I was called a stupid big gutted dlckless wonder! I said "Who you callin stupid!"

"Never injure a friend, even in jest." (Cicero)

I don't think there's anything LESS funny than hearing someone make a crack about their significant other in order to garner a laugh ... and the ol' "just kidding" doesn't cover a multitude of sins, sorry!

if you need to belittle a partner, friend, acquaintance or even a perfect stranger to make yourself feel better about yourself there is something seriously wrong. (w/u)

Words can hurt. It is the delivery of the words that make the final impact. So, depending on the way something is said and the realtionship of the people involved, words can hurt worse than a slap.

joking is great if you're not the brunt of it ..

having fun at someone else's expense is just rude and unacceptable

I think it's important when you're in a relationship to be able to joke. It's really about the level of trust you have with the person, the spirit of what you are saying, and what you tell them them or say when you are serious.

My boyfriend and I joke about things that I guess you might call "hurtful" if you thinking calling someone old is mean. I tease him all the time about squinting when he's trying to read without his glasses, having the lungs of a 108 year old, and being old. He's 43 and I'm 23, so age is something we are comfortable discussing. He knows his age isn't an issue for me, that I love him for who he is (even his squintiness), and that when I joke it is just that-- a joke, not a comment meant to make him feel bad. The same thing applies in reverse when he calls me short, tells me I'm goofy or crazy, or whatever other teasing things we say. I know that it's really ne of the things that makes me different and contribute to how much he cares about me.

The bottom line is make sure you both know what is a joke and what is serious. Also, if there is a sore subject (like weight), be mindful of that person's feelings and stay away if it hurts them.

Hey, I resemble that comment!

But not quite as good as a knife. Words are words, nothing more...if they are coming at you with a distaste for something you do, then they become personal attacks...then you stab the person with a spork.

I like to say mean things jokingly and being playful. I love when it is done with me, because there is some honesty behind it, only I am not too sensitive. I can laugh at that stuff, because I am not insecure. When my ex and I did that, we laughed hard, but after awhile, she got bothered by it. She couldn't hang. But for me, it tells me "Look, I know your flaws, but I still love you, and to me, you are perfect with or without those flaws".


That's just me though.

Exactly, see people...words can't hurt people the intent behind the words is what hurts people.

well i have a sarcastic,dry sense of humor that while harmless can piss peeps off if they dont get it so i have to watch myself sometimes.would never hurt the one i love on puurpose but the wit is ingrained so ...

There is no definite yes or no answer to this as relationships are very circumstantial. Depends on the sensitivity of the person in regards to what you are making fun of. It the person is very self concious about an issue, don't joke about it. But there shouldn't be a list of issues a mile long you can't make a crack at. This would be a quality of a "drama gueen". Just be careful not to take things too far or you will make your partner feel self concious and sensitive. Make light of the bad, but make sure to otice the good too.