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littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 02:54 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? i've been used too..there r good people out there..hard to find..dont know what to tell ya and also when u try to hard to find someone, u wont!!!! let it go, take it easy, i'll happen for ya everyones been used, get past it or you ll never have a healthy relationship, its life. not to be mean, just blunt thank you and im trying

BonnyMiss Joined Thu 05/10/07 Posts: 15342	Mon 06/30/08 02:56 PM
By carrying the element of mistrust from one failed relationship into a new relationship you do yourself a disservice.It may not be easy for a lot of people to completely relax in a new relationship once an old relationship has failed (granted) but with time and effort you can spot the signs ( sometimes quite early) and gauge which direction your new relationship is heading...................

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 02:59 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? so in ALL of your 20 relationships, how did they use you?? and thats in ALL 20, everyone???? guys im a real careing person but i do have a habbit of jumping to fast and asking questions later and i useualy get used as they are into thereselfs and what they can get right now, and thats my fault. and no it was not all 20 im just saying its a pattern and i dont think and get used alot but im not looking for a right or wrong answer just peoples view on this subject

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/30/08 03:01 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? so in ALL of your 20 relationships, how did they use you?? and thats in ALL 20, everyone???? guys im a real careing person but i do have a habbit of jumping to fast and asking questions later and i useualy get used as they are into thereselfs and what they can get right now, and thats my fault. and no it was not all 20 im just saying its a pattern and i dont think and get used alot but im not looking for a right or wrong answer just peoples view on this subject do you think your doing something wrong maybe??

izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Mon 06/30/08 03:03 PM
ok here goes.. first 98% get real.. that leaves the other 2 % as the women who used to be men right?? second.. 20 relationships!!?? and you think that WE are the issue.. my man has trust issues.. as do i... oddly enough we both waited for eachother.. and when WE were ready then we became a "couple" we both have out days.. some days i am jelous.. others he is.. depends on the day. and on occasion we are both crazy!! lol then we ignore each other that day and try again the next.. thing is.. you gotta be willing to try.. she has to be willing to try.. and you need to work together towards that!! and if not.. then MOVE ON!!! find another.. or better yet.. find out what it is that you have that is making trust an issue for you.. and work on it yourself!! and get over it first.. then start a realationship!!! till then... you get out what you put in! thats how it is.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/30/08 03:03 PM
guys im a real careing person but i do have a habbit of jumping to fast and asking questions later and i useualy get used as they are into thereselfs and what they can get right now, and thats my fault. and no it was not all 20 im just saying its a pattern and i dont think and get used alot but im not looking for a right or wrong answer just peoples view on this subject Lilike - if you know what the problem is why not try and fix it or change the outcome... take control - but you also did say you were looking for other views. My view, once you can truly be happy with yourself, then and only then will you ever find someone to share your happiness with.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/30/08 03:04 PM
i agree fran

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:08 PM
Not all women are like that. i agree all arent but 98% are sunshine 98% of the women you have met maybe but not 98% of the entire female population. also quick question, I have seen a lot of your posts and you seem to yearn for a relationship really badly. why? and can this be the problem?i can explain all this if you realy care to hear. but it will be more than just a couple sentences. i truly dont know what 100% love is since i had a stepdad wich my mom took his side that threw me out of his and moms interest after having his own 2 biological kids. he tried to choke me to death, he put me into juvinile hall for all my adolecent childhood, and my mom was on his side and followed him. my grandparents got ahold of me and raised me after that and showed me gods love, they died and i have noone anymore. when they died part of me died. besides them i have never felt love until i got maried then she was bi polar and wanted to play the field and divorced me and crushed me

Sexyklp4U Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 3377	Mon 06/30/08 03:12 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? i've been used too..there r good people out there..hard to find..dont know what to tell ya and also when u try to hard to find someone, u wont!!!! let it go, take it easy, i'll happen for ya ok thank you sexy even tho we have had r differences you r a true friend well no offence, but u rushed things, u r 3,000 miles away first off and second u rushed things and U did come across negative to me..i dont like negative guys..i'm sorry

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/30/08 03:12 PM
lilike - things happen, try and turn all those negative things that you have been thru around... make them all positive... you have the power and the control to make yourself happy... once that radiates, you will attract someone just for you. we all have tragedies and live thru drama (in one way or another)... keep in mind those things help make you the person you are... you and only you are responsible for your actions as an adult... my advise, focus on positive things, energy, actions, and experience how much fun life is! {{{{lilike}}}}

Sexyklp4U Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 3377	Mon 06/30/08 03:14 PM
In any case to me and i believe this: THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE AND EVERYONE FOR SOMEONE..BUT SOMETIMES QUICKLY, SOMETIMES SLOWLY..I KNOW I WONT BE SINGLE 4-EVER. I HAVE WAY TOO MUCH TO OFFER AND I'M NOT SAYING THAT TO BE CONCEDED..JUST POSITIVE..."AMEN"!!!!! GOTTA HAVE FAITH!!

chuck366 Joined Tue 10/16/07 Posts: 4666	Mon 06/30/08 03:14 PM
In any case to me and i believe this: THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE AND EVERYONE FOR SOMEONE..BUT SOMETIMES QUICKLY, SOMETIMES SLOWLY..I KNOW I WONT BE SINGLE 4-EVER. I HAVE WAY TOO MUCH TO OFFER AND I'M NOT SAYING THAT TO BE CONCEDED..JUST POSITIVE..."AMEN"!!!!! GOTTA HAVE FAITH!! I agree

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Mon 06/30/08 03:16 PM
In any case to me and i believe this: THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE AND EVERYONE FOR SOMEONE..BUT SOMETIMES QUICKLY, SOMETIMES SLOWLY..I KNOW I WONT BE SINGLE 4-EVER. I HAVE WAY TOO MUCH TO OFFER AND I'M NOT SAYING THAT TO BE CONCEDED..JUST POSITIVE..."AMEN"!!!!! GOTTA HAVE FAITH!! I think there are more than one person for me... but they must take a number and line up on the left until chosen You are correct KLP! also a positive attitude attracts suitors; doesnt push them away... wtg!!!

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:17 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? so in ALL of your 20 relationships, how did they use you?? and thats in ALL 20, everyone???? guys im a real careing person but i do have a habbit of jumping to fast and asking questions later and i useualy get used as they are into thereselfs and what they can get right now, and thats my fault. and no it was not all 20 im just saying its a pattern and i dont think and get used alot but im not looking for a right or wrong answer just peoples view on this subject do you think your doing something wrong maybe?? probaly, and im trying to get advice and also find out what im doing wrong

BonnyMiss Joined Thu 05/10/07 Posts: 15342	Mon 06/30/08 03:17 PM
In any case to me and i believe this: THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE AND EVERYONE FOR SOMEONE..BUT SOMETIMES QUICKLY, SOMETIMES SLOWLY..I KNOW I WONT BE SINGLE 4-EVER. I HAVE WAY TOO MUCH TO OFFER AND I'M NOT SAYING THAT TO BE CONCEDED..JUST POSITIVE..."AMEN"!!!!! GOTTA HAVE FAITH!! Could not have said it any better, this is a very positive attitude.

jtip1977 Joined Mon 11/12/07 Posts: 10410	Mon 06/30/08 03:18 PM
are you saying you have trust issues? If so Next Please...................J/K yes i do, alot of fakes and phonies and money hungry people Like i said develop a relationship wiht just you I doubt the right hand is gonna jerk over the left..........

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Mon 06/30/08 03:19 PM
how come just because women have been in bad relationships they tell guys they have trust issues with men and guys are sopose to aceptm it and take there time and court the women for ever. but when a guy says they have trust issues with women then the woman runs away and goes to the next person? does that seem fair at all? Because when it has happend not once, not twice, not three or four or five but quite a few times,it takes time to trust, etc..my opinion anyways..so, thats why i'm picky and i've learned alot in past relationships..alot!! so i take my time, i'm still young, no hurry here. I know my prince is out there somewhere and when the time is right, it will happen..i truly beleive u have to go thru the pain to experience the joy!! how do you know i dont have emotions and feeling like a woman but im not gay and i have had 20 relationships were women have used me? so in ALL of your 20 relationships, how did they use you?? and thats in ALL 20, everyone???? guys im a real careing person but i do have a habbit of jumping to fast and asking questions later and i useualy get used as they are into thereselfs and what they can get right now, and thats my fault. and no it was not all 20 im just saying its a pattern and i dont think and get used alot but im not looking for a right or wrong answer just peoples view on this subject do you think your doing something wrong maybe?? probaly, and im trying to get advice and also find out what im doing wrong i think you know

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:23 PM
ok here goes.. first 98% get real.. that leaves the other 2 % as the women who used to be men right?? second.. 20 relationships!!?? and you think that WE are the issue.. my man has trust issues.. as do i... oddly enough we both waited for eachother.. and when WE were ready then we became a "couple" we both have out days.. some days i am jelous.. others he is.. depends on the day. and on occasion we are both crazy!! lol then we ignore each other that day and try again the next.. thing is.. you gotta be willing to try.. she has to be willing to try.. and you need to work together towards that!! and if not.. then MOVE ON!!! find another.. or better yet.. find out what it is that you have that is making trust an issue for you.. and work on it yourself!! and get over it first.. then start a realationship!!! till then... you get out what you put in! thats how it is. its easy for all you to say move on, first you guys dont live in california, one of the most fastest paced places in the united states if not world, then on top of that the capitol of california. i am not a light switch were i can just turn my emotions on and off. maybe and most likely its useualy one sided and i care 90 and they do 10 or less

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:25 PM
ok here goes.. first 98% get real.. that leaves the other 2 % as the women who used to be men right?? second.. 20 relationships!!?? and you think that WE are the issue.. my man has trust issues.. as do i... oddly enough we both waited for eachother.. and when WE were ready then we became a "couple" we both have out days.. some days i am jelous.. others he is.. depends on the day. and on occasion we are both crazy!! lol then we ignore each other that day and try again the next.. thing is.. you gotta be willing to try.. she has to be willing to try.. and you need to work together towards that!! and if not.. then MOVE ON!!! find another.. or better yet.. find out what it is that you have that is making trust an issue for you.. and work on it yourself!! and get over it first.. then start a realationship!!! till then... you get out what you put in! thats how it is. my issues on trust are i get used cause i try and they try just a speck

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Mon 06/30/08 03:27 PM
guys im a real careing person but i do have a habbit of jumping to fast and asking questions later and i useualy get used as they are into thereselfs and what they can get right now, and thats my fault. and no it was not all 20 im just saying its a pattern and i dont think and get used alot but im not looking for a right or wrong answer just peoples view on this subject Lilike - if you know what the problem is why not try and fix it or change the outcome... take control - but you also did say you were looking for other views. My view, once you can truly be happy with yourself, then and only then will you ever find someone to share your happiness with. i can change but you cant change people who dont want to change. and california is mostly people into thereselfs or what they can get for free