About people sayin negative/hurtful things to each other in a relationship? you think its right even as a joke? like " OH your old"? this is not happing to me, just want ur thoughts.

No, even jokingly it can hurt and will wear on a person if it is continually done over time.

wellimknow iam old so it wouldnt be a lie ..but yeah words can cut likea knife..

i think if two ppl who joke all the time with the understanding that its not meant to be hurtful is ok...but if its mean to be mean....thats not right ive been in negative relationships before and it isnt healthy at all..it hurts

depending on your personalities and humor depends if its ok. if they are not joking well why be with them?

Relationships can be a difficult thing ,especially when your in one a long time, lots of bad things said, it happens!!

I totally agree

My ex could take one statement and make it a compliment, a joke, or an insult. It never worked well as a compliment again after it was used as an insult though.

I joke around with my friends all the time. I'll make a crack on something. It's usually the same thing, and it doesn't bother them. If it does, they say something, and i don't say it again. I'd like to think that the person i end up with is my bestfriend. So i dont think she would mind. If she did, she would be honest and tell me, and i wouldn't do it.

For outright hurtful things, i think everyone slips up. If someone is having a bad day, and says something hurtful, then i can let it go, as long as they take responsability for it later and appologise. There are lines that shouldn't be crossed either. If those lines get crossed, or they don't say 'hey i'm sorry for saying that', then resentments form, and before you know it, you are in a match to see who can say the most hurtful things. Thats when you know the relastionship is pretty much over.

Most of us get the "mouth runneth over" thing from time to time

no...not hurtful things but i love joking around

when that happens, it's called a cheap shot, whether it be friends, lovers, wife, stranger, or casual aqquaintence, it's something to make the (joker) feel superior in front of his friends, then hides behind it......i call him on it, ....everytime. the girl might say something nasty,(that i don't even know), and i'll say, do you feel better now? i appreciate your cutdowns, but i'm done now, so move along.......

I can see your roots

I dont think two people who love each other should cuss each other. Knowing this my wife would push & push until I finally done it She would cuss me like a dog. There has to be a certain level of respect But after that day it just gets easier

Joking or not There is always away it will blow up in your face in the next arguement

Oh sure. I love having my self esteem being dwindled down by the one I am with. Sign me up please. I must have this.

Life is too short to be treated in a negative way by your partner. I like to joke around but saying something hurtful to someone I am with is not for me.

I see you coming out of your shell more. That's a good thing. As for those hurtful things, I'm pretty much unphased by it. People call me crazy, and I inform them that the state of Ohio agrees. Sometimes I explain the only difference between me and them is that I got caught. Now I can pretty much get away with anything, and what's their excuse.

It depends on the recipient of said sarcasm and the motives. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't make light of someone else's defects, knowing full well that I probably share those defects. In the case of one friend, any time he talks about an interest in a woman, I air guitar dueling banjos because well, when he goes there, all reason goes to the curb. Can I relate? Hell ya.

Note to self: Read the thread, then post.. read the thread then post. <g>

When it is obviously the opposite and said in sarcasm then that should be understood...just make sure it is, so they will not wonder about your opinion of them. Then it's fine to joke. Words are not easily taken back though...so be careful to make your intentions known.

joking is all fun and games till someone gets hurt.im thick skinned,but my x wife wasnt. had to learn when it was ok and when it wasnt.I hurt her feelings tryin to be funny many times