Okay this may sound like whining but I want the feed back anyway! Ok meet someone one line last month that is nice and we get along so far. I dont know if we are right for each other but I am giving it a shot. The problem is with two kids and a 80 mile distance. I am paying for gas to meet in the middle and a babysitter. I drive a 96 dodge ram. Not the best on gas!! I am starting to think that just getting together for a movie is getting to expensive. I think it would be rude to expect him to dish out the cash for the whole trip since we couldnt come hang out at my house until I am sure I really like him (KIDS). Its sad that I would have to tell someone I cant see u anymore you are costing me too much. OKay that is all I have to whine about today.

perhaps try an every other weekend type thing.. where he would drive one weekend.. you the next? Have family that would babysit for free?

To be honest if he really likes you he being the man should pay for the whole trip. I know if it was me in his shoes that I would offer to pay for it all. It only right for the man to step up and do that.

how i do agree with you.. however.. its not like your taking her out to dinner.. YOU PAYING FOR GAS!!!! YOU 5$ a GALLON!!!! FOr to cars half way.. not including going out that night to meet half way.. It sometimes takes two to make a relationship work!! INCLUDING MONEY!!!

Talk to him & give him a chance to input on the situation.

No family here just bought my house last month in a town where I didnt know anyone.

if makes you feel any better im about to pay a few bucks to go to Texas from Virginia and stay in a hotel for 4 days to see my girl friend.

Although I feel the pain .. the pain every U.S american is feeling at the pump. Now unless your a memeber at Sam's Clube or Costco which can save you some money at times then chances are you could at times pay even more at the pump. You could always google or yahoo a gas such as this one http://www.gaspricewatch.com/new/default_V3.asp .

Anyway's as far as telling this guy you don't want to see him any more because of the cost of gas and babysitter etc, maybe you should come right out and ask him if he wouldn't mind just talking online or on the phone or for him to meet you more closer to where you would like so you don't have to go to far etc.

Either way it's gonna come down to how much you might like this guy and if it's enough to let him meet your kids or not etc etc.

Not sure what else to tell you though.

Talk to the government to lower gas prices .
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Yes, I agree.. discuss this with him, perhaps he may have other alternatives?

Ya but I have only been out with him 4 times and I dont think we are serious enough for all that. I think it would be like asking someone to pay for a date with me. One step from being a hooker.

I think if you voice your concerns to Him, you both can come up with a solution. maybe the person with the most economical car should do the traveling, and maybe the other person helps them with the gas. Usually a Man doesnt mind traveling. I can do 80 miles half asleep. Its Hard times for everyone. This could bring you closer if you both put your heads together. Good Luck

Thanks for all the advice and listening to me whine!!

Have him make the drive to you, you pay for a sitter away from home then cook him dinner and rent a movie instead of a theatre. Economical, more fun than a theatre and gives you a chance to impress him with a great meal~

yeah....... I hear that..... But for us guys we just gotta go and make more money..

It not like I am poor it just with two kids everytime I go out I am thinking there goes a pair of school shoes. I get the guilty spent money on myself feeling.

If he likes you he'll drive.
It doesn't make you a hooker asking him to drive-it makes you a mom thinking about affording clothes for your kids.

$#!T, when a guy gets like that it says "You not ready to date dude". I Know because I dump $$$$ into my car, not even to race it, but for the luxury.

Ambivert...I agreed most with your response to brandy1234.

My opinion is: If you've been on 4 dates--- and if sex isn't involved (which it may not be in this case---I'm not sure a woman with children would think it's ok to trust a man enough to give herself to him, but not trust him with her children.)

Talking on line when you cannot afford to make the roadtrip should be okay with both parties involved. Everyone's purse is strained right now with the gas prices as they are! Some of us are lucky enough to have a small vehicle that is great on gas---others aren't as lucky.

Maybe a compromise would be best----Here's some ideas:
1. Driving the entire way----and whoever does the driving & pays for gas to get to the other party---doesn't pay for the cost of going out.

2. DO #1 only make sure it alternates. This weekend he drives, next weekend she drives and so on and so on.

3. Communication prior to deciding what to do for the weekend. Do you both have money this week budgeted for dating? Yes, it is expensive! Unless you are willing to hang out and have picnics or visiting. Then the gas still is an issue (refer to #1 & #2)

4. Talking on-line and even on the phone or cell phones are other forms of communication. Course, you cannot touch each other. But there are camera's that you can place above the computer----so you can see each other.

Personally----I wouldn't believe I'd date any man 4 times without knowing there is something there.

Brandy....no friends to watch your kids (or) family to help you out---even if it's 1-2 times a month? What about their father (he's no help either)? Good luck----whatever you decide.

This is sad when gas prices are affecting our dating lives! :-p Also sad that this country is too big, too frequently the people we click with live far away. 80 miles is quite a hassle. I feel for you. I wish I had good ideas. :-p

Dating does get expensive! That's why I like to offer to cook for my date. :-p It shows off my cooking skills, she thinks it's romantic, and I save a ton of money! Plus, we can curl up together afterwards for a DVD on the couch.