In a marriage, do you think one person should handle the finances, or both?

Both

the more responsible one.

BOTH BOTH BOTH BOTH BOTH BOTH BOTH

Whatever is agreed upon in the relationship.. sometimes one person is better than having 2 hands in the cookie jar.

Both absolutely need to know what's going on with their finances.

Well some people are inherently better able to handle finances than others. Male or female. It doesn’t matter. Some actually enjoy it and others it can drive up the wall and cause all kinds of anxiety and panic attacks. So, in light of that, I think whoever is more skillful with handling the money end of things should do so, BUT, the other needs to have a basic understanding of what is going down and be able to participate on at least a functional level. Pay bills, make deposits etc... That’s just my feeling though. I've very often handled the money in the relationship and I’m the broad....

Some good advice

both should be involved.

I suck at it. I hope Eileen is better at taking care of bills than I am. I want to know how we are doing, but am terrible at remembering due dates.

well no secretive spending lol imagine

Oh yes, I remember the good old days of my marriage. Like the time he said his father paid for the tuxedos for our wedding, and then I got a credit card bill for an account he opened the month before..... with $4000 charged on it, including computer software and tuxedos for the wedding. Plus every day to Subway, for $20.... and so on and so forth.

Finances in marriage is easy. Her money is her money, and his money is her money. What's so hard about that?

will you marry me?

both

Whoo Yoo!!!

Yes, I will.

(Don't worry, this makes the eigth time I've said that, and I've never been married, but I'm serious yes, I will)

That really depends on the couple. Some couples have two people who are willing, able, and have the desire to manage the finances. More common, though, there is only one person like that. Unfortunately, there are also couples where neither know anything about finances... hence the high debt and foreclosure rates!

Both... but here's a more important question: 1 bank account or 2? lol

Good question! I find that once a man moves in, or co-habitation takes place, then there tends to be a "melding of the funds." For good or bad, that tends to creep up. I don’t recommend taking this approach early on in a relationship and it must be something both parties are comfortable with. It takes time to reach that point. I also feel that credit should ALWAYS be separate. Its just asking for trouble when you start letting people use the plastic because if the relationship sours, guess who wont be paying those bills? It’s like making payments on a new vehicle you wrecked. No one wants to do it.

Both should take an interest in the finances, as well as everything else