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JazzieJoHanna Joined Wed 11/28/07 Posts: 416	Tue 07/01/08 10:01 AM
HI EVERYONE! In all honesty I have lived in an addiction and alcoholism for 16 years straight and personaly didn't care about anyone or anything, but me and what I wanted! Then I got into recovery and have learned something about these things called relationships. This might be common knowledge, but I am compelled to share. I get asked the question "What are you looking for?" I didn't know I had to be looking. I find that when "looking" that people are trying to fill a void. I don't know why people think meeting someone is going to fix them and their life? why? If you are not happy and your life isn't what you want, meeting someone isn't go to change that! Don't exspect that of other peaple, (for them to fix you)! When you do that: most likely you just became the person( you, yourself) would avoid. Clingy, needy, soficating and insecure.

Etrain Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 19684	Tue 07/01/08 10:02 AM


tanyaann Joined Mon 12/03/07 Posts: 32220	Tue 07/01/08 10:03 AM
very wise words that come from life experiences! thank you for sharing!

CyPoet Joined Fri 01/11/08 Posts: 12494	Tue 07/01/08 10:06 AM
Words of wisdom.I agree sweetheart

longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 26589	Tue 07/01/08 10:07 AM
Ok so you learned what codependency and cross addiction is too. I've been there too. Can't take care of others if you can't take care of yourself first I always say.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Tue 07/01/08 10:09 AM
Nicely put

seahawks Joined Thu 01/11/07 Posts: 16735	Tue 07/01/08 10:10 AM
HI EVERYONE! In all honesty I have lived in an addiction and alcoholism for 16 years straight and personaly didn't care about anyone or anything, but me and what I wanted! Then I got into recovery and have learned something about these things called relationships. This might be common knowledge, but I am compelled to share. I get asked the question "What are you looking for?" I didn't know I had to be looking. I find that when "looking" that people are trying to fill a void. I don't know why people think meeting someone is going to fix them and their life? why? If you are not happy and your life isn't what you want, meeting someone isn't go to change that! Don't exspect that of other peaple, (for them to fix you)! When you do that: most likely you just became the person( you, yourself) would avoid. Clingy, needy, soficating and insecure.

baroosie Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 859	Tue 07/01/08 10:10 AM
EZ DUZZIT! Turn your life and will over to the care of God! Bill W says "Hi"!

livelife68 Joined Sun 12/30/07 Posts: 3696	Tue 07/01/08 10:12 AM
Well said. I had to work on myself before I could enter a relationship.

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Wed 07/02/08 07:51 AM


kkoldazice Joined Mon 04/30/07 Posts: 1063	Wed 07/02/08 08:17 AM


michiganman3 Joined Mon 10/29/07 Posts: 14521	Wed 07/02/08 08:33 AM


TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Wed 07/02/08 11:43 AM
So very true one must learn to love the one within first.

ReddBeans Joined Sat 10/27/07 Posts: 6930	Wed 07/02/08 11:55 AM
So very true one must learn to love the one within first. true that, How can you know how to trully love someone if you don't love yourself first?

MsCarmen Joined Wed 05/07/08 Posts: 6282	Wed 07/02/08 12:07 PM
OMG, talk about an AHA moment for me. I mean, I'm happy with how my life is going right now, but I really never thought of it to that extent when asked that question. Thanks for the insight!