It's dark here. Can I hunt lightning bugs instead?

I apologize to any ladies who may actually not think money is important. There may actually BE a few of you out there.

Myself, I don't really believe there are. Way too many experiences that indicate the opposite.

Sure...have fun with it....LMAO

Damn...I laughed in spite of myself at that one....

Apology accepted.

that's exactly what the f*cking divorce lawyer says.

No foul here hon. I have a theory about how most of you fellas who feel this way ended up with money hungry gals...you were too blind by, looks-like love, to realize they were that way when you started dating them too.

Sorry guys! I know there are women out there who are all about the love and companionship. Don't let a bad experience in your life stop you from giving them a shot...you will recognize love better this time around for your past experiences. It's not just about trusting the gal, it's about trusting yourself to make a better choice too. IMHO

Wink,wink,smile for youjustaguy!

Well....at least being kinda bitter got me a wink and a smile. :-)

oh darlings my dream is still alive.I'll have a that i can't wait to see everyday.A I can't wait to cook his favorite meal.A that I will think of special things to do for him everyday.A that I wake up with a smile with and greet the day with happiness.

I really wouldn't allow my past experiences to keep me from giving someone a shot...but DAMN...I am SO cautious now that most of the time ( if not ALL the time ) I wind up over analyzing things and screwing it up anyway.

Having your heart shattered on a few occasions tends to make a guy somewhat gunshy. It's not a good thing, but I just can't help it.

Sounds to me like some of you guys have had bad experiences with woman.It makes me wonder why you are on this site?Is it just a bad nite? I am here hopeing to meet the right one for me but being a relatively new to this site and reading what I am tonite I am getting discouraged. frown

Well..some of us have had bad experiences. Some more than others.

That doesn't mean I am going to give up. Maybe I'll get lucky and find someone who actually turns out to be a GOOD experience.

But...if someone decides to have some interest in me...I think posting what I do here will help let them know why I am as cautious as I am.

Don't get discouraged. Most of the guys here ( I think ) aren't quite as bitter as I am...lol

It's not even being bitter, really. I guess it's more like...oh hell...I dunno. Bitter = angry about something...I'm not p*ssed off at any of my ex's.

: shrugs :

I've had not only my heart shattered, but my home, family & credit too. I have worked too long & hard alone to risk losing everthing again. I am not going to date any more deadbeats. That being said, I realize that there are many ways to contribute besides a traditional paycheck.

Not me.

Well..I'm not referring to the jobless losers who want someone to support them. Those guys are idiots.

I'll put it this way....if someone in California ( just about ANYWHERE in Cali ) saw what I make a year, that person would think that I am dead broke and always scraping by. What they wouldn't realize is that, for the area I live in, what I make is actually pretty good money because other than gas and groceries, the cost of living is pretty low.

The problem is, most of the time, the income level itself is the consideration, rather than the area in which that income level is being made.

I work hard & I love to cook & pamper a guy, but I am overwieght & not beautiful. Guys would rather be abused by eye candy.

I don't make much either, but I am doing ok on what I make. I am not a typical consumer.

back at you my dear

I hope you can see past your bitterness (as you called it)And maybe see the butterflies, smile.

I'm pretty sure most of us here have had our hearts broken and stomped on too and probably broke a few as well. I don't give up easily and am in no rush.I believe in fate but sometimes fate needs a hand that's why I am keeping an open mind and less of a gaurd up.smile