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Topic: What part do kids play
HMontana's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:52 PM
in your mate selection?


itsmetina's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:54 PM
big part i need a kid friendly man

soxfan94's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:54 PM
They play a huge role. I'm still getting my own life in manageable order, let alone having any responsibility for a kid. Plus, I don't have the kind of money needed to legitimately help a woman raise a kid.

It sucks, because I feel like it rules out a lot of great potential dates for me. ohwell

auburngirl's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:54 PM
None...I have none, and his are grown. I was always one that never minded if a man had kids since I never got to have any I welcomed that role but...not meant to be.

franshade's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:55 PM
my daughter is grown and all she wants is me to be happy, so after her interrogation she tells me whether it's ok to date this person or not :laughing:

TwilightsTwin's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:55 PM
Its just not my mate selection, but whom I choose to be friends with or introduce to my child. Anyone who is around my son must be a positive influence.

PATSFAN's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:57 PM
I don't have kids, so I'm not sure.

HMontana's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:57 PM

They play a huge role. I'm still getting my own life in manageable order, let alone having any responsibility for a kid. Plus, I don't have the kind of money needed to legitimately help a woman raise a kid.

It sucks, because I feel like it rules out a lot of great potential dates for me. ohwell


Just curious...if the woman was quite capable of taking care of herself and her child emotionally and responsibly, would you consider joining the fray - assuming you were in love with her, of course.

ledi180's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:57 PM
I've got a 6 year old daughter, so it's quite important to me that my 'mate' love and care for her as well. If he has children, I'd expect to love and care for his too.

Guess we'll see how that works out for me - so far, not so good.

indifferent

grneyedldy1967's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:57 PM
A big part.. if my son hasn't liked someone I've dated in the past it was adios amigos!

elwoodsully's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:58 PM
I guess I could say that children would simply be a bonus.

kayak69's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:58 PM
It doesn't matter to me either way. My EX had kids and I miss the kids more than I miss her (I don't miss her.)

HMontana's photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:58 PM

my daughter is grown and all she wants is me to be happy, so after her interrogation she tells me whether it's ok to date this person or not :laughing:



My son isn't "grown" but he thinks he is...I understand the interrogation thing. Nobody's good enough for mama.:laughing: :laughing:

no photo
Thu 07/17/08 06:59 PM
I don't have kids. But, how the kid(s) react with me can make or break the deal.

franshade's photo
Thu 07/17/08 07:00 PM


my daughter is grown and all she wants is me to be happy, so after her interrogation she tells me whether it's ok to date this person or not :laughing:



My son isn't "grown" but he thinks he is...I understand the interrogation thing. Nobody's good enough for mama.:laughing: :laughing:


funny how she thinks our roles have been reversed :laughing:
children are very close to their moms, so I can imagine...

hdjackyl's photo
Thu 07/17/08 07:01 PM
Kids are not an issue. The kids are a part of the person you want to be with. Package deal. No problem.

Peccy's photo
Thu 07/17/08 07:02 PM
I don't have kids so not sure I can answer that, but I would give my love to this child, if it was reciprocated is totally up to them.

awolf1010's photo
Thu 07/17/08 07:04 PM
what about single dads?????


soxfan94's photo
Thu 07/17/08 07:04 PM


Just curious...if the woman was quite capable of taking care of herself and her child emotionally and responsibly, would you consider joining the fray - assuming you were in love with her, of course.


I'm not sure...I feel that if I was in love with someone I would really want to be involved to a large extent in their life for something as important as their child. I would have a very hard time having a relationship with them without feeling the need to contribute and help them with the kid. Maybe if the right opportunity came along and they were very clear about not needing or wanting help, but I just feel that it's in my nature to try to help.

Jules0565's photo
Thu 07/17/08 07:05 PM
I had never let my children meet any of my dates.. I didn't want them to see several men in and out of my life. They would finally meet when the two of us had made a commitment to each other.. and then it was usually after 6 months they would meet my kids.. by then I had summed him up pretty good to know his views and such on children and if they'd be a good match.. The past 2 relationships, this worked very well..they liked them.. just that the relationships didnt work out.

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