When a woman tells you her children are her everything what does that make you?

Second fiddle. Cause my children will ALWAYS come first.

Sounds like it

it means, nothing or no one will come between them.

Second best......get in the back seat!

You cannot compare apples to oranges here. The love for your children is not like romantic love. Someone does not love you less because they love their children.

If you are not also willing to put your partners children first...then you may want to rethink dating someone with children. IMHO

I suppose I'm somewhat different...

My children comes first, yes. But...that doesn't mean that my significant other/husband would be "second" unless he put me in a position that I had to choose between him or my children. Now...any man that truely loved me, would never do that. So yes, in that case I would always choose my children first and foremost, no question about it.

If my husband/significant other had children, then my first priorities in my life would be my children, my husband/S.O. and his children equally.


I think that what some women mean by that (and men too) is that the person they're interested in dating understands that they have children who they truely do love and would never "replace". So they want a person who would never ASK them to choose between them, or their children, but accept that by dating the person they'd best have enough love to go all the way around.

It makes me VERY proud of her cause thats the way it should be!!!

...equal to her because my child is also my number one

Wouldn't have it any other way! Would wonder what I was getting into if I weren't.

interesting

What if the kids are messed up? Bad kids. Then what?

Good question

I second that ...my kids will ALWAYS come frist...

that means ...more corona...

Any one getting into a relationship think that they would come before the chilkdren is not thinking clearly. If that person woud be given an ultimatum to choose between the children or the person they are dating, the children will always be the choice for man or woman .

Even more so then. Then the kids need more love, support, encouragement, and commitment.

I think that would have to be a decision for you to make coming into the relationship as to whether or not you are willing to put up with that. And every situation is different. Is the kid a "bad kid" because of lack structure and discipline from the parent? Or are they a "bad kid" because of just being rebellious?

Either way I think it would take a very strong person to get involved in a situation like that because you would always be viewed as the outsider and would have very little input in the situation.

Thats right

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