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Topic: Would you still marry them?
iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sun 07/13/08 12:01 AM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? Only someone unable to feel real love would say NO!!! If LOVE is only a baby then adopt! Love is always or better be always MORE internal than external.

DrX Joined Sun 01/13/08 Posts: 1539	Sun 07/13/08 12:06 AM
Dr X. Please don't marry her. You already said you want "flesh of your flesh". You will cheat on her and have a child and that will hurt her terribly. Let her find a man that really doesn't want children. Please break off the engagement now. Better now than 15 yrs from now. imho Beautifully expressed and most likely what will happen. nah, did that already with my first wife, it's fun for a season, but then becomes a bother and you have to pick, somebody crys, somebody is happy.. It's all the same, loved by another while she's cursing my name.

Citizen_Joe Joined Sat 04/12/08 Posts: 4036	Sun 07/13/08 01:46 AM
Nope. Been there done that too many times already.

Pata Joined Sat 07/07/07 Posts: 23705	Sun 07/13/08 02:18 AM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? Not if I told him I wanted a big family and he hid it from me..........BASTARD!!!!!!!

brooke007 Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 5469	Sun 07/13/08 02:20 AM
i want a BIG family all of my own!!!!!!!! Green acres!!!

DestinysDream Joined Wed 02/20/08 Posts: 4805	Sun 07/13/08 02:51 AM
I wouldn't care. There is adoption. So many children without homes going from foster parent to foster parent.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Sun 07/13/08 03:27 AM
I wouldn't care. There is adoption. So many children without homes going from foster parent to foster parent. Thats right

nurjoyce Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 10283	Sun 07/13/08 03:34 AM
Yes

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sun 07/13/08 03:46 AM
sure - there's always baby mommas

bastet126 Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 15553	Sun 07/13/08 03:51 AM
wouldn't have stopped me ~ we live in modern times, if we both still wanted children, there are many other options.

subaudible9 Joined Thu 04/03/08 Posts: 490	Sun 07/13/08 03:52 AM
Part of somebody being a fiancee(?), is that they have discussed all these things prior. I am hoping they are only going to do this once, and only once! Part of that is raising a family through thick and thin. They should want everything out in the open. If someone is sterile, so be it. It doesn't make them a bad person by any stretch of the imagination, it just means that they are not right for anyone that wants children of their own. There should be no, "I didn't know that?", after two people have wed. These are things that have to be discussed before. And that goes with alot of other things that could go to other threads.

babysamantha6 Joined Sun 06/29/08 Posts: 54	Sun 07/13/08 01:32 PM
depends

cutelildevilsmom Joined Sat 04/07/07 Posts: 8862	Sun 07/13/08 02:45 PM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? God yes!!

Donnar Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 874	Sun 07/13/08 02:59 PM
Looks like it depends on if you are young and just starting your life or a middle aged or older person. I can't see any other reasons for the difference in answers.

Donnar Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 874	Sun 07/13/08 03:00 PM
iam4u, please read all of the pages of the post. Thank you very much.

littleredhen Joined Sat 01/12/08 Posts: 6837	Sun 07/13/08 03:38 PM
Very good discussion. I am through having children, but would gladly accept & help raise others with the right man. Mirror, you don't want to have a Dr. cut on you, but would want your partner to? My last boyfriend had a vasectomy & it was great. The spontaneity & total lack of worry was wonderful!