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Topic: this is a difficult one
debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:59 AM
I don't count anyone out, skin is just skin. If they're a good person and I find them attractive it doesn't matter at all. if you find someone attractive, fairplay

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 07/19/08 11:59 AM
You should try it......you may just like it!!!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:00 PM
You should try it......you may just like it!!! lol

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:00 PM
i just dont like the interegation, when i say im not interested, they shouldnt question me if its over there race or not, i dont do that if a mans not interested in me.

YamilethJ Joined Thu 11/01/07 Posts: 463	Sat 07/19/08 12:01 PM
Just tell them that he is not your type, whatever he thinks that is up to him, black guys can be cute but you haven't met the one you like so no worry about it.

justme659 Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 6144	Sat 07/19/08 12:02 PM
Why tell anyone youre not attracted to them whether they are a different race or not??? Just say youre not interested. Enough said!! i do say that, and they ALWAYS say its because im black isnt it? and i say no, thats why im asking of a way to tell them without coming across racist. After the first response telling them that you are not interested you are under no obligation to explain any further. Even if they write to you.

plk1966 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 31042	Sat 07/19/08 12:03 PM
You don't need to explain WHY you are not interested, just say no thanks and move on! I get this all the time too. I never give a reason, that is my business not theirs.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:03 PM
Just tell them that he is not your type, whatever he thinks that is up to him, black guys can be cute but you haven't met the one you like so no worry about it. thankyou. yes they can be cute, but if say im not interested, they should keep questioning me if its over there race or not, because thats not fair, id never do that. indian guys have said they wont date me because im white, and i say thats fine, because its your preference and i say thanks for being honest and thats the end of it. i keep these guys as good friends, i just dont want to date the ones ive met, like you say i havnt met a cute one yet

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:04 PM
Why tell anyone youre not attracted to them whether they are a different race or not??? Just say youre not interested. Enough said!! i do say that, and they ALWAYS say its because im black isnt it? and i say no, thats why im asking of a way to tell them without coming across racist. After the first response telling them that you are not interested you are under no obligation to explain any further. Even if they write to you. thats the best reply so far, thankyou so muc for that, thats what i will do from now on. thankyou

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:05 PM
You don't need to explain WHY you are not interested, just say no thanks and move on! I get this all the time too. I never give a reason, that is my business not theirs. i agree

YourLove1 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 5275	Sat 07/19/08 12:05 PM
Just tell them that he is not your type, whatever he thinks that is up to him, black guys can be cute but you haven't met the one you like so no worry about it. thankyou. yes they can be cute, but if say im not interested, they should keep questioning me if its over there race or not, because thats not fair, id never do that. indian guys have said they wont date me because im white, and i say thats fine, because its your preference and i say thanks for being honest and thats the end of it. i keep these guys as good friends, i just dont want to date the ones ive met, like you say i havnt met a cute one yet im not cute

MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Sat 07/19/08 12:05 PM
I hate to say this Debbie, but no matter how you try to defend preference, saying you don't date black guys will only be interpreted as if you are being racist. It's kind of like when someone say they won't date overweight people or short people, they could be interpreted as being shallow. It's a cruel term, but to some it's the truth.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:06 PM
Just tell them that he is not your type, whatever he thinks that is up to him, black guys can be cute but you haven't met the one you like so no worry about it. thankyou. yes they can be cute, but if say im not interested, they should keep questioning me if its over there race or not, because thats not fair, id never do that. indian guys have said they wont date me because im white, and i say thats fine, because its your preference and i say thanks for being honest and thats the end of it. i keep these guys as good friends, i just dont want to date the ones ive met, like you say i havnt met a cute one yet im not cute your the cutest weiner there is

A64WOODY Joined Tue 03/04/08 Posts: 6830	Sat 07/19/08 12:06 PM
Why tell anyone youre not attracted to them whether they are a different race or not??? Just say youre not interested. Enough said!! i do say that, and they ALWAYS say its because im black isnt it? and i say no, thats why im asking of a way to tell them without coming across racist. If you are telling them no when the answer is yes, then I would consider that as an act of racism. Tell the truth and it is just plain fact.

JaymeStephens84a0lc Joined Mon 04/23/07 Posts: 2704	Sat 07/19/08 12:06 PM
I agree, if you're not interested and the keep asking questions just block them. You do not have to explain why you're not interested. I had a guy who mutual matched me on here (and winked me on OTHER dating sites), then denied my add request when I came across him on myspace saying he wasn't interested... now THAT was confusing. Haha, my guess is he was married or co-habitating and didn't want anyone to know he is on dating sites.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:08 PM
I hate to say this Debbie, but no matter how you try to defend preference, saying you don't date black guys will only be interpreted as if you are being racist. It's kind of like when someone say they won't date overweight people or short people, they could be interpreted as being shallow. It's a cruel term, but to some it's the truth. i understand that, but if im not attracted to someone and i tell them so, its not right for them to interigate me and question me over and over again saying its there race. i have a lot of black friends, and there all lovely, im just want the questioning to stop, and this is why i did this thread to see how to stop it, without coming across racist. ive had some good replies so i know what to do now.

YamilethJ Joined Thu 11/01/07 Posts: 463	Sat 07/19/08 12:08 PM
Well look at my case I am not racist but definately I like white man I am spanish and i do not like spanish man It is like when you do not like pizza you just don;t like it why we do not know!

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sat 07/19/08 12:09 PM
you can't help who you are and aren't attracted to. You shouldn't be considered a racist just because you happen to not be attracted to other races.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:09 PM
Why tell anyone youre not attracted to them whether they are a different race or not??? Just say youre not interested. Enough said!! i do say that, and they ALWAYS say its because im black isnt it? and i say no, thats why im asking of a way to tell them without coming across racist. If you are telling them no when the answer is yes, then I would consider that as an act of racism. Tell the truth and it is just plain fact. i usually say its because of the distnace, because i dont know what else to say, thats why i did this thread, and now i know what to say so all is fine. thankyou.

plk1966 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 31042	Sat 07/19/08 12:09 PM
Just tell them that he is not your type, whatever he thinks that is up to him, black guys can be cute but you haven't met the one you like so no worry about it. thankyou. yes they can be cute, but if say im not interested, they should keep questioning me if its over there race or not, because thats not fair, id never do that. indian guys have said they wont date me because im white, and i say thats fine, because its your preference and i say thanks for being honest and thats the end of it. i keep these guys as good friends, i just dont want to date the ones ive met, like you say i havnt met a cute one yet im not cute Oh you are the cutest weiner I know!!