Here are a few common problems that lead to "BORING DATES":

1. Playing it "safe", following her lead, not saying anything you think will upset her, and making sure that you're "proper".
2. Talking about BORING things like jobs, family, weather, etc. because it's "what people talk about to get to know each other."
3. Being boring.

PLAYING IT SAFE

I can remember when I thought that the proper way to act on a date was to talk about socially acceptable topics, act sterile and quiet, and generally try to make sure that they got whatever they wanted.

Oh, was this a huge mistake.

Generally speaking, people are BORED TO DEATH BY THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOR.

When you meet a date for a cup of tea or go out to dinner, it's time to have FUN, not to be their personal ass kisser! Playing it safe and kissing up to them is a sure way to get either an expensive relationship or a one who won't call you back.

TALKING ABOUT BORING THINGS

Don't talk about your job and your family!

BORING!

DON'T BE PREDICTABLE. There is an area of the human brain called "Broca's Region" that is constantly anticipating what is about to happen, then discounting the predictable. In other words, the more predicable you are, the faster you will be considered BORING. Learn to say random things. Disagree with them... (without sounding like a whiny little girl). Tell them that you think Britney Spears looks like a dog... If you're boring, read a couple of books on how to tell stories… or get a book on comedy to learn how to be funny and tell jokes.
JUST DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO AVOID BEING PREDICTABLE!


Your date don't want BORING. A woman would rather be with an interesting, fun guy than with a RICH, HANDSOME, PREDICTABLE, BORING one (and the women who want the rich boring guy are often boring themselves...). Once a woman starts to feel that magical emotional and physical response called ATTRACTION, the entire situation changes, and you start having the kinds of success with women that most men only dream about.

And most women go through life WISHING, HOPING, AND DREAMING that they will someday find a man that can make them feel this amazing feeling...

So show the fun side let them see you have flaws like everyone else does. No one is perfect and no one is looking for perfect.

Instead we all look for what is real. We want that one that can be who they really are. That one that when you think about them it brings a smile to your face.

At times it is important to be spontaneous when you fall into a routine of being predicable you start becoming boring.

So what idea do you have for a date that you feel would make it go more smoother.

What are some of the Topics that should not be discussed on the first or second date?

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I am told I am too intense maybe not talk about sex or religion???

I don't care how expensive your purse is

The Ex is taboo - dont want to hear anything but it's over and has been over.


First dates I think should be kept short, if you happen to enjoy each others company great, by all means continue but first dates are just interviews for potential second dates or love interests (jmo) Easy on both parties this way


Keep it simple, meet in public I prefer a light brunch, lunch, meet for a drink, or coffee.

big turn off....talking about the ex a lot

you're not together anymore, get over it...sure sign you are done your healing yet

truly you jest!!! my bag cost me $x.xx.

past conquests (real or imaginary)

that im a woman on jsh and get tons of mail from men

WHO TALKS ON THE FIRST DATE?????



NOW YOU TELL ME

Lmao, only those that actually expect a second date!! duhhhhhhhh lmao

You should be a book writer