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Id mind my own business...
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...that is the question... If you were talking to a friend's husband on messenger...and all of a sudden the message turned odd..cyber sexual in nature and obviously not a message meant for you..what would you do? Would you tell your friend what her husband was up to? This actually happend to me once. And I was dead silent...then all of a sudden after a long pause he messaged again and said, "OooooooPS!, PLEASsssssssse dont' tell " I didn't know what to say, but managed, "HA! , Ok...but I got you by the balls and you better not let me hear of anything like this again!" Well, I think I did the right thing. Because that was 10 yrs ago and they are still together raised their kids and he has thanked me time and time again for not being a rat. We are very good friends.  NO OFFENSE, BUT, I THINK YOU MAY OF JUST KEPT HIM FROM GETTING CAUGHT...... |
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...that is the question... If you were talking to a friend's husband on messenger...and all of a sudden the message turned odd..cyber sexual in nature and obviously not a message meant for you..what would you do? Would you tell your friend what her husband was up to? This actually happend to me once. And I was dead silent...then all of a sudden after a long pause he messaged again and said, "OooooooPS!, PLEASsssssssse dont' tell " I didn't know what to say, but managed, "HA! , Ok...but I got you by the balls and you better not let me hear of anything like this again!" Well, I think I did the right thing. Because that was 10 yrs ago and they are still together raised their kids and he has thanked me time and time again for not being a rat. We are very good friends. personally I'd want to know if my partner was cheating or talking to others in a sexual nature. So my answer would be yes I probably would have told. Don't know if I could live with the guilt of keeping everything a secret. |
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...that is the question... If you were talking to a friend's husband on messenger...and all of a sudden the message turned odd..cyber sexual in nature and obviously not a message meant for you..what would you do? Would you tell your friend what her husband was up to? This actually happend to me once. And I was dead silent...then all of a sudden after a long pause he messaged again and said, "OooooooPS!, PLEASsssssssse dont' tell " I didn't know what to say, but managed, "HA! , Ok...but I got you by the balls and you better not let me hear of anything like this again!" Well, I think I did the right thing. Because that was 10 yrs ago and they are still together raised their kids and he has thanked me time and time again for not being a rat. We are very good friends. personally I'd want to know if my partner was cheating or talking to others in a sexual nature. So my answer would be yes I probably would have told. Don't know if I could live with the guilt of keeping everything a secret. how about the guilt of telling and them breaking up and kids being without their dad? Im not saying what he did was right. I am saying that should I have interjected myself into it? No, I don't think it was my place. Keep in mind they are both my friends..not just her but him as well...so, who do you choose? Best choice was to stay out of it. |
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...that is the question... If you were talking to a friend's husband on messenger...and all of a sudden the message turned odd..cyber sexual in nature and obviously not a message meant for you..what would you do? Would you tell your friend what her husband was up to? This actually happend to me once. And I was dead silent...then all of a sudden after a long pause he messaged again and said, "OooooooPS!, PLEASsssssssse dont' tell " I didn't know what to say, but managed, "HA! , Ok...but I got you by the balls and you better not let me hear of anything like this again!" Well, I think I did the right thing. Because that was 10 yrs ago and they are still together raised their kids and he has thanked me time and time again for not being a rat. We are very good friends. personally I'd want to know if my partner was cheating or talking to others in a sexual nature. So my answer would be yes I probably would have told. Don't know if I could live with the guilt of keeping everything a secret. how about the guilt of telling and them breaking up and kids being without their dad? Im not saying what he did was right. I am saying that should I have interjected myself into it? No, I don't think it was my place. Keep in mind they are both my friends..not just her but him as well...so, who do you choose? Best choice was to stay out of it. Better to lose a bad friend and keep a good one, in my opinion...... |
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You did the right thing....
That is the problem with everyone now days...they want to get involved with everyone elses life.....why can't people mind their own business....I think there is an old saying Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone.... |
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...that is the question... If you were talking to a friend's husband on messenger...and all of a sudden the message turned odd..cyber sexual in nature and obviously not a message meant for you..what would you do? Would you tell your friend what her husband was up to? This actually happend to me once. And I was dead silent...then all of a sudden after a long pause he messaged again and said, "OooooooPS!, PLEASsssssssse dont' tell " I didn't know what to say, but managed, "HA! , Ok...but I got you by the balls and you better not let me hear of anything like this again!" Well, I think I did the right thing. Because that was 10 yrs ago and they are still together raised their kids and he has thanked me time and time again for not being a rat. We are very good friends. personally I'd want to know if my partner was cheating or talking to others in a sexual nature. So my answer would be yes I probably would have told. Don't know if I could live with the guilt of keeping everything a secret. how about the guilt of telling and them breaking up and kids being without their dad? Im not saying what he did was right. I am saying that should I have interjected myself into it? No, I don't think it was my place. Keep in mind they are both my friends..not just her but him as well...so, who do you choose? Best choice was to stay out of it. Glad your decision has worked out for you and them. 
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I'd love to see the look on people's faces that are saying "it's the right thing" if their spouse was cheating on them and they found out later that a friend knew all along.
How can you call the wife your friend? You got involved the day you received that message whether you want to accept it or not and you've basically lied to her all these years. I wouldn't want a friend like that, and I don't know anyone who would. |
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Edited by
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Sun 07/20/08 08:41 AM
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boy, i would want to be told myself....if my friend didnt tell me id sure feel betrayed if i found out that they knew this all along and would also wonder what esle they were hiding.....sorry to say id lose trust for that friend too and also wonder if somehow she was also involved with my hubby..... not saying that you were but one would wonder... jmo
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im curious if the situation was different say you despised the hubby anyway.... would you tell your friend then?
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you did the right thing
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