I'd like to think so, too, but I'm basing my opinions on personal
experience, and, like I've said, the prevalent attitudes that you see in
forum discussions and the like.

I'm a bluntly honest person and this is just the overwhelming attidude
that I've witnessed, so I'm telling it like I see it.

Now, what they REALLY want from a woman might be a well-guarded
"secret." Let me ask you this:

In these forum discussions how often have you seen men talk about
wanting a woman for her intelligence, her friendship, her ability to
reason, her talent (outside the bedroom), etc.?

Oh, once in a while they talk about it, but, by and large, men talk
about women in a sexual sense and that's all that seems to matter to
most of them.

If they want women to know that they appreciate them for things other
than what they can do for them sexually, then they need to speak up.

I know sheila, I hear you and have seen it for myself.....
Unfortuantely, men do not participate too often, if at all, in the
threads we are speaking of. I have seriously wondered why that is
myself. It is a great opportunity to interact with the opposite sex.

I for one would look forward to and appreciate men participating in
discussions, giving genuine opinion's and viewpoints about issues rather
than just seeing them post drivel all the time. It would in fact be
refreshing. I am attracted to a fun and humorous spirit but there has to
be much more to them than just that.

up? i speak that !!!! i know not interested ,,,you want someone who just
wants you for your body i know ,,,but ,,,i'm still around

There are good men out there, but you have to remember that, men are so
different than women, and there are a lot of women who actually get
turned off by gentlemen. This gives men a complex that is hard for them
to over come.

I know some great guys who get completely overlooked because they are so
gentlemanly.

i agree mg, i love a gentelman..i love a man that treats me like a woman
should. i just seem to keep coming across guys that are affraid of
commitment..they dont want a relationship..gezzzzzzzzzzzzz no wonder
i've been single for 5 yrs..its always the same
thing..always!!!! this guy im dating now, same thing..doesnt
want a relationship but sure will take me to bed huh? so sick of the
bull****!!!!

I give up!!

maybe i'll try women!!!



not!!!!! its prob the same with them too


Im kidding

Sorry for jacking your thread off the Top10 dewdrew....

Well papa and mg......I can't speak for all women, just myself. Far too
often a gentleman is not overlooked, but sit's off to the side and
hardly ever post's or just read's post's versus jumping in and
participating when he is interested in the topic and wanting to chat
with those participating. Maybe it's just me, but I look at the forum's
as a great place in getting to know something about a person, as a
person. Be it friend's or a connection, whatever a person is wanting
from the experience.

ok that's a tough one to answer.. cause you can't generalize women or
men.... the age is what sets the standards for each generation...
what i want now and what i wanted when i was 25 are way different... and
i'm sure the wants and needs of mean change with age as well. the only
thing that stands the test of time with both genders is sex... we all
want sex... well i do.. HAHAHA

mean= men oops fopa

i rarely get in on the sex one's but am often in on others i think the
sex one's that i've seen are just for bravado and i don't lack that so
let the others who feel the need

I can tell you when I get turned off by a man being a "gentleman"...and
that's when he comes across as so "gallant" that it's nauseatingly
pretentious and exceedingly transparent.

Case in point: when a man whom you don't even know sends you an email
peppered with all these flowery romantic adjectives about your beauty
and grace and how he saw you from across the miles and ...yadayadayada
..yeah, shaddup, already! Cuz you know he's sending the same form letter
to everyone else.

To me, being a gentleman is simply doing nice things like holding a door
open for me, helping me on with my coat, looking at my FACE when you're
talking to me and not at my chest like this:


and talking to me as though I'm capable of carrying on an intelligent
conversation (I am, you know) and not as though scoring with me is all
you seem to care about.

I saw an old high school sweetheart of mine the other day and we were in
a situation where kissing me on the mouth would have been inappropriate
but, right before he turned to leave, he took my hand and gently kissed
the back of my hand.

Sigh....now, that was both charming and respectful.

Not always necessarily papa. Sometime's it's to get it out, a burst of
fun to get people interacting in a lighthearted way. I am guilty of that
at time's but over all I prefer the other......

I would be interested to hear from men, in regards to what are the top10
things men are actually looking for in a potential mate, and not just
what the women think they do.

so when the topic is would you give oral to the person above you this
is? [which btw some men feel the need to say no to the man above them
!!]

To me, the would you _____ the person above you threads are a complete
waste of time and energy and are completely pointless. I like having fun
as much as the next person, but, for me anyway, even fun has to have
"reason."

let's see, what would i want in a ladie....hmmmmm
1-personality
2-accept me for me
don't try to change me
3-trusting
4-honest
5- little boobs
bib boobs are overrated.......lol

#5 is so i don't let jean down on us men.............lolol

LOL. Well, I don't know about "overrated," but they sure are a *****
when you're trying to find a blouse to fit.

Can't speak to those thread's and don't enjoy participating in the
above/below thread's. When I first joined an online community I really
had no idea what they were and posted a few time's. Now, I avoid them.
I like the fact they are not rampant here at JSH as is at another place.
The overall quality and content is adult(mature and not childish)in
nature here, compared to other place's and that is what I appreciate.
Bear in mind, the forum menu has topics for whatever mood strikes an
individual and free to participate accordingly. And with that....I am
off to work

Have a great Monday everyone!

I totally agree...people here are by far more mature than other dating
sites I've been to, as well as being a lot of fun, too!

see jean, it would be so much easier if they were smaller. plus all men
would not look at them and look at you.........lolol

now wait a minute i always thought boobs were aimed at OUR eyes

Oh ok i admit it! i posted on the oral sex thread....