I have been getting my travel documents ready and stuff and slowly
planning my trip. But as I have been doing it. I am starting to question
is love really worth it? I look back at all my pass relationships and
replay the faliur that ended up as. It seems like nothing but a vicious
cycle. So I ask you again. Is love really worth all the heartache, pain
and suffering the we tend to feel? I mean even if you are in a loving
relationship you are still going to feel hurt and pain sometimes. So is
love worth it?

Sorry the topic should read. Do you ever WONDER if love is really worth
it. Sorry for the missing word there...lol.

Love is never really worth the trouble. But, without it, there is
nothing to measure worthiness.

Love is never where you look to find it. Seems to only show up when
you're not looking.

Go figure.

I think it CAN be worth it, I don't think it always is....it's a matter
of priorities, and how real it is....

But it's normal to have doubts and questions when you're getting closer
to a situation that is, in some ways, a little scary. It's a defense
mechanism, and it's there to keep a little bit of a wall up.

The "thinking error" (as it's often called) is that you're letting
thoughts and memories of past relationships trickle into your thinking
about the current situation. And there may end up being similarities at
some point, but how will you ever know unless you go through with the
attempt?

Everyone is different. Every situation is different. No one can
guarantee that "this time it will work" -- wouldn't that be nice to have
-- but don't base too much of your thinking on this one, on the past
ones.

Yeah, there's a risk. There always is.

But it COULD turn out to be really, truly, totally worth it. And that's
not something you should easily let go of.

Can you imagine, if you don't give it a shot, and then 10 years down the
road, you're sitting there thinking, "Why didn't I -- I should have...."
And that's a bad way to end up....

wisper, love is always worth it, but (love)
for a man has to be real love girl, if you are going to meet someone,
and date the person and get to know him, and see if it works, and then
maybe there will be a relationship, that doesn't necessarily means that
is love yet, passion desire exitment and other feelings are involved,
and time will tell if it is love
my suggestion to you is, that if you was hurt before, be careful now so
you wont get hurt again, get to know him good and date him first to see
what happens, what's for you, will be for you girl
and there is no dough about that!!!

Your right Mike, it is funny how that is. Would be nice if it was though
would take the stress out of it. That's for sure...lol


Lex. Thank you. Your advice is great. You always seem to know just what
to say.

nice superman logo pic whisper

Thanks Morena. This is making me feel a bit better. I think I am just
getting cold feet like Lex was saying and am starting to question
myself.


And Thank you Romme.

I was married for 37 years, my wife passed away 2 years ago. Love is
definately worth all the trouble, pain etc. I wouldn't have missed it
for the world.

With out love what is there?

Yes it is worth it...

LANTZ

To really know love would be a two way street. You have to give as much
as you take so to the question, is it worth it hmmm my answer
"sometimes"

Well said Garden, to have known it, is to believe in it.

Garden, well spoken. Love extends beyond the grave. 10yrs. this May &
still miss her like it was yesterday. YES love is worth all the
pain/tears/heart breaks that come with it. Please let me go thru it
again.

Whisper, Take it from someone who knows, true love is worth everything
that you go through. I have told the whole site about my life of abuse,
after I got out of that marriage, I was so afraid to get involved with
anyone again. But I have found someone, and I did alot of talking to
everyone about this and I got alot of excellent advice.

But what I kept telling myself, how will I grow, and be happy with
another if I don't even try?

Yes, you can stay where you are with your walls up for protection,
there's nothing wrong with that, I have done it for 10 years. But you
will NEVER find the one that will make you weak in the knees if you do
not try another relationship.

WE grow and learn from pain, hurt, but we also grow from taking that
risk, it just might be worth it.

Whisper this such a cliche but.................................
I do believe it is better to have loved and lost than to never have
loved at all
A true intense, commited, loving, passionate, incredible, relationship
is sooooooooooo worth it...
Hang on tight girl, and keep positive thoughts,k

yes it is worth it if u give it a chance..i made a mistake by rushing
things b4, then it didnt work out..thats a big weakness with me,
rushing..well, i know if i meet the right guy,why rush? when we will
have the rest of our lives. then again i know people where they found
true love in a matter of weeks. this g/f of mine met this guy on line 8
months ago..they got married 4 months after they met..go figure..lol

Ohh whisper never doubt if love is worth it. Do we breath to live yes as
we live to love. Anytime you are making that big step there will always
be questions are we doing the right thing have I lost my mind or what
sometimes more so when it comes to the internet we are still scared of
who we are gonna meet and how will they really take me face to face?
Will the chemistry still be there? Is this really love? Is this really
worth all the pain of what could be? Ohh girl we all go through these
things but as some has said it is better to have loved then not to know
love at all! Girl when you step off that plane and after you first meet
them if the chemistry is there you will forget all those doubts of what
if's and will be so glad that you did not throw your hands up and decide
not to go through with it. You will see. For we must keep our dreams
alive for when you quit dreaming you quit living never give up on love
it will be the one thing that you will never forget for the rest of your
life even if there is pain in the end. Love is something we all crave
and want that special someone to love us the way we are inside and out
the true us.

I thank you all so much for your advice. It is bringing tears to my eyes
seeing how many people actuality do care. So I thank you.

((((hugs))))

(((((((((((((((((((((((whisper))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
back at ya girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

be like Nike..JUST DO IT!! Love is worth every risk, with out taking
risks you don't live...and Whisper Gurl, you have so much life in you so
go for it !!