want to live with you always. What would you-all say to your niece?? Her dad is not there for her entertainment, he's there to put a roof on her head, food in her stomache and clothes on her back, and teach and guide her to be a good person... Fun comes from aunts and uncles and her friends... Tell her to suck it up, and learn to be a mature young adult. That's sorta harsh! How old is your niece? Is it just because she wants to get out and her Dad is busy...it is summer vacation and parents don't have the "summer time" that kids do.....maybe suggest that the weekends are good for Dad/Daughter time and then talk to her Dad to plan a exciting weekend! |
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i guess he wanted his wife to take care of the children, always. (He is the type of person that says--the man will bring in a pay check & the wife will raise the kids) --then he will say:"leave me alone."
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62, when I dated a guy who was also widowed like us, he had two young ones around this age. HIS parents stepped in to help because of course he worked full time. Guess it's sort of the "it takes a village" thing, ya know? A widowed person needs all the help and support they need from family. The more love she's surrounded with, the better. You didn't mention how long it's been since her mother passed away?
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i guess he wanted his wife to take care of the children, always. (He is the type of person that says--the man will bring in a pay check & the wife will raise the kids) --then he will say:"leave me alone." Of course he will say leave me alone, that's probably what you and I both did when our spouses died! But the fact is he needs the help and you are kind enough to step in. You know as well as I do that what we say when we are in that kind of pain, and what is most needful are often different things.
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Oh, i have talked and given many, many pointers to him. and even showed him things a child needs to learn from a parent.-- (I know how important these thing are.)
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i guess he wanted his wife to take care of the children, always. (He is the type of person that says--the man will bring in a pay check & the wife will raise the kids) --then he will say:"leave me alone." Now, you have to remind him, gently, that he is both mom and dad. It is hard to do in this situation......best thing to do at this point is keep reminding your niece that this is a hard time for him as well as her. That he loves her and things will change as long as the love is there....time heals all wounds! 
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