i totally agree. watch she did is unforgivable. i mean i might be able to have kids, but i always say it might not happen just incase, i would hate to give a man false hopes. you need to be straight from the beggining.

I am sure he didn't marry her just for having children. We don't know EVERYTHING about the situation. Only they do. I am merely saying, that people are so quick to get divorces these days and not work on their problems. Divorce is NOT an easy way out. Staying in the marriage may not be easy either, but counseling in some form is better than just throwing in the towel at the first sign of trouble!

if i was a man, and a women did that to me, i would 100 percent get a divorce, i could never trust her again, when the trust as gone so has everything else

I am in no way saying divorce should always be your first option. I agree people are way to quick to file for divorce than work on their marriage. And I am sure he didn't ONLY marry her for having children. However... she led him to believe she could have children and he could be a father at some point. She purposly deceived him. I would not want to be married to someone that purposly deceived me, especially on such an important life altering issue as becoming a parent. He had the right to know before he married her and she held it from him. She took his right to be a father away from him without his consent. To me... that is just unforgivable.

that was my exact word. UNFORGIVEABLE i totally agree

Just so I'm clear... I have always been one to say you should always work on your relationships. You should put forth every effort possible. I think divorce in this country is way to easy to get. It should be harder to get married than it is to get divorced quite honestly. But she totally lied to him before they were married. He signed a contract and she withheld the terms... Now he shouldn't have to pay the rest of his life because she refused to be honest with him BEFORE they were married. She did NOT have the right to make this choice for him.

It seems the women on here are pretty worked up about this, either to one side or the other. Me, I think she has violated his trust, and put a pattern of deception into the relationship. But I'd never even consider a divorce if I got married, I'm old fashioned, I'll mean it when I say "for better or for worse."


SO, where does this leave us? I'd tell your cousin to have kids and stay married. Oh he might not be able to have them by his wife, but she's the one that established a pattern of lying, he might as well use it as well. Turn about is fair play, and at least he would somewhat honest (he could always say "I told you I wanted kids). This is how relationships were worked out before the age of "let me get my lawyer."

i'd say so

That was not simply a little slip of memory there, that was a HUGE deception on every level

It is sad that she deceived him in that way. But if she only had her tubes tied that can be reversed. But sounds like to me she does not want to have kids. How many kids does she already have? Normaly getting ones tubes tied you are required to have already been pregnant so many times. Of course there is adoption that can be considered. As far as what he does that all depends on how much he really loves her.

But that is a big trust issue she broke by not telling him the truth.

what a *itch!


adoption?

in my opinion everyone gets a divorce now days as a easy out instead of sticking together. divorce is basicly for cowards who just want to quit and not try. all relationships have problems deal with them. what about the vows? is he just going to ignore them and toss them out the window/ no wonder everyone is scared of comitment. when things like this happen they divorce and are cowards and run away

This is ultimately his call depending on what he can or cant stand. She decieved him on alot of issues over a period of time. He has to decide if its a love worth saving and if she can be trusted in the long run over the course of the rest of his life.

BUT HE LIED ABOUT SOMETHING EXTREMLY IMPORTANT. I MEAN IS SHE LIED ABOUT THAT, WHAT IS SHE REALLY HIDING FROM HIM

this is so very true he has to live with this decision then she has to live with the deception of the lie she told him why would a person lie tot he one they love or intend to spend the rest of their lives with

I think they need to buy a puppy!!!

were hearing what soposedly she did but theres 2 sides to a story

awwwwwww

its also his responsibility to get to know everything about her before getting married. if she lied wich has not been proven, he should of found out and investagate before getting married. divorce for no reason should ever be a option. we you get married it for life no matter what problem comes up

OMG I CANT BELIEVE WHAT IM READING. I WILL REFRAIN FROM COMMENTING ON THIS ONE