you can have all the looks in the world..but if the light switch isnt on whats the point

I mean and the truth of the matter is in some coltures the fattest people are the most powerful and ugliness is a sign of battles fought and won... So, at the end of the day if you don't consider me attractive you probably don't know me... cuz where i'm lacking in looks I make up for it in all other areas I'ld like to think.....

nope, date the ones you find to be attractive

Rosie O'Donells girlfriend proves this point....

AMEN!

I never said that, but if that is the sole reason you date someone i think it is wrong

I wouldn't say that dating someone just for looks is wrong, but I would say it is very unwise.

i won't give people the time of day if i don't think they are intelligent. that might be worse.....

Oh absolutely not... But you have to have attraction before you can go anywhere else..

nope, date the ones you find to be attractive


Nope. Just saying...just because you don't find someone attractive from the first second, the "omg..I've got to get in his bed, he's absolutely YUMMY!" doesn't mean that they arn't attractive. Just not in the way you thought. And looks fade. If it's just a physical attraction...that will fade too. Part of the reason people get cheated on (or cheat) is because it was purely physical to begin with...no foundation to stand on...as that attraction fades, so does the reason to stay with that person. So people cheat...looking for the next attraction. But if you date/marry someone you have a strong emotional attraction to and develop a physical attraction to...that's a relationship that's been put on a solid foundation that will last through the ages. :)

IMO, judging people solely by their appearance - ESPECIALLY a photograph online - is setting yourself up for failure at least 50% of the time. I mean, let's face it, some people just aren't photogenic, but look amazing in person -- and I've heard enough stories about people who appeared one way in photos here and were the complete opposite when the time came to meet, to scare even the bravest soul.

In fact, just last night I noticed a profile with the same photo as one I'd seen on a DIFFERENT username in my inbox awhile back ... hmmm, good thing I didn't jump all over it based on 'appearances'. It's one piece of the puzzle, no doubt about it, but if you start there and don't move beyond it - in most cases it'll be a dead end long term.

I'm with you here, I haven't found a lot of those....

It's just that attraction is based on so much more than looks, and even looks are subject to the eye of the beholder. But LOOKS alone should hopefully not be the only basis in order to see if there's a true attraction or connection.

imagine those that use the blue boxes... don't they all begin to look alike after a while

see, if you find someone attractive that is good, but i can not stand people who won't pay attention to someone society doesn't deem attractive, i mean hell there are many people i find gorgeous theat society says is not and there are many people society says is gorgeous that i don't find attractive b/c a pretty face and a bad attitude is about the worst combonation one could have..

look at celebs for instance most of the "hot ones" are complete disaterpieces (their are exceptions) and the not so pretty ones are the ones who keep going strong...

Attraction is complicated. But I agree, it's not all about looks. At least I hope it's not.