I totally agree with you on what you said.

Start clean and start with a open mind .

Thank you

Your very welcome.

in essence to avoiding getting hurt (by the bagel)
i would attempt to watch the subtle moves of the bagel.
avoid a name calling bagel.
or one covered in onions.
discuss my opinions openly and honestly with the bagel...
i might indeed avoid slicing the bagel in half..and maybe gently opening it up.



btw..can i have a bagel with cream cheese??

Some people are definitely not worth the effort. Except we have trained ourselves since the days of childhood to be selective with who we associate. At least for my self I know when someone is "special" and when they aren't.

Pain in relationships cuts two-ways. There is not only your action but also the reaction of another to consider. We can put a antiseptic and band-aid over our own wound if we slip-up but you'll likely have no control over the other person's reaction. Empathy helps but it is a trait which is hard to hone in a lot of people. Your hand will fly away from the bagel in an instant but the damage could already have been done.

"Appreciate the things they are willing to share and take their words for what they are worth. Don't twist and try to "process" them to your liking"
We each process things as best we can. I am not sure it is processing them "to your own liking" but the act of understanding one other where things begin to break down. That's why communication is so important. Jumping to conclusions even when you are positive you know what someone said is a mistake but it is one that will always be present.
"I said take my hand."
"I did take your hand."
"I meant my left hand."
"Oh."