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Topic: I See Him Posting
Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Sun 07/13/08 10:02 PM
Sometimes they actually do you a favor by disappearing. I would not take it personally, there is a difference of opinion or something and they do not want to address it.

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sun 07/13/08 10:03 PM
This isn't real....this is the internet Are you calling yourself fake? sure...do you think I walk around and say this crazy stuff in real life I am the same in real life as well as here nuts

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Sun 07/13/08 10:03 PM
This isn't real....this is the internet Are you calling yourself fake? sure...do you think I walk around and say this crazy stuff in real life Sure why not, I do! I'm not like this in real life...I am quite boring in real life

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sun 07/13/08 10:04 PM
Sometimes they actually do you a favor by disappearing. I would not take it personally, there is a difference of opinion or something and they do not want to address it. like I said scared him off

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Sun 07/13/08 10:05 PM
This isn't real....this is the internet i'm real maybe...would only know if I met you in person tina...people take this way to seriously people on here do take things seriously.i try not to but i take people's feelings into consideration always

WhoIAm Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 3909	Sun 07/13/08 10:06 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. me neither hmmm...maybe my response sounded harsh. actually, I do care. it bothers me. BUT I have come to view the situation differently in order to stop the stress about it. Essentially, you can't control anyone else's actions or behaviors. What other people do may not seem right to you, but whatever they do isn't about you. It's about themselves. If you take everything personally, you feel like crap about it. If you make assumptions about what that person's motivations are, you feel like crap about it and could easily be mistaken. So I'm trying to just take everything in stride, not make assumptions, and not take it personally. I feel a whole lot better about myself just doing that. I hope that makes sense.

WhoIAm Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 3909	Sun 07/13/08 10:07 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. Well I do, I mean how can you build a friendship with somebody and then have them stop talking to you, and not care? sorry, i responded to this from a different posting because my initial response was harsh and didn't explain what i meant.

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Sun 07/13/08 10:07 PM
This isn't real....this is the internet i'm real maybe...would only know if I met you in person tina...people take this way to seriously people on here do take things seriously.i try not to but i take people's feelings into consideration always I agree. The people in front of the monitor are real, with real feelings. I mean if you are not real on a dating site, then how are you supposed to meet anybody?

Dragoness Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 23320	Sun 07/13/08 10:08 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. me neither hmmm...maybe my response sounded harsh. actually, I do care. it bothers me. BUT I have come to view the situation differently in order to stop the stress about it. Essentially, you can't control anyone else's actions or behaviors. What other people do may not seem right to you, but whatever they do isn't about you. It's about themselves. If you take everything personally, you feel like crap about it. If you make assumptions about what that person's motivations are, you feel like crap about it and could easily be mistaken. So I'm trying to just take everything in stride, not make assumptions, and not take it personally. I feel a whole lot better about myself just doing that. I hope that makes sense. exactly

chris1979 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 4987	Sun 07/13/08 10:09 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. me neither hmmm...maybe my response sounded harsh. actually, I do care. it bothers me. BUT I have come to view the situation differently in order to stop the stress about it. Essentially, you can't control anyone else's actions or behaviors. What other people do may not seem right to you, but whatever they do isn't about you. It's about themselves. If you take everything personally, you feel like crap about it. If you make assumptions about what that person's motivations are, you feel like crap about it and could easily be mistaken. So I'm trying to just take everything in stride, not make assumptions, and not take it personally. I feel a whole lot better about myself just doing that. I hope that makes sense. can you please say that again. please

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Sun 07/13/08 10:10 PM
This isn't real....this is the internet i'm real maybe...would only know if I met you in person tina...people take this way to seriously people on here do take things seriously.i try not to but i take people's feelings into consideration always I agree. The people in front of the monitor are real, with real feelings. I mean if you are not real on a dating site, then how are you supposed to meet anybody? I don't plan on it...a free dating site??? There are a couple of success stories but really??? Nope, I'm on here to have fun...I don't go around hurting anyones feelings...I just do my thing

LIJOMA Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 2591	Sun 07/13/08 10:10 PM
He's a punk if he cant at the very LEAST email you and tell you why he chooses not to associate with you anymore. MY OPINION!!!

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Sun 07/13/08 10:12 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. me neither hmmm...maybe my response sounded harsh. actually, I do care. it bothers me. BUT I have come to view the situation differently in order to stop the stress about it. Essentially, you can't control anyone else's actions or behaviors. What other people do may not seem right to you, but whatever they do isn't about you. It's about themselves. If you take everything personally, you feel like crap about it. If you make assumptions about what that person's motivations are, you feel like crap about it and could easily be mistaken. So I'm trying to just take everything in stride, not make assumptions, and not take it personally. I feel a whole lot better about myself just doing that. I hope that makes sense. I can see where you are coming from, and can agree, it is just so frustrating sometimes.

WhoIAm Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 3909	Sun 07/13/08 10:12 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. me neither hmmm...maybe my response sounded harsh. actually, I do care. it bothers me. BUT I have come to view the situation differently in order to stop the stress about it. Essentially, you can't control anyone else's actions or behaviors. What other people do may not seem right to you, but whatever they do isn't about you. It's about themselves. If you take everything personally, you feel like crap about it. If you make assumptions about what that person's motivations are, you feel like crap about it and could easily be mistaken. So I'm trying to just take everything in stride, not make assumptions, and not take it personally. I feel a whole lot better about myself just doing that. I hope that makes sense. can you please say that again. please there ya go. and yes, I care, Chris. and I'm sorry for making assumptions.

whispertoascream Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 22844	Sun 07/13/08 10:12 PM
He's a punk if he cant at the very LEAST email you and tell you why he chooses not to associate with you anymore. MY OPINION!!! He does not even post in my boards anymore.

chris1979 Joined Sun 10/14/07 Posts: 4987	Sun 07/13/08 10:13 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. me neither hmmm...maybe my response sounded harsh. actually, I do care. it bothers me. BUT I have come to view the situation differently in order to stop the stress about it. Essentially, you can't control anyone else's actions or behaviors. What other people do may not seem right to you, but whatever they do isn't about you. It's about themselves. If you take everything personally, you feel like crap about it. If you make assumptions about what that person's motivations are, you feel like crap about it and could easily be mistaken. So I'm trying to just take everything in stride, not make assumptions, and not take it personally. I feel a whole lot better about myself just doing that. I hope that makes sense. can you please say that again. please there ya go. and yes, I care, Chris. and I'm sorry for making assumptions.

WhoIAm Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 3909	Sun 07/13/08 10:14 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. me neither hmmm...maybe my response sounded harsh. actually, I do care. it bothers me. BUT I have come to view the situation differently in order to stop the stress about it. Essentially, you can't control anyone else's actions or behaviors. What other people do may not seem right to you, but whatever they do isn't about you. It's about themselves. If you take everything personally, you feel like crap about it. If you make assumptions about what that person's motivations are, you feel like crap about it and could easily be mistaken. So I'm trying to just take everything in stride, not make assumptions, and not take it personally. I feel a whole lot better about myself just doing that. I hope that makes sense. I can see where you are coming from, and can agree, it is just so frustrating sometimes. yep, it can be frustrating too. glad i could clarify the point though and hopefully give you a different way to look at it so it doesn't hurt so much.

LIJOMA Joined Wed 01/09/08 Posts: 2591	Sun 07/13/08 10:16 PM
He's a punk if he cant at the very LEAST email you and tell you why he chooses not to associate with you anymore. MY OPINION!!! He does not even post in my boards anymore. Then Fukc him!!! I know its easier said then done, obviously, but he is not worth your time. You deserve at least a explanation as to why, and if he cant at least do that, then that shows u right there what kind of person he really is.

WhoIAm Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 3909	Sun 07/13/08 10:17 PM
Oh yeah, familiar scenario. don't know the answer. don't really care either. me neither hmmm...maybe my response sounded harsh. actually, I do care. it bothers me. BUT I have come to view the situation differently in order to stop the stress about it. Essentially, you can't control anyone else's actions or behaviors. What other people do may not seem right to you, but whatever they do isn't about you. It's about themselves. If you take everything personally, you feel like crap about it. If you make assumptions about what that person's motivations are, you feel like crap about it and could easily be mistaken. So I'm trying to just take everything in stride, not make assumptions, and not take it personally. I feel a whole lot better about myself just doing that. I hope that makes sense. can you please say that again. please there ya go. and yes, I care, Chris. and I'm sorry for making assumptions. how the heck did i know you were going to jump on that.

muzikmaker Joined Tue 12/11/07 Posts: 98	Sun 07/13/08 10:17 PM
Sometimes a person wants to set up a long distance relationship and if you dont want that sometimes it is too hard to explain to them without hurting their feelings Come ON!!...I have had the scenario of which Whisper speaks happen at least 8 or 10 times just since the first of the year. Sometimes through IMing, other times through the phone. Even up to within 4 days of him supposedly flying in to meet me. It's like a new flavor of the month club. What is wrong with just saying..."I haven't felt comfortable with where some of our discussions have been going. It's nothing I can put my hand on, exactly, but it's enough that I think we should part ways. I think you are a really great person and wish you the best of luck." Instead, we continue to post messages or leave voice mails that go unanswered several times before we realize we must have just been jilted. That does wonders for our self-esteem. And then guys wonder why women are so skeptical.