Well said Gammers!

Well you got at least a 50/50 chance
What do you have to lose but your pride, self esteem and bouts of depression, despair, thoughts of suicide....hmmmm sounds like a bargain

absolutely!!! when you have enough long conversations it's just like sitting next to that person...ya'll have connected on a deep level already so don't be scared....if you think positively that it will work out for you then it will

nahhhh...not that type of person at all and neiter is Peccy. This is why we can show our love so freely...

Ok, case solved! Peccy called me and I aint scared no more

Awwww you should have never been scared in the first place just go with your heart and what you want not what anyone else says.


If we were all afraid of what the end results were no one would ever meet anyone.

I say go for the gusto live life as it should be with an open mind and heart

You'll probably feel some of it. There's really no way to tell about chemistry.

At that point, you'll both have to decide if the other positive qualities about each other are worth taking a chance to see if sexual/physical chemistry develops.

Good Luck!

I met someone on another forum/dating site about two years ago. We met real-life 3-4 months later because I lived on Long Island, NY and he lived in Houston, TX. Chemistry wasn't all there, but we decided to give it a try. We made a couple more 7-10 day visits before finally deciding to move in together a year later. Prior to that, we communicated online and by phone every night. After we started living together, I noticed things about him that I could not tolerate, things that are hard to see when you are "on vacation", visiting with someone. I asked him to leave and moved him to Philly, PA within 3 months.

That being said, I know of quite a few other couples that started off on line/phone and made the transition to real life. They are still together today and most are married or committed to each other in some other manner.

Online/phone compared to real life is a completely different ball of wax. You cannot compare. It really isn't real, till its real. But, read that with optimism and positive anticipation, not dread and trepidation. This is an adventure for you both! Real life will be infinitely better and more rewarding, should you both connect; you'll see.

you havent met yet?

I've been watching this for a while just like everyone else here.
Relax, take a breath.
It will all be fine.
There will be chemistry or not.
No one going to lose a job, house, career, kids, or family.
No one is going to take away your birthday.

My money is on this to be a successful adventure for the both of you.

Not sure about where or how far you live from each other...but if it is a fairly long distance..I would reccomend a short(2-3) day first visit.
I met a great lady from Canada and chatted, e-mailed, talked, cammed etc for about six months. She took a week vacation from work, booked a flight down here and I put her up in a really nice beach front hotel for the week.
Well after the first several hours I noticed certain things about her that just turned me off...namely she was an alcoholic...at first I just chalked it up to drinking because of nerves etc but she wanted to drink ALL the time..literally from waking up to going to sleep.
It was a miserable experience namely because I felt obligated to "see" her for the whole week because she had flown down, used her vacation and because I am a nice guy and would never leave a woman stranded. To make a long story short...after a few days I was miserable and She was upset and hurt.
So if you are going somewhere far from home....make it short and sweet for the first time..unless you have other friends or family in the area.....JMO

Then you stay friends, and support each other....

Didnt anybody tell you??? Were all alcoholics in Canada!!! jk

LOL..I guess with that balmy weather you have up there, you have to do something to keep warm

Its hot here!!!

shhhhhhhh,gyspy41, you're not suppose to tell


lilangel and peccy you will be just fine, you both seem to be reasonable people.

relax and have fun when you meet

I have someone on here that started out very romantic, but becasue of distance and his circumstances and mine, we knew there could never be an "us" I was so upset about my date this weekend, I called him last night, and he talked me off my ledge. I love and adore him, if things changed I would hand over the keys to my castle in a heart beat... He knows this, but also knows the reality of our situations. He has become someone to me that I can rely on and he can do the same with me.

If he ever starts dating someone I will be devistated, but I only want him to be happy... He is an amazing and wonderful person, and I am blessed to have him in my life, no matter what part of it....

He claims me as his property, and if things were different... I would be.

Wow, the point to my endless ramble was, even if things don't work the way you want them to, no one comes into your life for no good reason. Enjoy what you have while you have it. Live today, not for the future, that can be taken away in an instant...

It's HOT where ever you are

And, get your own room at a B&B or hotel/motel so that you can make a mini vacation out of it in case things do not work out well. Not sure what state you will be meeting in, but I stayed at some nice places in NM the 2-3 times I have been there. 2 or 3 of those times was in hopes of meeting this person who I fell in love with long distance and had a 3-4 year emotional romance with. It is a long story, full of mixed emotions - mainly heart-wrenching tears. But, I learned so much from the experience.

We never met (it was a phone/cam, IM relationship - not of my choice), but he has become a special person in my life, once I got over the betrayal, rage, and of his deception. After a good long time of me reaming him out, ignoring him, and moving on with my life through the heartbreak and tears, I forgave him. It took years. I will never accept him as a life partner, even though he still says it is possible. I won't fall for his BS about that anymore.

However, he has been there for me, emotionally, like no other man I have ever "known". Even to have found someone like that can't be so bad. Out of respect for Mikecom21hotmaiL, I no longer speak to my former NM love....just wanted to clarify. It was a very difficult thing to do; but, it was necessary, because he would have prevented me from moving on.

So, even if it doesn't work out between you two, you may find that you have made a good confidante in each other.

It's always a gamble when you find someone new. I feel that you can get to know someone here better than face-to-face in a bar.Here you can sit back and observe how they write....how they treat others...how his\her personality matches with yours and what their likes and dis-likes are all about. In a bar...you end up drunk and influenced by people that you would normally never associate with....let alone end-up in the sack with!!!