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If you mathmatically figure in the time spent on TV/video games/internet of a child age range around 10-14 and plug in the time frame that a parent (one or both) spends with that child, you get an awesomely bad showing of parental responsibility. Most children grow up with the aid of video games or movies, and no one teaches them an outlet for aggression. So this aggression psychologically becomes pent up anger, creating passive aggressive and eventual aggresser. Therefore this pent up aggression goes out on what they learned (ala GTA) let's beat up women, cause the parent(s) never taught the basic wrong and right. which is why i say it takes a village. so one parent does a crappy job. does that mean the child is doomed? no. there are other influences -- family members, neighbors, teachers, coaches, etc. it is the responsibility of all of society to positively influence youths who are in fact the future of society. So the parent shouldn't have had a child...easy as that, not lay the responsibility selfishly upon an entire village to raise their child...that is poor decision making. the fact is, whether or not the decision was poor, the child was born, and the child will become a member of society. personally, i'd rather have as many positively contributing members of society in our future as possible. |
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Generally, kids grow up to be good people in spite of their parents and society, not because of them 
Then I fail to see a point to this topic...I mean if they are going to grow up to be good people why are we worried about it? |
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If you mathmatically figure in the time spent on TV/video games/internet of a child age range around 10-14 and plug in the time frame that a parent (one or both) spends with that child, you get an awesomely bad showing of parental responsibility. Most children grow up with the aid of video games or movies, and no one teaches them an outlet for aggression. So this aggression psychologically becomes pent up anger, creating passive aggressive and eventual aggresser. Therefore this pent up aggression goes out on what they learned (ala GTA) let's beat up women, cause the parent(s) never taught the basic wrong and right. which is why i say it takes a village. so one parent does a crappy job. does that mean the child is doomed? no. there are other influences -- family members, neighbors, teachers, coaches, etc. it is the responsibility of all of society to positively influence youths who are in fact the future of society. So the parent shouldn't have had a child...easy as that, not lay the responsibility selfishly upon an entire village to raise their child...that is poor decision making. Next topic...why do people allow this to go on in their homes...repeatedly! 
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If you mathmatically figure in the time spent on TV/video games/internet of a child age range around 10-14 and plug in the time frame that a parent (one or both) spends with that child, you get an awesomely bad showing of parental responsibility. Most children grow up with the aid of video games or movies, and no one teaches them an outlet for aggression. So this aggression psychologically becomes pent up anger, creating passive aggressive and eventual aggresser. Therefore this pent up aggression goes out on what they learned (ala GTA) let's beat up women, cause the parent(s) never taught the basic wrong and right. which is why i say it takes a village. so one parent does a crappy job. does that mean the child is doomed? no. there are other influences -- family members, neighbors, teachers, coaches, etc. it is the responsibility of all of society to positively influence youths who are in fact the future of society. So the parent shouldn't have had a child...easy as that, not lay the responsibility selfishly upon an entire village to raise their child...that is poor decision making. the fact is, whether or not the decision was poor, the child was born, and the child will become a member of society. personally, i'd rather have as many positively contributing members of society in our future as possible. So give them to a better family, I'm not one to promote adoption but if one knows they will not be able to raise a child they should give them up to a family that will...instead of hoping that others will take responsibility for them... |
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Generally, kids grow up to be good people in spite of their parents and society, not because of them
Then I fail to see a point to this topic...I mean if they are going to grow up to be good people why are we worried about it? you really think 95% of adults are "great"? i want to live where you do... |
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some kids are not being taught to respect others and have manners
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So give them to a better family, I'm not one to promote adoption but if one knows they will not be able to raise a child they should give them up to a family that will...instead of hoping that others will take responsibility for them... obviously that's not realistic. |
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So give them to a better family, I'm not one to promote adoption but if one knows they will not be able to raise a child they should give them up to a family that will...instead of hoping that others will take responsibility for them... obviously that's not realistic. And hoping someone else will take care of the child is? |
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Beat the kid till he can barely breathe, then wait for him to fully recover and do it again...
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Generally, kids grow up to be good people in spite of their parents and society, not because of them
Then I fail to see a point to this topic...I mean if they are going to grow up to be good people why are we worried about it? |
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Next topic...why do people allow this to go on in their homes...repeatedly!
A. Have no clue how to deal with it B. think that they do not have time to deal with it C. Do not think it important do deal with D. Are too wrapped up in drugs or alcohol to see the problem. E. do not realize that their example is setting the tone in the home. I read somewhere once that a child learns how to treat their mate by the time they are three years old. Scary thought. |
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I dont think it has to do so much with family life, or violence in movies/games.....
these kids are growing up FAST!! the have computers, cell phones, and not to mention parents BUST THEIR a$$ES to give their children everything they WANT.. (making them spoiled) peer pressure..thats what I think.. for both girls and guys...they want to be cool, they want to fit in, they want the most popular and funniest girl/guy to be theirs.. its just another possession to them...like having the latest and greatest xbox game. |
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So give them to a better family, I'm not one to promote adoption but if one knows they will not be able to raise a child they should give them up to a family that will...instead of hoping that others will take responsibility for them... obviously that's not realistic. And hoping someone else will take care of the child is? yep. thankfully there are enough people in the world who care about the wellbeing of children whether or not they are their own kids. i think the mentality of "not my kid, not my problem" is pretty short-sighted. that kid will become your problem when s/he's contributing to the crime rate in your area down the road, or popping out kids of his or her own that your taxes will support. |
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So give them to a better family, I'm not one to promote adoption but if one knows they will not be able to raise a child they should give them up to a family that will...instead of hoping that others will take responsibility for them... obviously that's not realistic. And hoping someone else will take care of the child is? I think the whole "it takes a village to raise a child idea" stems from the notion that we as a society benefit from having children, all children, raised properly. And it rests on the premise that parents cannot be with their own children 24/7. So the onus is on the other members of the village to provide a good example for other people's children, and sometimes to offer some guidance. If I see a child playing on the train tracks, I am not going to say "it's not my kid". I am going to encourage them to play elsewhere. That's all. Not doing someone else's job; just helping for the good of all. 
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No real father figures in their life. If divorce rates have increased due to lack of morals, loyalty, commitments, etc... Not because human population has grown larger each year, then I say that is the problem.
That is why I believe in the "Old Ways", as far as what are expected out of men. Why I say the things I say without caring if I hurt someone's feelings or not. I refuse to sugar coat things, I want to be straight up honest. Men should not be scared, their word should be their bond. Not get all emotional and do whatever they want. They should be like kings to each his own household, to be wise and just. Now i am rambling, I am distracted as I am on the phone. Sorry. I lost my train of thought now. |
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So give them to a better family, I'm not one to promote adoption but if one knows they will not be able to raise a child they should give them up to a family that will...instead of hoping that others will take responsibility for them... obviously that's not realistic. And hoping someone else will take care of the child is? yep. thankfully there are enough people in the world who care about the wellbeing of children whether or not they are their own kids. i think the mentality of "not my kid, not my problem" is pretty short-sighted. that kid will become your problem when s/he's contributing to the crime rate in your area down the road, or popping out kids of his or her own that your taxes will support. Not that many here in the US, hell we keep putting them in jail...I've met more people with that mentality then I have who don't have that, I am not one of them if that is what you are implying...unfortunately we don't live in this bed of roses that you seem to think so many people are going to jump to take care of a child in our country...but if it is outside our country we will send millions of dollars, everyday hundreds of thousands of children starve because those people that you say help obviously are not helping the right street. Everyday thousands of kids get shot down living in a bad area and being at the wrong place wrong time, everyday children in the US steal from stores to feed themselves. And they rob, steal, cheat, kill, and take what they want from whoever...because of all these caring people? |
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Not that many here in the US, hell we keep putting them in jail...I've met more people with that mentality then I have who don't have that, I am not one of them if that is what you are implying...unfortunately we don't live in this bed of roses that you seem to think so many people are going to jump to take care of a child in our country...but if it is outside our country we will send millions of dollars, everyday hundreds of thousands of children starve because those people that you say help obviously are not helping the right street. Everyday thousands of kids get shot down living in a bad area and being at the wrong place wrong time, everyday children in the US steal from stores to feed themselves. And they rob, steal, cheat, kill, and take what they want from whoever...because of all these caring people? i never claimed life was a bed of roses. we do not live in utopia. all each of us can do is individuals is what we believe is right. i can only do my part. i can't influence what other people choose to think and/or do. i do happen to know quite a lot of people who have gone above and beyond in their lives to help children who were not their own -- mostly teachers and social workers. i am realistic, but i also do believe that an individual can make a difference. as for outside of our country -- do those children not deserve food and medical treatment as well? here in the united states at least there is medicaid and welfare programs. these programs do not exist in many third world countries. and many of the children in these countries are left fending for themselves after they are orphaned. group homes may not be ideal circumstances in which to grow up, but it beats sleeping on the streets. |
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Next topic...why do people allow this to go on in their homes...repeatedly!
A. Have no clue how to deal with it B. think that they do not have time to deal with it C. Do not think it important do deal with D. Are too wrapped up in drugs or alcohol to see the problem. E. do not realize that their example is setting the tone in the home. I read somewhere once that a child learns how to treat their mate by the time they are three years old. Scary thought.
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