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franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/30/08 03:28 PM
ok here goes.. first 98% get real.. that leaves the other 2 % as the women who used to be men right?? second.. 20 relationships!!?? and you think that WE are the issue.. my man has trust issues.. as do i... oddly enough we both waited for eachother.. and when WE were ready then we became a "couple" we both have out days.. some days i am jelous.. others he is.. depends on the day. and on occasion we are both crazy!! lol then we ignore each other that day and try again the next.. thing is.. you gotta be willing to try.. she has to be willing to try.. and you need to work together towards that!! and if not.. then MOVE ON!!! find another.. or better yet.. find out what it is that you have that is making trust an issue for you.. and work on it yourself!! and get over it first.. then start a realationship!!! till then... you get out what you put in! thats how it is. its easy for all you to say move on, first you guys dont live in california, one of the most fastest paced places in the united states if not world, then on top of that the capitol of california. i am not a light switch were i can just turn my emotions on and off. maybe and most likely its useualy one sided and i care 90 and they do 10 or less oh ike your response just sealed the case, you generalize and over exaggerate a bit.. huh? California is overpopulated like some other states. not sure what your point is? Your emotions do turn on and off and you are in complete control of that, accept it, honor it and control it. work on getting yourself straight lilike... work on self esteem; self worth; stop looking for excuses and accept you are responsible for your own happiness - not someone else... if you cannot be happy with yourself, why expect someone else to be?

jtip1977 Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 10410	Mon 06/30/08 03:30 PM
ok here goes.. first 98% get real.. that leaves the other 2 % as the women who used to be men right?? second.. 20 relationships!!?? and you think that WE are the issue.. my man has trust issues.. as do i... oddly enough we both waited for eachother.. and when WE were ready then we became a "couple" we both have out days.. some days i am jelous.. others he is.. depends on the day. and on occasion we are both crazy!! lol then we ignore each other that day and try again the next.. thing is.. you gotta be willing to try.. she has to be willing to try.. and you need to work together towards that!! and if not.. then MOVE ON!!! find another.. or better yet.. find out what it is that you have that is making trust an issue for you.. and work on it yourself!! and get over it first.. then start a realationship!!! till then... you get out what you put in! thats how it is. its easy for all you to say move on, first you guys dont live in california, one of the most fastest paced places in the united states if not world, then on top of that the capitol of california. i am not a light switch were i can just turn my emotions on and off. maybe and most likely its useualy one sided and i care 90 and they do 10 or less oh ike your response just sealed the case, you generalize and over exaggerate a bit.. huh? California is overpopulated like some other states. not sure what your point is? Your emotions do turn on and off and you are in complete control of that, accept it, honor it and control it. work on getting yourself straight lilike... work on self esteem; self worth; stop looking for excuses and accept you are responsible for your own happiness - not someone else... if you cannot be happy with yourself, why expect someone else to be? Brilliant

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/30/08 03:31 PM
Brilliant Have I told you lately that I love turtles???

Random_Stranger Joined Wed 05/02/07 Posts: 2409	Mon 06/30/08 03:32 PM
Because Men gotta be strong young Jedi. There are still others out there who believe in the old fashioned-ness. Yes I said Old Fashioned-ness. That's why there are some things you just don't do. Is it good to admit faults and cry a little and things like that? Sure, but you gotta watch how often and in front of who, and regarding what as well when you do them. Some things you just keep to yourself unless asked. Some girl asks "Why are you not in a relationship", you say things like "Foo, it jus ain't happened yet. Ain't that a B?" and you see where it goes. If you start crying and say "I am soooooo scared of being hurt" and you start quoting things that Britney Spears might sing about in a song..... Yeah, she is going to run the other way. Some women do like those guys who enjoy that dolphin safe tuna (The Sensitive guy wish from "Bedazzled", reference here>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkW5da-AFGo) Sometimes they are holding on to that "Old Fashioned-ness". That's right! I said Old Fashioned-ness.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/30/08 03:33 PM
Because Men gotta be strong young Jedi. There are still others out there who believe in the old fashioned-ness. Yes I said Old Fashioned-ness. That's why there are some things you just don't do. Is it good to admit faults and cry a little and things like that? Sure, but you gotta watch how often and in front of who, and regarding what as well when you do them. Some things you just keep to yourself unless asked. Some girl asks "Why are you not in a relationship", you say things like "Foo, it jus ain't happened yet. Ain't that a B?" and you see where it goes. If you start crying and say "I am soooooo scared of being hurt" and you start quoting things that Britney Spears might sing about in a song..... Yeah, she is going to run the other way. Some women do like those guys who enjoy that dolphin safe tuna (The Sensitive guy wish from "Bedazzled", reference here>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkW5da-AFGo) Sometimes they are holding on to that "Old Fashioned-ness". That's right! I said Old Fashioned-ness. but did you mean Old Fashioned-ness???

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:36 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? i've been used too..there r good people out there..hard to find..dont know what to tell ya and also when u try to hard to find someone, u wont!!!! let it go, take it easy, i'll happen for ya ok thank you sexy even tho we have had r differences you r a true friend well no offence, but u rushed things, u r 3,000 miles away first off and second u rushed things and U did come across negative to me..i dont like negative guys..i'm sorry ok, i understand and im sory, my fault, thanks for being my friend for a little while

mcattygarnett Joined Fri 12/07/07 Posts: 3527	Mon 06/30/08 03:39 PM
I try to be very understanding about everyones trust issues. I dont back off just because a man says he has trust issues, I might be passing the best thing that ever happened to me.

Random_Stranger Joined Wed 05/02/07 Posts: 2409	Mon 06/30/08 03:42 PM
Because Men gotta be strong young Jedi. There are still others out there who believe in the old fashioned-ness. Yes I said Old Fashioned-ness. That's why there are some things you just don't do. Is it good to admit faults and cry a little and things like that? Sure, but you gotta watch how often and in front of who, and regarding what as well when you do them. Some things you just keep to yourself unless asked. Some girl asks "Why are you not in a relationship", you say things like "Foo, it jus ain't happened yet. Ain't that a B?" and you see where it goes. If you start crying and say "I am soooooo scared of being hurt" and you start quoting things that Britney Spears might sing about in a song..... Yeah, she is going to run the other way. Some women do like those guys who enjoy that dolphin safe tuna (The Sensitive guy wish from "Bedazzled", reference here>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkW5da-AFGo) Sometimes they are holding on to that "Old Fashioned-ness". That's right! I said Old Fashioned-ness. but did you mean Old Fashioned-ness??? I think so.... Let me check....... Oh no! wait..... Okay, yeah. I mean it

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:43 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? so in ALL of your 20 relationships, how did they use you?? and thats in ALL 20, everyone???? guys im a real careing person but i do have a habbit of jumping to fast and asking questions later and i useualy get used as they are into thereselfs and what they can get right now, and thats my fault. and no it was not all 20 im just saying its a pattern and i dont think and get used alot but im not looking for a right or wrong answer just peoples view on this subject do you think your doing something wrong maybe?? probaly, and im trying to get advice and also find out what im doing wrong i think you know i do deb, i just hate admiting it, or at least i think i know, thanks deb

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:53 PM
ok here goes.. first 98% get real.. that leaves the other 2 % as the women who used to be men right?? second.. 20 relationships!!?? and you think that WE are the issue.. my man has trust issues.. as do i... oddly enough we both waited for eachother.. and when WE were ready then we became a "couple" we both have out days.. some days i am jelous.. others he is.. depends on the day. and on occasion we are both crazy!! lol then we ignore each other that day and try again the next.. thing is.. you gotta be willing to try.. she has to be willing to try.. and you need to work together towards that!! and if not.. then MOVE ON!!! find another.. or better yet.. find out what it is that you have that is making trust an issue for you.. and work on it yourself!! and get over it first.. then start a realationship!!! till then... you get out what you put in! thats how it is. its easy for all you to say move on, first you guys dont live in california, one of the most fastest paced places in the united states if not world, then on top of that the capitol of california. i am not a light switch were i can just turn my emotions on and off. maybe and most likely its useualy one sided and i care 90 and they do 10 or less oh ike your response just sealed the case, you generalize and over exaggerate a bit.. huh? California is overpopulated like some other states. not sure what your point is? Your emotions do turn on and off and you are in complete control of that, accept it, honor it and control it. work on getting yourself straight lilike... work on self esteem; self worth; stop looking for excuses and accept you are responsible for your own happiness - not someone else... if you cannot be happy with yourself, why expect someone else to be? i can totaly be happy with myself and mostly not all but mostly am happy withself and others say i am alot of fun. but when it comes to a relationship its different and im not trying to make excuses im telling a fact. i am on ssi and dont have alot of money. when the female finds out i have no job, no house or no car they run and to begin with there profile says they want comunication and honesty but your honest and tell your on ssi which i dont hide at all women runs cause you dont have materialistic stuff to ofer them but they want honesty. yeah right. they want the guy to do it all for them but they all say the want honesty and egual rights. they want equal rigjhts as long as they benifit but when it comes to money or job or materialistic stuff it has to come from the guy

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/30/08 03:55 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? so in ALL of your 20 relationships, how did they use you?? and thats in ALL 20, everyone???? guys im a real careing person but i do have a habbit of jumping to fast and asking questions later and i useualy get used as they are into thereselfs and what they can get right now, and thats my fault. and no it was not all 20 im just saying its a pattern and i dont think and get used alot but im not looking for a right or wrong answer just peoples view on this subject do you think your doing something wrong maybe?? probaly, and im trying to get advice and also find out what im doing wrong i think you know i do deb, i just hate admiting it, or at least i think i know, thanks deb i know its hard

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:56 PM
Because Men gotta be strong young Jedi. There are still others out there who believe in the old fashioned-ness. Yes I said Old Fashioned-ness. That's why there are some things you just don't do. Is it good to admit faults and cry a little and things like that? Sure, but you gotta watch how often and in front of who, and regarding what as well when you do them. Some things you just keep to yourself unless asked. Some girl asks "Why are you not in a relationship", you say things like "Foo, it jus ain't happened yet. Ain't that a B?" and you see where it goes. If you start crying and say "I am soooooo scared of being hurt" and you start quoting things that Britney Spears might sing about in a song..... Yeah, she is going to run the other way. Some women do like those guys who enjoy that dolphin safe tuna (The Sensitive guy wish from "Bedazzled", reference here>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkW5da-AFGo) Sometimes they are holding on to that "Old Fashioned-ness". That's right! I said Old Fashioned-ness. im not young im 44, and im on ssi for epelepsy its not my fault im on ssi and dont have alot of money, i was born with this

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/30/08 04:00 PM Edited by debbie1980 on Mon 06/30/08 04:02 PM
ok here goes.. first 98% get real.. that leaves the other 2 % as the women who used to be men right?? second.. 20 relationships!!?? and you think that WE are the issue.. my man has trust issues.. as do i... oddly enough we both waited for eachother.. and when WE were ready then we became a "couple" we both have out days.. some days i am jelous.. others he is.. depends on the day. and on occasion we are both crazy!! lol then we ignore each other that day and try again the next.. thing is.. you gotta be willing to try.. she has to be willing to try.. and you need to work together towards that!! and if not.. then MOVE ON!!! find another.. or better yet.. find out what it is that you have that is making trust an issue for you.. and work on it yourself!! and get over it first.. then start a realationship!!! till then... you get out what you put in! thats how it is. its easy for all you to say move on, first you guys dont live in california, one of the most fastest paced places in the united states if not world, then on top of that the capitol of california. i am not a light switch were i can just turn my emotions on and off. maybe and most likely its useualy one sided and i care 90 and they do 10 or less oh ike your response just sealed the case, you generalize and over exaggerate a bit.. huh? California is overpopulated like some other states. not sure what your point is? Your emotions do turn on and off and you are in complete control of that, accept it, honor it and control it. work on getting yourself straight lilike... work on self esteem; self worth; stop looking for excuses and accept you are responsible for your own happiness - not someone else... if you cannot be happy with yourself, why expect someone else to be? i can totaly be happy with myself and mostly not all but mostly am happy withself and others say i am alot of fun. but when it comes to a relationship its different and im not trying to make excuses im telling a fact. i am on ssi and dont have alot of money. when the female finds out i have no job, no house or no car they run and to begin with there profile says they want comunication and honesty but your honest and tell your on ssi which i dont hide at all women runs cause you dont have materialistic stuff to ofer them but they want honesty. yeah right. they want the guy to do it all for them but they all say the want honesty and egual rights. they want equal rigjhts as long as they benifit but when it comes to money or job or materialistic stuff it has to come from the guy im on sickness benefits, and some men think i cant pay my own way and that really pisses me off, because normally i have more money than them, i have a phone bill to pay and thats it, so ive got a load of spare money, if they judge me i let them carry on, and when i tell them how much money i get and i have no bills they soon come creeping back up my ass, then i say **** off, as they have just spent the last 5 mins slagging me off and judging me

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 04:05 PM
ok here goes.. first 98% get real.. that leaves the other 2 % as the women who used to be men right?? second.. 20 relationships!!?? and you think that WE are the issue..i hear you, that happens to me my man has trust issues.. as do i... oddly enough we both waited for eachother.. and when WE were ready then we became a "couple" we both have out days.. some days i am jelous.. others he is.. depends on the day. and on occasion we are both crazy!! lol then we ignore each other that day and try again the next.. thing is.. you gotta be willing to try.. she has to be willing to try.. and you need to work together towards that!! and if not.. then MOVE ON!!! find another.. or better yet.. find out what it is that you have that is making trust an issue for you.. and work on it yourself!! and get over it first.. then start a realationship!!! till then... you get out what you put in! thats how it is. its easy for all you to say move on, first you guys dont live in california, one of the most fastest paced places in the united states if not world, then on top of that the capitol of california. i am not a light switch were i can just turn my emotions on and off. maybe and most likely its useualy one sided and i care 90 and they do 10 or less oh ike your response just sealed the case, you generalize and over exaggerate a bit.. huh? California is overpopulated like some other states. not sure what your point is? Your emotions do turn on and off and you are in complete control of that, accept it, honor it and control it. work on getting yourself straight lilike... work on self esteem; self worth; stop looking for excuses and accept you are responsible for your own happiness - not someone else... if you cannot be happy with yourself, why expect someone else to be? i can totaly be happy with myself and mostly not all but mostly am happy withself and others say i am alot of fun. but when it comes to a relationship its different and im not trying to make excuses im telling a fact. i am on ssi and dont have alot of money. when the female finds out i have no job, no house or no car they run and to begin with there profile says they want comunication and honesty but your honest and tell your on ssi which i dont hide at all women runs cause you dont have materialistic stuff to ofer them but they want honesty. yeah right. they want the guy to do it all for them but they all say the want honesty and egual rights. they want equal rigjhts as long as they benifit but when it comes to money or job or materialistic stuff it has to come from the guy im on sickness benefits, and some men think i cant pay my own way and that really pisses me off, because normally i have more money than them, i have a phone bill to pay and thats it, so ive got a load of spare money, if they judge me i let them carry on, and when i tell them how much money i get and i have no bills they soon come creeping back up my ass, then i say **** off, as they have just spent the last 5 mins slagging me off and judging me

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/30/08 04:07 PM
i cant see your reply

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 04:12 PM
i cant see your reply i was saying i understand what your saying cause that happens to me. i dont have alot of extra money due to the fact when i had a roomate before and he had bad credit so he got me to get cable.phone and some other things and took it off of the rent which helped us both. but now since ive moved out i got those contracts still and i got to pay themoff and live. but i do have some monet y just not a lot but i dont own a house or anything so automaticly all people on ssi are the same

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/30/08 04:14 PM
i cant see your reply i was saying i understand what your saying cause that happens to me. i dont have alot of extra money due to the fact when i had a roomate before and he had bad credit so he got me to get cable.phone and some other things and took it off of the rent which helped us both. but now since ive moved out i got those contracts still and i got to pay themoff and live. but i do have some monet y just not a lot but i dont own a house or anything so automaticly all people on ssi are the same i can understand your frustration. i get more money know than when i was a full time dental nurse. i let them judge me first, so i get to find out what there really like, and when they know ive got only one bill, and i get a lot of money, there attitude chnages, but then its to late, they already ****ed up.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/30/08 04:15 PM
i can totaly be happy with myself and mostly not all but mostly am happy withself and others say i am alot of fun. but when it comes to a relationship its different and im not trying to make excuses im telling a fact. i am on ssi and dont have alot of money. when the female finds out i have no job, no house or no car they run and to begin with there profile says they want comunication and honesty but your honest and tell your on ssi which i dont hide at all women runs cause you dont have materialistic stuff to ofer them but they want honesty. yeah right. they want the guy to do it all for them but they all say the want honesty and egual rights. they want equal rigjhts as long as they benifit but when it comes to money or job or materialistic stuff it has to come from the guy Ike, to those that are looking for someone to take care of them, dont you think it's best that a relationship never materialized? just sharing my opinion not passing judgement. You have some difficult hurdles to overcome ahead, as most of us do. But what I am trying to say, is take control of your surroundings, your feelings, your economic status, if the person finds they cant deal with it move on. dont rationalize why other people act/react how they do. their loss. good luck to you Ike

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 04:19 PM
i cant see your reply i was saying i understand what your saying cause that happens to me. i dont have alot of extra money due to the fact when i had a roomate before and he had bad credit so he got me to get cable.phone and some other things and took it off of the rent which helped us both. but now since ive moved out i got those contracts still and i got to pay themoff and live. but i do have some monet y just not a lot but i dont own a house or anything so automaticly all people on ssi are the same thats great advice, thank you i can understand your frustration. i get more money know than when i was a full time dental nurse. i let them judge me first, so i get to find out what there really like, and when they know ive got only one bill, and i get a lot of money, there attitude chnages, but then its to late, they already ****ed up.

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 04:22 PM
i can totaly be happy with myself and mostly not all but mostly am happy withself and others say i am alot of fun. but when it comes to a relationship its different and im not trying to make excuses im telling a fact. i am on ssi and dont have alot of money. when the female finds out i have no job, no house or no car they run and to begin with there profile says they want comunication and honesty but your honest and tell your on ssi which i dont hide at all women runs cause you dont have materialistic stuff to ofer them but they want honesty. yeah right. they want the guy to do it all for them but they all say the want honesty and egual rights. they want equal rigjhts as long as they benifit but when it comes to money or job or materialistic stuff it has to come from the guy Ike, to those that are looking for someone to take care of them, dont you think it's best that a relationship never materialized? just sharing my opinion not passing judgement. You have some difficult hurdles to overcome ahead, as most of us do. But what I am trying to say, is take control of your surroundings, your feelings, your economic status, if the person finds they cant deal with it move on. dont rationalize why other people act/react how they do. their loss. good luck to you Ike ok.thanks and this is great advice, ill try it and again thanks for advice and a friend