I've heard of men or women signing pre-nups before a marriage in order for one spouse or the other to keep much of what they have in the case of an eventual divorce. Usually pre-nups happen only in cases where a lot of assets are held by one of the parties.

Why not go it a step further and make it apply to everyone getting married? Before any two people can marry, they would have to complete divorce papers. That way they would know, in advance, what will happen and what they stand to lose in the event one or both parties want out.

It would remove all of the materal squabbles and even set child custody and who pays the child support and/or alimony.

It would also make sure both parties clearly know what they're getting into and what they stand to lose. No surprises!

Best of all if a pre-marriage divorce agreement were required in every state, a lot of lawyers would be looking for new jobs!

I plan to do one when I get married eventually.. Love isn't a fairy tale and forever isn't always forever. No sense going into things glassy eyed and naive. I hope that marriage is a one time and one time only thing for me but no one knows the future so it's best to be prepared just in case!

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you don't trust our love?!?!?!?!?

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Its like life insurance. You dont plan on death but you get it just incase. Or car insurance, health insurance same thing with a pre-nup its marriage insurance. You dont plan on a divorce. But just incase.

maybe a little

If you have to go to all that trouble, why get married in the first place?

my sentiments exactly......

life itself is a gamble.....so is marriage!!!!!!

Why ruin a good relationship by getting married?

Because 65% of all marriages end in divorce! Yeah, it's trouble, but maybe a couple will better realize what they are geeting into and it just might save the taxpayers a lot of money footing the bill for all the divorce courts.

Spare me the "trust" and "love", please! I'd say a 65% chance of failure is good reason to to do it! Don't pretend divorce won't happen to you!

I saw a Harley shirt a few years back that said it best. I changed the wording to eliminate the sexism on the actual shirt. It said; "Want to really get to know the person you're with? Meet that person in court!"

If you think this is a lot of trouble, try the trouble you go through in a divorce!

If you sign one or insist on one you must think your marriage is going to fail. I wouldn't nor would I ever ask someone to sign such an agreement. Marriage means much more to me than anyone who has ever signed one or drew one up. Play all the word games you want to get it by your thought processes. It's a lousy way to start a marriage.

just avoid marriage completely if your concerned about the divorce

I don't think a pre nup is necessary at all, why not just commit yourself to your marriage?

Most people just do not put in the time and energy to make a marriage work, that's why our divorce rate is so high. Think about people your grandparents age. How many of those people do you know that had a divorce, probably one or two at best. You know why, the worked at it. They didn't hit a rough spot and go "f**k it, I'm outta here." What they would do is ride it out, work it out, and stay together.

Most folks I hear talk about this stuff today, don't even take responsiblity for their own actions, much less take responsiblility for someone elses. That is what a marriage is, you have to look at it as "I'm responsible for this other person now (much like your children)." You have to be willing to sacrifice your own happiness for a spouse, and expect nothing in return. It's work people, harder than any job, because it comes home with you.

Pre nups are for people with no heart or backbone.

alimony is the dumbest thing in the world. I don't care what you "got use to" when you were married. After a divorce, neither party should have to keep sending money to the other just because at one point they were married and they got "use to having money".
Makes me sick.

If you go into marriage with no faith hope or trust in the union it will fail period. The problem with our society is that people don't want to work for any damn thing, just want things to be. Relationships are work and you have to try not just get ready for the inevitable.

I would like to break your reasoning down here for a moment.

"Most people just do not put in the time and energy to make a marriage work, that's why our divorce rate is so high. Think about people your grandparents age. How many of those people do you know that had a divorce, probably one or two at best. You know why, the worked at it. They didn't hit a rough spot and go "f**k it, I'm outta here." What they would do is ride it out, work it out, and stay together."

Back in them there days, miss-use of women ran amuck. It was hidden. This comes from my grandmother. There were none, if any reports of miss-use of women. There was more of a religious aspects going on. And most partners were staying together even thru abuse. So with the ease of divorce in today’s society, it makes it so easy for one person to take almost everything, even if they didn't enjoy the items.

"Most folks I hear talk about this stuff today, don't even take responsibility for their own actions, and much less take responsibility for someone else’s. That is what a marriage is; you have to look at it as "I'm responsible for this other person now (much like your children)." You have to be willing to sacrifice your own happiness for a spouse, and expect nothing in return. Its work people, harder than any job, because it comes home with you."

I will agree with you on the part about marriage taking work, but not much. If you need to work that hard to keep your marriage going, is it worth it? Marriage should be on a mutual level, solving problems, working on house hold task. Both partners sharing respect for each other’s personal views. Both partners giving respect to one another. Sacrificing your own happiness to keep your partner happy? And expecting nothing in return? I would have to say "NOT!" It takes two partners to be happy at all in a marriage, If one is not then what do you think it will eventually lead to? All I ask for is the same respect and happiness from a partner when I am lucky enough to find her.
You have some good points here, but it sounds more or less like control. And the reason for high divorce rates; are that filling for a divorce has become so easy, with most states having a no-fault law. Just like getting married in Vegas; way to quick and to easy. And without having both partners going to some type of consoling. There are reasons for divorce, some are personal and some are just off the wall. And today most people do not take the time to "find themselves" before moving on to another relationship.
I would even go as far to say that I don’t totally agree with pre-numps, but in today’s society maybe there can be reasons for them. I remember hearing some women once talk about the three meanings of marriage. First time is for love, second is for Money, and the last is for someone to change your Depends under garment.

i think a lot of people get divorced without really trying to work on the issues that may be the factors in it.....as well as rushing into a marriage they havent thought through yet....