What makes you think that there is a perfect one or soulmate?
Is it this disney land ideal that everything will be perfect and that's why people give up? I don't get it.

I'm Good Enough, I'm Smart Enough and Doggone It, People Like Me,

Dont believe there is a perfect one (no such thing as a perfect anyone), do believe there is someone just for me (to some that may be a soulmate).

Not sure why you would believe in the ideal that everything would ever be perfect, as it's the slight imperfections we all have that make life and living interesting.

People give up because they feel they have nothing to gain, nothing to give, or it's not for them.

Good luck

this i know to be true, for i are one of those people

jt - what would be so fun with perfect? it's everything in between perfect that makes us strong and builds our character. finding chemistry is much more real than finding perfect.

my mother used to say there was only one perfect person on this earth...and he was crucified

JT, I'm not looking for perfect, just not 100% FLAWED!!!
God knows I hope you have a blessed day!!!

Got that ringt!!

i was not!!!

as my profile says... I am not looking for a perfect person, just someone who is perfect for me... since I know I have flaws it would be unfair and unrealistic to expect someone else to not have any flaws

I'm just looking for a man I can be happy with.

The person that fits me just right is my soulmate, even if his imperfections are why we fit.

Personally, I am looking for a woman who is a train wreck. Oh yeah....I want drama in my life 24-7, with little happiness. Hey.....a guy can dream can't he?

I don't think there is such thing as perfection in a mate. There is compatability, respect, passion, understanding and friendship, but not perfection. What a daunting and depressive idea to think others might possibly be seeking that!

To find a person who understands you and is not selfish.... the one who shares a similar life view with values and morals that are in line with yours... that is what I seek.

There is nothing Disneyland-ish about that. Well, wait. Relationships are a lot like amusement parks though.... there is a lot of waiting, a lot of unpleasant things, but the purpose is to have a good time together and share in the experiences of life. After each period of wait, there are thrills and laughs and excitement. It is the entire experience though, the ups and downs and lines and expensive purchases that you just have to make....and rollercoasters.... you look back and remember those memories, and your remember you went through it together and tried to have the most fun you could.

All this is well and good. I guess I am more refering to the people that I have seen post on here that talk about finding that perfect one. My experience is that you find someone you get along with and you have to actually work to make it work. It fails when the other gives up.
I have met and seen too many people that expect as in many of profile titles "looking for prince charming" I guess I am sorry but I don't think Brad Pitt and george clooney are comming to their door. Just as I'm not getting any supermodels. It seems a lot of people want some ideal when ideals are intangable. It just bothers me cause I'm a **** and am tired of reading it. I'm done ranting, sorry if I offended anyone. As an ugly guy it's rough out there. Maybe I am just jealous of the others.

that's right, lol...me, too

JT..... no offense here but your posts, overall, present you as a very angry and bitter guy who is not at all optimistic about dating right now.

You might want to consider taking a break and just hang here and make some friends, at least 'til you get rewired and centered.

JT I hope you are feeling better from your posts in the depression forum. I read what you are going thru and I'm sorry to hear that. I know meds are expensive. Did you ever contact some of the places we suggested?

After you have been there, you'll understand.
Took Columbus to prove the world was round.
Many didn't believe that either.