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| Topic: VERBAL ABUSE IN RELATIONSHIPS | |
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 (((tanya)))
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... Guess you did miss something, missed the fact that this was not to be taken personally, just passing on information I received... Sorry. Didn't realize I was under orders not to take it personally. Fortunately, I didn't. I'm really not trying to rain on your parade; I just think that the phenominon of labeling everything and passing blame has reached epic proportions and could be done without. In my opinion, it's rather pointless to tell people they should have a highter opinion of themselves or should learn to love themselves. Being more accepting of others as they are and a little less eager to impose our views on them is perhaps a better path to that end. I do not understand masochism, yet I respect that people who want to be beaten are free to do so. Is it our duty to save them from themselves, and if so, doesn't that open us up to being 'saved' to learning to enjoy being beaten as well?? |
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... Guess you did miss something, missed the fact that this was not to be taken personally, just passing on information I received... Sorry. Didn't realize I was under orders not to take it personally. Fortunately, I didn't. I'm really not trying to rain on your parade; I just think that the phenominon of labeling everything and passing blame has reached epic proportions and could be done without. under orders  You are free to chose what you do, to whom you do it to, and if you do it at all, I dont give out orders
Please clarify this phenomenon you speak of, the labeling of everything? Where was that done? The information is generalized so that it can apply to those whom 'chose' so (not ordering)
I am an avid fan of taking responsibilities for my own actions, as I dont pass blame nor blame others. I am fully responsible for my actions. In my opinion, it's rather pointless to tell people they should have a highter opinion of themselves or should learn to love themselves. Being more accepting of others as they are and a little less eager to impose our views on them is perhaps a better path to that end.
I do not understand masochism, yet I respect that people who want to be beaten are free to do so. Is it our duty to save them from themselves, and if so, doesn't that open us up to being 'saved' to learning to enjoy being beaten as well?? your opinion is noted - to each their own is my opinion and I am also a firm believer in positive thinking
I supplied information, what is done with it is a personal choice just offering (never ordering) information. We all have the right to disagree.
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I truly believe the men are taking things personally when they shouldn't! This can happen to both men and women BUT I believe that women are more vocal about it.
Everyone has their own opinions and trust me...they will share them on this site!!  I have learned a long time ago that the only person I control is myself and no one else controls me. So I would not have to ever worry about being in a situation like this...but I know how easy it would be to be in one~~~especially if you were a male and didn't want anyone to know. Men live in shame and don't want people to know...trust me, my friend did for years! It does happen!!
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i have been in a verbal abuse relationship and it isnt fun at all 
sorry to hear sexi_phat - how'd you cope? 
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i have been in a verbal abuse relationship and it isnt fun at all
sorry to hear sexi_phat - how'd you cope?
wtg Sexi -- good for you out of all negative things there is a positive hidden message inside... glad you found your backbone and got tough!!!!
congrats 
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