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Topic: Would you still marry them?
PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Sat 07/12/08 09:51 AM
I'll never get married again & I don't want kids!!

ReconParty19 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 461	Sat 07/12/08 09:53 AM
in a NY second!

BlueskyJ Joined Tue 06/26/07 Posts: 2927	Sat 07/12/08 09:54 AM
yep & that would be a +

BobbyJ Joined Fri 02/22/08 Posts: 1368	Sat 07/12/08 09:57 AM
I wouldn't want to be with a woman who wants and can have children. Four of my own (all adults) is enough already!

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Sat 07/12/08 09:57 AM
If we had discussed this prior to marriage and both had agreed on the situation, sure.

grneyedldy1967 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 2854	Sat 07/12/08 09:57 AM
I would never marry a man that wants more kids because I've done my part by raising two already. If he has kids already though then great!

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 07/12/08 09:57 AM
I would take it as a sign that we were destined to adopt. Adoption is as much a blessing as procreation...maybe more so.

Riardo Joined Wed 04/04/07 Posts: 464	Sat 07/12/08 10:00 AM
You ppl are messed up

heartSoul Joined Sun 08/26/07 Posts: 6038	Sat 07/12/08 10:00 AM Edited by heartSoul on Sat 07/12/08 10:02 AM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? not really looking to remarry but if this was my significant other in a long term relationship then sure

Jules0565 Joined Fri 06/06/08 Posts: 4485	Sat 07/12/08 10:03 AM
I personally do not want to "have" anymore of my own.. I have 2 adult children now.. if I met a man that had kids, that would be fine by me, I would treat them as if they were my own, as I have always done in the past. But if the man I met wanted kids.. we wouldnt make it, I can't have anymore, besides, I'm too OLD for that! lol

Lakeman Joined Mon 04/30/07 Posts: 10261	Sat 07/12/08 10:04 AM
This totally depends on the situation. Some people just don't need to have children...others need them to feel whole!!

lcjw Joined Thu 10/11/07 Posts: 8594	Sat 07/12/08 10:08 AM
yes.

boneyjoe Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 6196	Sat 07/12/08 10:12 AM
oh yes for sure,,i done my part already an some of some others,it's getting close for me to make th rest of my life pleasuer,,,,,,no more rasing kids

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Sat 07/12/08 11:14 AM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? I've already told you Mirror, we can adopt!

Donnar Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 874	Sat 07/12/08 01:51 PM
You ppl are messed up could you be more specific Riardo? I see that you have children and may be willing to have more, so I would like to know who and why you think people are "messed up".

Amberdee29045 Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 1729	Sat 07/12/08 01:55 PM
actually i'd think i'd be relieved......considering i just found out exactly how bad the disorder i have runs in MY family.....every generation, every child i couldn't live with myself knowing i had kids that will eventually end up with bipolar...

SharonM45458 Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 5694	Sat 07/12/08 02:05 PM
say your dad died when you was 11 and the only thing you have thought about since then was having a child, to do the things with, that you missed out on with your dad. I dunno adoption? adoption is honorable, but the same blood, the same spirit wouldnt be there. A surrogate mother is an option too.

Donnar Joined Mon 09/17/07 Posts: 874	Sat 07/12/08 02:23 PM
Thanks, Mirror, for the thought provoking post. Some young people breezed through with glasses half full= optimistically. Some thought about it. Of course I am 55 now and I just gave my own experience as a reference. It is an important question for a young couple starting a life as one. Catholic couples getting married "in the church" have to go through 8 weeks of group "therapy". We did that. This question never came up. I think it should. You know, the thing is, I know that I was fertile when we got married. He had LTR in college and never got a girl pregnant. We don't know if he was able to have children, do we. Like Henry VIII, ignorance is no excuse. How many women lost their heads because they did not provide a male heir? Little did he know that the male determines the sex of a child. good thank I find it interesting that Dr went silent. I hope that means he is seriously thinking about this. I know lots of people who don't want kids at all. Not a problem. I wanted a dozen. Yes, I did. A cold husband kept us from adopting more.

Amberdee29045 Joined Sun 11/04/07 Posts: 1729	Sat 07/12/08 02:27 PM
actually i'd think i'd be relieved......considering i just found out exactly how bad the disorder i have runs in MY family.....every generation, every child i couldn't live with myself knowing i had kids that will eventually end up with bipolar... and yes, this is something i've seriously thought about for several years (my ex was thinkin of in vitro before he started the drinking and drugs again)

EtherealEmbers Joined Sun 02/03/08 Posts: 6580	Sat 07/12/08 11:59 PM
Dr X. Please don't marry her. You already said you want "flesh of your flesh". You will cheat on her and have a child and that will hurt her terribly. Let her find a man that really doesn't want children. Please break off the engagement now. Better now than 15 yrs from now. imho Beautifully expressed and most likely what will happen.