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Topic: If someone is
Amathyst2 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 1226	Thu 07/10/08 09:28 PM
married and they say they no longer have a romantic relationship with their their husband. They are just together because of the kids. And they date people outside of the marriage. How would you explain to them that it is STILL cheating?? urrgh

lgo Joined Sun 03/16/08 Posts: 1824	Thu 07/10/08 09:28 PM
just say it.

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Thu 07/10/08 09:29 PM
People are just too strange these days

8ADW01F Joined Thu 07/10/08 Posts: 63	Thu 07/10/08 09:30 PM
Its not cheating its called being seperated

heartofgold321 Joined Thu 03/20/08 Posts: 957	Thu 07/10/08 09:31 PM
All You can do is tell them what You perceive to be wrong and right and give them food for thought.

1956deluxe Joined Thu 12/06/07 Posts: 8559	Thu 07/10/08 09:31 PM
No use explaining. Just say you are only looking for SINGLE people.

writer_gurl Joined Sat 03/01/08 Posts: 7673	Thu 07/10/08 09:32 PM
Say they are going to Hell....Always worked for me

brenlee1965 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 529	Thu 07/10/08 09:32 PM
married and they say they no longer have a romantic relationship with their their husband. They are just together because of the kids. And they date people outside of the marriage. How would you explain to them that it is STILL cheating?? urrgh No one is really still just together for the kids! Yeah, keep the kids in dysfunction as long as possible and see how screwed up they can be! Everyone's definition of "cheating" is different, unfortunately.

Amathyst2 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 1226	Thu 07/10/08 09:39 PM
Say they are going to Hell....Always worked for me How the hell do I meet these people??? haha

justkev08 Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 1897	Thu 07/10/08 09:41 PM
Ummmm not when you're still sharing the same bed and making house calls Its not cheating its called being seperated

Amathyst2 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 1226	Thu 07/10/08 09:42 PM
married and they say they no longer have a romantic relationship with their their husband. They are just together because of the kids. And they date people outside of the marriage. How would you explain to them that it is STILL cheating?? urrgh No one is really still just together for the kids! Yeah, keep the kids in dysfunction as long as possible and see how screwed up they can be! Everyone's definition of "cheating" is different, unfortunately. Yes yes.. This is true! Some people just like to try and debate you with nonsense reasons.. I give up explaining my reasoning

8ADW01F Joined Thu 07/10/08 Posts: 63	Thu 07/10/08 09:45 PM Edited by 8ADW01F on Thu 07/10/08 09:47 PM
Ummmm not when you're still sharing the same bed and making house calls Its not cheating its called being seperated There was no specifics I had no idea if they are sharing a bed. With the information provided I gave an answer however if they are sharing a bed then the situation is different he is obviously lieing about being seperated.

Amathyst2 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 1226	Thu 07/10/08 09:47 PM
Ummmm not when you're still sharing the same bed and making house calls Its not cheating its called being seperated There was no specifics I had no idea if they are sharing a bed with the information provided I gave an answer however if they are sharing a bed then he is obviously lieing about being seperated. They are not legally separated..

sum14u2c Joined Sat 08/04/07 Posts: 754	Thu 07/10/08 09:50 PM
Amathyst, read my profile...it says it all. married is married! no grey areas

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Thu 07/10/08 09:52 PM
married and they say they no longer have a romantic relationship with their their husband. They are just together because of the kids. And they date people outside of the marriage. How would you explain to them that it is STILL cheating?? urrgh I say, move on and let them dig there on hole. soon or latter they will not be able to climb out.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Thu 07/10/08 09:53 PM
in many ways the institution of marriage is broken. in some instances people do remain married for financial reasons but have lovers and relationships outside of their marriage by mutual consent. this is not cheating in the usual context since both partners agree to have outside relationships and there is no subterfuge or betrayal involved. in some cultures polygamy is practiced. multiple partners are involved and this is not considered cheating either. on the other hand there are people in monogamous relationships who are not married although they have agreed to be exclusive. if one of the partners in this type of relationships starts seeing someone else without the knowledge of their partner then they are cheating even though there is no ring. so, i think it is more complicated than that....

Amathyst2 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 1226	Thu 07/10/08 09:56 PM
Amathyst, read my profile...it says it all. married is married! no grey areas I read your profile and well said!

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Thu 07/10/08 09:57 PM
Exscuses are like a$$ holes,Everybody has one!!!

justkev08 Joined Tue 12/18/07 Posts: 1897	Thu 07/10/08 09:58 PM
BINGO!!!! Amathyst, read my profile...it says it all. married is married! no grey areas

OrangeCat Joined Tue 10/23/07 Posts: 76874	Thu 07/10/08 09:59 PM
if u are still with the person no matter what,its cheating.