Okay, here's the scenario.

You meet someone on this site and through emailing over the course of about a month, you become friends. All you're looking for is friendship with this person because you see their profile says married. Also you never talk about intimate things, just the basics of your personality traits and interests.

One day out of the blue you ask them if they ever cheated on anyone. Just for kicks. They reply something like this.

No. I would never do that. I have dated a few people, but my husband and I are not together and we have the agreement to see other people. We are together because of the kids and financial reasons.

Now to me that seems like a lie and the truth in the same sentence.

Would you still be their friend or would you just tell them you aren't interested in talking anymore?

How you you deal with this one?

i suck at relationships.

distance is a good thing though

awww.. don't be too hard on yourself..

they are either together or not together, but it sounds like she is being honest about telling you that they are still legally commited and most importantly is the commitment to the siblings. if you chose to communicate over the net, want to be pen pals what's problem

they are either together or not together, but it sounds like she is being honest about telling you that they are still legally commited and most importantly is the commitment to the siblings. if you chose to communicate over the net, want to be pen pals what's problem

at least she didn't lie to ya

You saw that they were married when you chose to become friends, she has not made any move to try to meet you...if you chose to go forward with a friendship, i think her being honest now shouldnt be held against her....i do not believe that out of blue you asked if she ever cheated, you might think you did...but something in your heart or brain made you ask the question...now ask yourself why her answer really bothered you...only you know the answer...reach deep...learn more about yourself and your own enlightenment, morals, etc.
best wishes....

I dont see any problem with remaining friends, since it was only friendship anyways.

well said

Probably are staying together for kids and financial reasons...seems to be typical today, and just goes to reinforce my theory of love.

yeah, what she ^^^^^^^ said.....

Thanks for all of your feedback. The reason I considered part of it a lie was because when you're married and you date outside of that marriage, (agreement or not) it's cheating.

I like having this friendship, but I just do not want to be lied to.

hmmm Pen Pals is all it will ever be anyway, so there's really no point in getting too upset about it. So good point.

If i'm friends with someone, i trust them. Same if i'm more then that. I expect a few lies here and there, but on things like 'i once met mr T'. If i can't trust them, i'm not there friends. Though, if they are my friends, they have earned it, so i give them the benifit of the doubt. Mainly because i would rather be screwed over, then miss out on a good friendship :)

Very good point! Thank you soo much! You make a very solid point!

Why would I not be a friend?

It is already stated you dont wish to take this further, so what another person's moral code is or isn't, doesn't affect you....you dont get to judge.

You get to be a friend.

Just be friends and make that clear, JUST FRIENDS.

I'd just be friends with them and nothing more. I wouldn't give them any real satisfaction beyond that.