Topic: Why Do People
carold's photo
Sun 07/06/08 12:47 PM

Back to is sex important.
If you could trust someone to keep your secret, would you have sex, just for the enjoyment of it.

As in "friends w/benefits?"

I would rather have sex w/a good friend,than a total stranger.
Besides safety precautions can be discussed & you really know "who you have been with."

Yeah but for me it is hard to keep it that way I know I want more. Safety is important too for sure.

greer51's photo
Sat 07/12/08 05:29 PM
I don't have to worry about it!!! it has been SSOOOOO long for me. I am not sure I would know how to be with anyone!!

HeSearches's photo
Tue 07/15/08 10:00 AM
SEX is so important because it's the glue that bonds the relationship. No matter how bad things get if you're having great sex you can deal with a lot.

It is different if you have a spouse who becomes ill and can't have sex, but I don't think that's what we're talking about here.

Women who cannot make sex a priority in a relationship are not women I want to meet. My ex-wife didn't understand that and that's one of several reasons she's no longer my wife.

oldsage's photo
Tue 07/15/08 10:12 AM
To me sex is a factor in a relationship, not the center. If you build everything on sex, someday it all will slow down ALOT.

Greer, like riding a bike, it will all come back.
devil :tongue: :tongue: :wink: bigsmile

HeSearches's photo
Tue 07/15/08 10:15 AM
One additional thought. I've developed a theory about sexuality in men and women. Both sexes fall into one of two categories - HIGH LIBIDO and LOW LIBIDO.

Since you ask the question, I would a naturally assume that you're a Low Libido Woman. That's fine but you should never link up with a High Libido Man because one of you is going to be very frustrated in the relationship.

Women send signals that tell me which category they fall under. If I'm getting signals that they are a Low Libido Woman then I'm not going to write them or respond to their personals ad. I'm only interested in High Libido Women because I'm a High Libido Man.


oldsage's photo
Tue 07/15/08 10:28 AM
You may make some wrong assumptions & miss a fantastic part of life.

Each to their own.

Joaverage's photo
Tue 07/15/08 10:39 AM

One additional thought. I've developed a theory about sexuality in men and women. Both sexes fall into one of two categories - HIGH LIBIDO and LOW LIBIDO.

Since you ask the question, I would a naturally assume that you're a Low Libido Woman. That's fine but you should never link up with a High Libido Man because one of you is going to be very frustrated in the relationship.

Women send signals that tell me which category they fall under. If I'm getting signals that they are a Low Libido Woman then I'm not going to write them or respond to their personals ad. I'm only interested in High Libido Women because I'm a High Libido Man.


Totally agree.........

no photo
Tue 07/15/08 10:58 AM
you need to re read your bible ?? grumble

no photo
Tue 07/15/08 11:22 AM

Why do people think that sex is so important?Would you leave your mate over it?Could be a health problem or old age.There are so many other ways to show and share your love and your life.

Sex is a necessity for some including me .
So if you can not have sex , how is the relationship going to work ?.
It does not work .

oldsage's photo
Tue 07/15/08 11:31 AM
"Sex is a necessity"... you will die without it??

I highly doubt.
I enjoy sex, TREMENDOUSLY. I have done w/o in a relationship & still slept with the lady.
Sex is not & will never be, the most defining thing in my life.
I believe that a gentleman has more concern for the lady than himself.
No means NO; not try harder.
If a lady allows things to happen, then she is a willing participant.
Most important...what happens behind closed doors,is NOBODIES business.
Also, if you are a gentleman, you frequently get invited back.

"Sex is a necessity", NAAAH , but it is part of the real spice of life.

Opinion of an old gentleman

HeSearches's photo
Tue 07/15/08 01:18 PM
Sage, I could agree with you less....and I do.

oldsage's photo
Tue 07/15/08 01:27 PM
Beauty of this country, disagree, say it with manners & agree to disagree.

Never a problem, HeSearches.
:wink: drinker drinker :smile:

Flarob's photo
Tue 07/15/08 02:10 PM

"Sex is a Necessity" ... you will die without it.

Absolutely Not True !

Sage I totally agree.

Been there -

carolanne58's photo
Tue 07/15/08 10:37 PM

To me sex is a factor in a relationship, not the center. If you build everything on sex, someday it all will slow down ALOT.

Greer, like riding a bike, it will all come back.
devil :tongue: :tongue: :wink: bigsmile


I agree with you sage,If so much focus is put on sex I think you are setting yourself up for disappointment.Life happens, when my husband was ill sex was farthest from my mind. But affection and tenderness were still there.Three yrs without didn't kill me.I don't want a relationship were a great sex life is the deal breaker because I would question were you would be if were injured or dieing.Only my opinion.

oldsage's photo
Wed 07/16/08 03:16 AM
Well said Carolanne, but each to their own opinion.

summerlady's photo
Wed 07/16/08 04:49 AM

To me sex is a factor in a relationship, not the center. If you build everything on sex, someday it all will slow down ALOT.

Greer, like riding a bike, it will all come back.
devil :tongue: :tongue: :wink: bigsmile


Very well said, Sage. Great sex in a relationship is a bonus! But if the other important factors aren't there, great sex will not hold a relationship together.

carolanne58's photo
Wed 07/16/08 04:57 AM

One additional thought. I've developed a theory about sexuality in men and women. Both sexes fall into one of two categories - HIGH LIBIDO and LOW LIBIDO.

Since you ask the question, I would a naturally assume that you're a Low Libido Woman. That's fine but you should never link up with a High Libido Man because one of you is going to be very frustrated in the relationship.

Women send signals that tell me which category they fall under. If I'm getting signals that they are a Low Libido Woman then I'm not going to write them or respond to their personals ad. I'm only interested in High Libido Women because I'm a High Libido Man.


And you can tell all this by my profile or an email eeekkss?I knew I was an open book but...........have fun finding high libito.smile



oldsage's photo
Wed 07/16/08 06:49 AM
Carolanne, your such a blabber mouth.
Just say "HI" 7 your telling all about your sex life. I recorded it all, for my book.
pitchfork noway :tongue: bigsmile

KoolAidWoman's photo
Thu 07/17/08 08:47 AM
JMO/I think we should {commuicate} Commuication}
Is the most important Part}of a relationship Sex is a phyical} part!
After thats over what do we realy have let to talk
About{Takeing the time to learn about one another.
Is priceless}I learned this Commucation the hard-
way.i allowed myself to be used! but ive educated,
Myself and now i love myself!Sex is a three letter.Word Its on the back burner!Kool:heart:

carolanne58's photo
Thu 07/17/08 08:28 PM

Carolanne, your such a blabber mouth.
Just say "HI" 7 your telling all about your sex life. I recorded it all, for my book.
pitchfork noway :tongue: bigsmile

Hey I didn't say weither I had a high or low libido I was quoteing someone else geeeeeeeeezzzzzzzzz What I did say somehow got attached to their quote shaking my head lol