I seem to have something written on my forehead in ink only men can see. I think it says second choice or back up plan. Not sure which. But I'm tired of being the runner up.

i could put you at #1 on my booty call list,would that make you feel better

If you figure out how to wash it off, please share!

Not really. I also seem to be on some list as suitable for a booty call but not a relationship. Which is weird, I'm not that easy.......

Unfortunately, I can't tell if the solutions I mix are working, since I can't seem to see it....

i was jk. im sure your not that way,i respect that

LOL. figured you were joking, but it was the other half of my thought when I started the thread.

<<<<<< has been 2nd runner up all her life.....

If this is happening to you, it's because there is something about you that says to men that you're not "relationship material".

What it is exactly I couldn't say but you're emitting a vibe that is telling men that.

Men just like women make up their mind about someone in the first 5 minutes of contact. Are they friend material or non-serious relationship material, OR are they relationship material and maybe even spouse material?

Whatever you're doing in that first 5 minutes of contact is what is killing your chances.

I feel for you Moodark. I have a " viewable by women only " tattoo on my forehead that says " Good for friendship only ".

Either that or it says " Potential Stalker "...not sure which since I can't see it....lol

I understand that completely.. Makes you feel like the kid thats picked last in school for everything

From what I have noticed, women that are back up plans are the ones that settle for being a back up plan. They usually have self esteem issues and allow themselves to be walked over.

I agree with Puck....to a point. I don't neccessarily agree that women like this are always walked over, but I do feel that they have some sort of self esteem issue. I should know cause I used to feel like a back up plan as well. It sucks.

Now, I would ask this. Do you normally have a "back up plan" when it comes to men you are dating? Maybe the guy you really want, Plan A, seems unattainable to you. So, you have this other guy, Plan B, that you know and feel is attainable and thus you go for him. Sometimes people feel that some guys /girls are out of their league. Maybe you have done this and you project that? I dunno. Just a thought.

Uh, yeah, like totally NOT me. Will not accept being walked over and my esteem is pretty darn good.

Actually, no I never do that. It isn't giving a person a chance. And have never just gone for a guy because I thought he was more attainable than the one I wanted. Settling for someone that is there just because he is there isn't respecting myself, let alone anyone else.

maybe some guys see you as a........practice girl

better than me.i have "this dude would produce some messed up kids,so don't take the chance!"written on my forehead

Practicing what? Practicing how to get a woman's attention and then disappear. Oh well. I don't need a man to make my life complete. It's just more fun to share life with a significant other. But it doesn't stop me from living not to have one.

You're pretty, without the makeup.
You're smart/talented/independent.
Probably too much to handle for some men.
Maybe the answer to your quest will be evident if you look at the women who got the guys. Are you very much similar, or not, character-wise?

then theres an episode of famile guy that you should watch