Topic: Can being single too long
MsCarmen's photo
Wed 07/09/08 10:24 AM




dont think there is such a thing as being too independent, either you are or you're not.
JMO


Ok well Im independant but have no problem being with someone. I do find it very hard asking for help though...since Ive had to do everything myself.


I dont have a problem sharing my life w/someone either; now as far as asking for help, that just makes us both "stubborn" :laughing:


I would have no problem if they did my dishes or my yardwork.....I would probably just stand there AMAZED!!!noway laugh laugh laugh

Wouldn't we all!noway laugh laugh

No1sLove's photo
Wed 07/09/08 10:24 AM

I gurarantee it.
OMG...and you are so young! laugh I know it may seem like a long time now...but believe me it is not! ohwell

no photo
Wed 07/09/08 10:24 AM

Hmmmmmm Mr. Perfect... One can only hope!
:wink: bigsmile

How about Mr. Perfect for me!

DQ66's photo
Wed 07/09/08 10:27 AM
I'm trying to keep an open mind, but I am already finding myself not wanting to compromise or give up certain things just to be with someone.....grumble

franshade's photo
Wed 07/09/08 10:29 AM

I'm trying to keep an open mind, but I am already finding myself not wanting to compromise or give up certain things just to be with someone.....grumble


w/you I will not settle :thumbsup:

MsCarmen's photo
Wed 07/09/08 10:32 AM

I'm trying to keep an open mind, but I am already finding myself not wanting to compromise or give up certain things just to be with someone.....grumble


See, that's exactly what I am talking about. It's almost as if I've gotten so used to being alone that if I meet someone where I have to do that, then I don't even want to bother trying. But it's hard to change my way of thinking since I've been thinking this way for so long! Isn't that horrible!?!frustrated

DQ66's photo
Wed 07/09/08 11:20 AM


I'm trying to keep an open mind, but I am already finding myself not wanting to compromise or give up certain things just to be with someone.....grumble


See, that's exactly what I am talking about. It's almost as if I've gotten so used to being alone that if I meet someone where I have to do that, then I don't even want to bother trying. But it's hard to change my way of thinking since I've been thinking this way for so long! Isn't that horrible!?!frustrated


And I haven't even been single that long noway I'm afraid it'll just get worse.grumble I don't want to settle, but maybe I'll settle for being the crazy cat lady laugh

chevylover1965's photo
Wed 07/09/08 11:23 AM
im too set in my ways ! and too damn old to try to let another women in my life ?

PATSFAN's photo
Wed 07/09/08 11:28 AM
Even though I'm looking to be in a relationship, I got way to comfortable being single:smile:

FETTS61's photo
Wed 07/09/08 11:28 AM
the longer im single,
the more picky I getlaugh

PATSFAN's photo
Wed 07/09/08 11:31 AM

the longer im single,
the more picky I getlaugh






laugh You start finding things wrong with people laugh

DQ66's photo
Wed 07/09/08 01:28 PM


the longer im single,
the more picky I getlaugh






laugh You start finding things wrong with people laugh


And it takes less and less time to find the "wrong" things....tongue2

MsCarmen's photo
Wed 07/09/08 01:36 PM
Edited by MsCarmen on Wed 07/09/08 01:37 PM



the longer im single,
the more picky I getlaugh






laugh You start finding things wrong with people laugh


And it takes less and less time to find the "wrong" things....tongue2


I agree totally.

I'm starting to see a pattern here.... scared frustrated what

no photo
Wed 07/09/08 03:01 PM

cause problems with starting or getting into a relationship? Could you be so used to it and set in your ways of being alone that it's difficult to "adjust" to their way of thinking and/or doing things different from you? Has it gotten to the point in your thinking that it's either "my way or the highway" and you aren't willing to change for anyone?




For me, it's not really a matter of being set in my ways because despite being single more years than I have been attached, I am still pretty flexible. Rather, it is a question of whether or not I want to change my life once again, move and adapt. I have finally found a place that feels like home to me and I am happy with my life as it is, not sure I am willing to make the changes anymore.

michiganmutt's photo
Wed 07/09/08 03:04 PM
been single for a while, but live with guys, i welcome a women amungst the sausage fest im in right now.:smile:

Blaze1978's photo
Wed 07/09/08 04:03 PM

cause problems with starting or getting into a relationship? Could you be so used to it and set in your ways of being alone that it's difficult to "adjust" to their way of thinking and/or doing things different from you? Has it gotten to the point in your thinking that it's either "my way or the highway" and you aren't willing to change for anyone?




Yes, very much so.

On the other hand, I've been single long enough that it's made me more likely to be empathetic to her needs when she does come along. When that happens, I believe I will be more appreciative of her presence when I find the right lady.

Still, a lot of the time, it is quite difficult to even remotely picture what life would be like with a girl on my arm.

Due to my inexperience, most of my knowledge on women is based on theory. There is a long road ahead.

no photo
Wed 07/09/08 04:23 PM
Edited by moonie77 on Wed 07/09/08 04:27 PM
I agree that I find it hard to open up. But maybe it wouldnt be so hard if the right person came along. I guess we'll see when it/if it happens... I am very guarded with my feelings.

lov2fish's photo
Wed 07/09/08 04:27 PM




dont think there is such a thing as being too independent, either you are or you're not.
JMO


Ok well Im independant but have no problem being with someone. I do find it very hard asking for help though...since Ive had to do everything myself.


I dont have a problem sharing my life w/someone either; now as far as asking for help, that just makes us both "stubborn" :laughing:


I would have no problem if they did my dishes or my yardwork.....I would probably just stand there AMAZED!!!noway laugh laugh laugh

Ok Ill volunteer to trim your busheswinking

cutelildevilsmom's photo
Wed 07/09/08 04:47 PM
me i would welcome a man in my life about now.been single too long and would like to talk about stuff other than pokemon.shades

Peekinin's photo
Wed 07/09/08 04:53 PM
I'm sooooooooooo ready to have to put the seat down again:wink: happy laugh laugh laugh