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Topic: this is a difficult one
whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Sat 07/19/08 11:45 AM
Why lie about it everybody? I mean just because you are not interested in the person does not mean the desereve to be lied to. just tell them I am sorry, but I am not interested. That it is nothing against your race, I just prefure to stay inside of mine.

30andbored Joined Mon 06/16/08 Posts: 658	Sat 07/19/08 11:45 AM
It shouldn't be too big of a problem I know alot of women that prefer or will only date black men because it is such a appeal for them . . can't change attraction . . some people are attracted to crosseyes and buck teeth . . its not racist its just what floats their boat =P i agree, its lile i go for a older men, thats my preference. Shucks lol

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:46 AM
It shouldn't be too big of a problem I know alot of women that prefer or will only date black men because it is such a appeal for them . . can't change attraction . . some people are attracted to crosseyes and buck teeth . . its not racist its just what floats their boat =P i agree, its lile i go for a older men, thats my preference. Shucks lol your older

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Sat 07/19/08 11:46 AM
Why tell anyone youre not attracted to them whether they are a different race or not??? Just say youre not interested. Enough said!! i do say that, and they ALWAYS say its because im black isnt it? and i say no, thats why im asking of a way to tell them without coming across racist. You dont need to tell them its because they are black. Just say you guys dont mesh......whatever.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:47 AM
Why lie about it everybody? I mean just because you are not interested in the person does not mean the desereve to be lied to. just tell them I am sorry, but I am not interested. That it is nothing against your race, I just prefure to stay inside of mine. ok that sounds fair enough. like i say my neice is mixed race and she is my world, im not racist in the slightest, but when they turn around and say, ITS BECAUSE IM BLACK ISNT IT,what do i do??

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:47 AM
Why tell anyone youre not attracted to them whether they are a different race or not??? Just say youre not interested. Enough said!! i do say that, and they ALWAYS say its because im black isnt it? and i say no, thats why im asking of a way to tell them without coming across racist. You dont need to tell them its because they are black. Just say you guys dont mesh......whatever. ok thanks

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sat 07/19/08 11:47 AM
Just tell him , your not interested

awolf1010 Joined Sun 03/30/08 Posts: 7251	Sat 07/19/08 11:49 AM
I have had this come up actually...I told him straight out, I am not racist but do not date other than caucasion..he was very understanding...or you could tell them you just found someone! its really hard because im NOT racist, and i dont want to be accused of being one. im just simply NOT attracted to black guys. the hard part is telling them without them calling you racist, but with some i think its unavoidable. saying your not attracted to someone just because the color of their skin......is a racist statement in itself!!!!!!!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:49 AM
Just tell him , your not interested i do, but then they turn around and say its because im black isnt it, and i say no. at this point i dont know what to say, i ususally say its the distance, because i dont want to hurt there feelings

Duffy Joined Sat 10/07/06 Posts: 3775	Sat 07/19/08 11:49 AM
u have to be straight up and say u just don't date certain ethnic backgrounds or something like that without causing a big stink about it. some will ask do you date outside your own race, and you just say nope...or you don't date outside your own race....in the first breath before there is any time for chit chat. this is partly your fault. u c u r blonde, and a cutie pie. i think u should dye your hair gray, and scratch your face up a little bit, adding some deep circles, and a anna niole pitbull pump up bra. that should discourage a few.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:50 AM
I have had this come up actually...I told him straight out, I am not racist but do not date other than caucasion..he was very understanding...or you could tell them you just found someone! its really hard because im NOT racist, and i dont want to be accused of being one. im just simply NOT attracted to black guys. the hard part is telling them without them calling you racist, but with some i think its unavoidable. saying your not attracted to someone just because the color of their skin......is a racist statement in itself!!!!!!! no its not, im not attracted to younger guys, its the same thing.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:50 AM
u have to be straight up and say u just don't date certain ethnic backgrounds or something like that without causing a big stink about it. some will ask do you date outside your own race, and you just say nope...or you don't date outside your own race....in the first breath before there is any time for chit chat. this is partly your fault. u c u r blonde, and a cutie pie. i think u should dye your hair gray, and scratch your face up a little bit, adding some deep circles, and a anna niole pitbull pump up bra. that should discourage a few. lol

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:51 AM
I have had this come up actually...I told him straight out, I am not racist but do not date other than caucasion..he was very understanding...or you could tell them you just found someone! its really hard because im NOT racist, and i dont want to be accused of being one. im just simply NOT attracted to black guys. the hard part is telling them without them calling you racist, but with some i think its unavoidable. saying your not attracted to someone just because the color of their skin......is a racist statement in itself!!!!!!! you could say im not attracted to blondes, i wouldnt judge you for that, its your own personal preference.

YourLove1 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 5275	Sat 07/19/08 11:52 AM
I have had this come up actually...I told him straight out, I am not racist but do not date other than caucasion..he was very understanding...or you could tell them you just found someone! its really hard because im NOT racist, and i dont want to be accused of being one. im just simply NOT attracted to black guys. the hard part is telling them without them calling you racist, but with some i think its unavoidable. saying your not attracted to someone just because the color of their skin......is a racist statement in itself!!!!!!! no its not, im not attracted to younger guys, its the same thing. you gotta go for the right weiner that knows what its doing

ahuhalicious Joined Fri 03/07/08 Posts: 995	Sat 07/19/08 11:52 AM
its your prefrence stick with it :)

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:53 AM
I have had this come up actually...I told him straight out, I am not racist but do not date other than caucasion..he was very understanding...or you could tell them you just found someone! its really hard because im NOT racist, and i dont want to be accused of being one. im just simply NOT attracted to black guys. the hard part is telling them without them calling you racist, but with some i think its unavoidable. saying your not attracted to someone just because the color of their skin......is a racist statement in itself!!!!!!! no its not, im not attracted to younger guys, its the same thing. you gotta go for the right weiner that knows what its doing

browneyedgirl4 Joined Sun 03/23/08 Posts: 1	Sat 07/19/08 11:54 AM
ya i would say just not interested and not bring up race at all...no point

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:54 AM
its your prefrence stick with it :) thankyou. black guys have said to my sister they dont white girls, but i wouldnt class that as a racist. its there personal preference.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 11:54 AM
ya i would say just not interested and not bring up race at all...no point i DONT, they DO, thats the problem, i have stated this.

JaymeStephens84a0lc Joined Mon 04/23/07 Posts: 2704	Sat 07/19/08 11:58 AM
I don't count anyone out, skin is just skin. If they're a good person and I find them attractive it doesn't matter at all.