To compliment or not to compliment... that is
the question.

Women tell us they want us to compliment them.

Your mom told you to be nice to girls, right?

And we guys like to really "turn up" the
compliments when we LIKE a woman...

But here's the question:

Do compliments create ATTRACTION when you first
meet a woman?

Most of the time the answer is NO.

I have a word for guys who like to give women
lots of compliments when they first meet her.

That word is WUSSY.
Here are the three that I'd like to address:

1) The idea that women LOVE to be complimented.

2) The idea that women spend all of their time and
energy getting ready and fixing themselves up
because they want compliments.

3) The difference between complimenting a
"special" girl and complimenting just ANY girl.

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you
read my commentary on this letter and these
different topics:

A) We humans (and I'm talking about women in
particular here) don't always REALIZE what we
REALLY want.

B) We humans don't like to admit what's REALLY
going on inside of us, because it can be
irrational and illogical.

C) It's very important to realize that there is a
CRITICAL difference between a girl you've just met
or have dated a few times and a SPECIAL girl in
your life.

So, let's talk about the topics individually...

THE IDEA THAT WOMEN LOVE TO BE COMPLIMENTED

Do women love to be complimented?

I think so.

In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE
women FEED off of attention and compliments. The
more attention and compliments they get, the
better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego
boost.

BUT... and it's a BUTTTTT bigger than J-Lo's,
this doesn't mean that a woman will feel ATTRACTED
to you if you give her compliments.

Attractive women get compliments in various
forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to
getting compliments, that's what they EXPECT.

As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an
attractive woman and say, "Wow, you're really
beautiful. I mean, you're like a goddess... are
you a model or an actress?" etc., the most LIKELY
response you're going to get is her giving you the
cold shoulder.

Why?

Because SHE GOT WHAT SHE NEEDED FROM YOU and
you showed her that you're JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER
guy out there that will worship her for her
physical beauty.

As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid
being mentally slotted into the "average" and
"like all the other guys" category at ALL COST.

too much time on your hands

i tried but, i couldnt read the whole thing.

"Double Your Dating" much?

whats your point.......did you join to school us....ill just wait for the book

I got a new profile edit today because of a compliment someone sent me. I started to joke with them because he said my profile needed an add...adorable. So me being silly me asked if I could use him for a reference. He said yes. I went and added it to my profile. He understood my sense of humor and very much got my attention...

another man that thinks he has women and dating figured out. GO FIGURE!!!

It sounds pretty much cut/pasted from a book ... good advice but just give us the book and post happy thoughts

It is...this is directly from David DeAngelo's self-help material, as I've noted in another topic...

they should have a club for those guys...

By the way, we ladies are not STUPID, we can tell a genuine compliment from a "turned up" one... The "turned up" ones get the same attention that the "you're sexy" "you're hot" "you're pretty" get which is a great big "C-YA"

i always received compliments and appreciate them i usaully like to be complicated in a nice way unless i know the person enopugh to jokingly talk naughty

agree seems to work??? and never buy drinks for woman you do not know.

I like giving and receiving compliments.
I sweet talk....
it just makes the days much more pleasant

What if she wants to BUY you a drink???

not again...

I agree, I can almost always tell the diffrence.

i love to give compliments....however, sometimes its taken the wrong way....

I met my last date in the parking lot of Starbucks.....After she pulled up in her car and got out i commented, "I like your bumper!....it spreads out real nicely"...she then got back in her car & drove off!!!

Now what was that about?