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We've all heard the expression, "When will I learn." I have talked a number of women where the pain of a relationship has prevented them from reaching out again.
I was cutting a bagel and warned myself that my hand was not correctly placed. I said to myself, "that knife is going to slip and its going to hurt." I made a simple readjustment and continued halving the bagel. Are you setting yourself up for more pain? Have you made the proper readjustment? Could you have done to prevent the pain from your last relationship? BTW, if I would have just been more cautious with my bagel I still had a very real risk of pain. I think we need to do more than that. I'm going to go eat my bagel. |
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yea i made adjustments to my hand fun skills last night
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Edited by
Random_Stranger
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Sat 06/28/08 02:31 PM
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Ay! Where's the cookies & $#!T? I was told there as food for thought here? Wasn't we supposed to eat and then think about things? Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe.........
Sometimes people hurt so they learn why not to do those things they have been warned of. It is a learning tool I suppose, or a wound that needs to heal so you can get back in the ring and fight again (Boxing fans)..... I am sure this topic has been discussed many times regarding pain and joys of past relationships. I know I have threw up my food for thoughts plenty of times in here. And does anyone listen to me? Nooooooooooooo....... But tis okay.
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Yes. I now have a Bullsh!t barrier!!!
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Yes. I now have a Bullsh!t barrier!!! So you have readjusted by stepping over the poop! That's a good start. |
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I dont know about setting myself up for my pain.....I think Im more cautious right now......maybe too much???
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We've all heard the expression, "When will I learn." I have talked a number of women where the pain of a relationship has prevented them from reaching out again. I was cutting a bagel and warned myself that my hand was not correctly placed. I said to myself, "that knife is going to slip and its going to hurt." I made a simple readjustment and continued halving the bagel. Are you setting yourself up for more pain? Have you made the proper readjustment? Could you have done to prevent the pain from your last relationship? BTW, if I would have just been more cautious with my bagel I still had a very real risk of pain. I think we need to do more than that. I'm going to go eat my bagel. |
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Yes. I now have a Bullsh!t barrier!!! So you have readjusted by stepping over the poop! That's a good start. No , I have readjusted by not dealing with Bullsh!t anymore 
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We've all heard the expression, "When will I learn." I have talked a number of women where the pain of a relationship has prevented them from reaching out again. I was cutting a bagel and warned myself that my hand was not correctly placed. I said to myself, "that knife is going to slip and its going to hurt." I made a simple readjustment and continued halving the bagel. Are you setting yourself up for more pain? Have you made the proper readjustment? Could you have done to prevent the pain from your last relationship?  I ask myself that question all the time.  BTW, if I would have just been more cautious with my bagel I still had a very real risk of pain. I think we need to do more than that. I'm going to go eat my bagel. |
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Ay! Where's the cookies & $#!T? I was told there as food for thought here? Wasn't we supposed to eat and then think about things? Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe......... MMMM..smack.I brought my own. Didn't somebody say this was a brown bag lunch. Mmmmm...frozen yogurt yummy. Okay, that was good. I'm one of those women who has become overly cautious like imceejaye. So how do we get back to the happy medium of testing the waters again. I have that bad habit of not correctly placing my hand and then the knife slips. I do try but now I tend to get out much earlier than I used to and take longer breaks from dating. |
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Yes. I now have a Bullsh!t barrier!!! That sort of like the no drama policy I have? |
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Edited by
DestinysDream
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Sat 06/28/08 02:49 PM
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Ay! Where's the cookies & $#!T? I was told there as food for thought here? Wasn't we supposed to eat and then think about things? Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwe......... MMMM..smack.I brought my own. Didn't somebody say this was a brown bag lunch. Mmmmm...frozen yogurt yummy. Okay, that was good. I'm one of those women who has become overly cautious like imceejaye. So how do we get back to the happy medium of testing the waters again. I have that bad habit of not correctly placing my hand and then the knife slips. I do try but now I tend to get out much earlier than I used to and take longer breaks from dating. I'm a newbie there too. I look at others success and see what they did right. I would rather do that than follow someone like Patsfan who, like myself, is still searching. (No offense intended Pats). |
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Yes. I now have a Bullsh!t barrier!!! That sort of like the no drama policy I have?  Bingo
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Decent analogy!!
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As soon as the drama starts I am gone. I have a 17 yr old daughter I think I have enough drama without the drama from anyone else.
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i always like hearing your words of wisdom, and common sense. our everchanging surroundings should change us more as a whole, but i think people have their comfort zones built-in too deeply sometimes, and do certain things to fall asleep or not pay attention to what they are doing, (or holding) i hope with your words that you make them more aware and awake. it will change their lives if they pay attention.
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fact: there's a thousand years of combined experience easily on these forums for relationships, or just everyday life. some positive and some negative. all of it we can learn from to attain positive gain.
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consider the lottery.
imagine, financially set for life, everything material you ever wanted. but to win it, you must be in it. time and again taking the chance giving up a little of whats important, another dollar. the only guarantee is that if you don't put that buck on the counter, and take the chance - you'll never hit. |
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We've all heard the expression, "When will I learn." I have talked a number of women where the pain of a relationship has prevented them from reaching out again. I was cutting a bagel and warned myself that my hand was not correctly placed. I said to myself, "that knife is going to slip and its going to hurt." I made a simple readjustment and continued halving the bagel. Are you setting yourself up for more pain? Have you made the proper readjustment? Could you have done to prevent the pain from your last relationship? BTW, if I would have just been more cautious with my bagel I still had a very real risk of pain. I think we need to do more than that. I'm going to go eat my bagel. You Should of just had a V8 instead lol .. wait no go get a bagel cutter then you won't need a knife any more. Well to be honest here I never been in a relationship for one, I've tired talking to more women online and maybe one or two off line but noting really happens. |
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Some people just aren't worth the time.
 Nobody in their right mind wants to get hurt. With some people, it's worth the ride...others, you can use the excuse of being hurt in the past to walk away.  ...With that being said, nobody like to be "picked apart" or analyzed either. If you want to be in a relationship with someone "real" you have to learn how to turn your psychotherapy switch off. Appreciate the things they are willing to share and take their words for what they are worth. Don't twist and try to "process" them to your liking 
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